1. "Speaking as someone without kids," In response to Reply # 0
Kick my child off the team. Make me responsible for his immediate departure from the trip. If I have to max out a credit card in the process, that’s another reason I’m gonna be in his shit. But, beating with a shoe/weapon? Several steps too far.
legsdiamond Member since May 05th 2011 82574 posts
Sat Jun-07-25 10:15 AM
15. "lotta Bob Knight fans in here" In response to Reply # 6
**************** TBH the fact that you're even a mod here fits squarely within Jag's narrative of OK-sanctioned aggression, bullying, and toxicity. *shrug*
I came across a vid of my son’s grt uncle beating him with a belt for 9minutes straight. Got the cops involved and they claimed they couldn’t find him. If I ever see him again…on sight.
On another note I was okay with a long time sensei, with my permission and in my view, giving a couple if pops to my son’s behind with a flex stick.
I don’t think the coach ment vicious harm like my son’s grt uncle but I doubt the parents gave any permission and they were not present or aware until the video was shown. Its a no for me based on that.
8. "that's the problem. when does it become more than bs?" In response to Reply # 7
who decides when it's ok to hit the kid? it's too subjective.I don't want someone making that call at their discretion.
now he's out of a job and who knows what else may be on line for the coach.
I don't know what level of engagement the kids were having and agree that it's just wrong to have girls in the room on a trip, but hitting the kid with a shoe wasn't the right move.
>who decides when it's ok to hit the kid? it's too >subjective.I don't want someone making that call at their >discretion.
I do. > >now he's out of a job and who knows what else may be on line >for the coach. > >I don't know what level of engagement the kids were having and >agree that it's just wrong to have girls in the room on a >trip, but hitting the kid with a shoe wasn't the right move.
I feel you, and that's why in general one shouldn't touch other people's kids because you never know where that line is drawn. I wouldn't recommend this course of action, I'm just saying given what I know had it been MINE I woulda jumped in his face and made him feel the wrath, but I wouldn't have tried to hurt him on sight.
9. "here's my thing. they're MY kids for a reason" In response to Reply # 0
I raised them, support them, go through the struggle and frustration with them. So I've always been very conscious to not even TALK to my kids a certain way around most others, not because I'm afraid of judgment or "being reported," but simply, I don't need ANYONE else THINKING they have the right to engage with them in that manner.
We're gonna have problems and we're gonna have a lot. Hit ME with your shoe coach, let's see how that goes.
legsdiamond Member since May 05th 2011 82574 posts
Sat Jun-07-25 08:51 AM
10. "on a college tour they searched a student from Cali" In response to Reply # 0
because a girl woke up on the bus and said she he stole $20 from her.
Dude started crying from the humiliation. Shit was traumatic and embarrassing. Mind you, its a Black college tour, we are all from Pittsburgh but 3 kids from LA flew over to take the tour and he was one of them.
She found the money shortly after.
I would be livid as a parent. Yell at them, send them home but don’t put your hands on them.
**************** TBH the fact that you're even a mod here fits squarely within Jag's narrative of OK-sanctioned aggression, bullying, and toxicity. *shrug*
legsdiamond Member since May 05th 2011 82574 posts
Sat Jun-07-25 10:14 AM
14. "this is a “you don’t have kids yet” post" In response to Reply # 11
cause aint no fucking way.
**************** TBH the fact that you're even a mod here fits squarely within Jag's narrative of OK-sanctioned aggression, bullying, and toxicity. *shrug*
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