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@geahuwine

Damn, is this mic still on? Good to see this post is still going. Haven't been on OKP in years.

Confession: Lost a good job, divorced and came close to losing my life since the last time I posted here.

Couldn't be better. Thanks for asking.

“So back we go to these questions — friendship, character… ethics.”

they asked me to mentor a second kid

he’s white

Gonna teach him that the Black man is God.

lol

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TBH the fact that you're even a mod here fits squarely within Jag's narrative of OK-sanctioned aggression, bullying, and toxicity. *shrug*

--
Sometimes you have to look reality in the face and say 'No!'
-Ben (Reaper)

If you need any help, don't. Hesitate to ask.

fr...wonder what people here think of ideas to send kids to stay a week with families of different races/backgrounds. theory being... a lot of racism/prejudice is rooted in lack of exposure. send 3rd grade white kids to live with black families, might them less likely to be 30 year old racists. seems like decent idea on paper. but dunno how it'd actually go down.

it literally doesn't matter where that somewhere is

www.engadgethd.com - the other stuff i'm looking at

>they asked me to mentor a second kid
>
>he’s white
>
>Gonna teach him that the Black man is God.
>
>lol

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i will not let finite disappointment undermine infinite hope
- Cory Booker

Football is a simple game; 22 men chase a ball for 90 minutes, and at the end the Germans always win
- Gary Lineker

peace

J305
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People of color are NOT a minority. Think Global.

Don't Let Hollywood fool you.

http://www.twitter.com/Jtronic
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PHEW!

--- praying for peace, love, and power

It used to be exciting... all that potential energy. Hollering at women. Hanging with a crew. Dope spots with dope music. Getting flyers at one spot and going to take a look. Early 20s were the peak for meeting people. Spots just packed with people looking like a 90s R&B video. Out hunting for my future queen, lol.


I still go out now to go dancing with my lady, and it's actually more fun now, just not as random and the parties with good music & age-appropriate crowds don't come around as often. Also prefer day parties over late nights & after hours now.

because it was cheap af. That place was the shit.

Sweating and dancing hard af.

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TBH the fact that you're even a mod here fits squarely within Jag's narrative of OK-sanctioned aggression, bullying, and toxicity. *shrug*

and my boss is like “damn, you make it sound like a person died”

nigga, we didnt have a car payment. A part of us DID die yesterday.

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TBH the fact that you're even a mod here fits squarely within Jag's narrative of OK-sanctioned aggression, bullying, and toxicity. *shrug*

Might be cheaper to fix it (if it doesn't involve engine work) than replace it.

need a whole new engine

aint worth it to keep putting thousands into a 2011

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TBH the fact that you're even a mod here fits squarely within Jag's narrative of OK-sanctioned aggression, bullying, and toxicity. *shrug*

taking it in next wed.

regardless, its time so we will be shopping this weekend but would be nice to sell this car when it isn’t in limp mode.

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while we may have a case worth fighting for, paying insurance on that thing prolly isn’t worth it since it takes so long to fight for an engine.

Already replaced the car so sold it for parts or should I say, we donated that shit.

We got a good 10 years out or it. Just relieved it died close to the crib and not on a road trip.

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...I'm from the era when A.I. was the answer, now they think ai is the answer - Marlon Craft

oil consumption/bearing failure.

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leaving early today?
coming in late tomorrow?
is it spring break?

first off, fuck outta here nigga, it aint your company or your business on when I come and go.

acting like leaving an hour early or 15 minutes early is stealing.

dude even said “if the boss leaves early the accountant will leave like 5 minutes earlier EVERY TIME”

nigga??? You can leave too if you want and when you do leave early for a haircut or some bullshit no one gives a shit.

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TBH the fact that you're even a mod here fits squarely within Jag's narrative of OK-sanctioned aggression, bullying, and toxicity. *shrug*

Don't leave your computer unlocked, because he's gonna be all in your browser history.

Someone: "Anyone seen Lex?"
Dude: "Yeah, I saw him go into the bathroom like five minutes ago. He must be taking a shit."

peaking at phones and shit

we always lock our computers. Its a rule since its cyber.

I’m leaving early the rest of the week. He’s gonna be mad af.

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TBH the fact that you're even a mod here fits squarely within Jag's narrative of OK-sanctioned aggression, bullying, and toxicity. *shrug*

>leaving early today?
>coming in late tomorrow?
>is it spring break?
>
>first off, fuck outta here nigga, it aint your company or your
>business on when I come and go.
>
>acting like leaving an hour early or 15 minutes early is
>stealing.
>
>dude even said “if the boss leaves early the accountant will
>leave like 5 minutes earlier EVERY TIME”
>
>nigga??? You can leave too if you want and when you do leave
>early for a haircut or some bullshit no one gives a shit.
>
>

My resume and credentials are impressive. They have been for a long time at this point.
But that’s never stopped anyone from calling me up and going 8 mile on me during an interview and even often times in the work place once hired.
It is exhausting. But the dude today actually listened to me explain concepts and processes and even had follow up questions to further flesh things out for insight.

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“There is no fate that cannot be surmounted by scorn.” -Albert Camus

If I didn't already know that there was a presidential election in seven months, I wouldn't know it from the (admittedly little) media that I'm exposed to.

Not even doom-and-gloom "We gotta stop Trump!" energy.


Feels like there's gonna be some sort of plot twist coming soon.

>If I didn't already know that there was a presidential
>election in seven months, I wouldn't know it from the
>(admittedly little) media that I'm exposed to.
>
>Not even doom-and-gloom "We gotta stop Trump!" energy.
>
>
>Feels like there's gonna be some sort of plot twist coming
>soon.

https://www.cbs8.com/article/news/local/99-cents-only-to-close-all-locations/509-e23f5dbe-c385-4cd9-a47b-a764dcbb2a7d

I mean everything is no longer 99 cents, but it was still fund digging through all the crap.

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Gone: My Discogs collection for The Roots:
http://www.discogs.com/user/tomhayes-roots/collection

--
Sometimes you have to look reality in the face and say 'No!'
-Ben (Reaper)

If you need any help, don't. Hesitate to ask.

I once almost fought a dude twice my size for fucking with her. Fortunately got broken up before he pummeled me into a coma, but thanks to the intervention I came out of it looking pretty good.

There was an opening I never took, and she got with someone less 'shy', so friendzone city from there throughout hs

reconnected on Facebook years later but tbh we didn't interact much, but she was doing great, became an indy filmmaker, and good god aged better than anyone I've ever known.she looked amazing

now she's fucking stage 4.

I found out 2 days ago another friend had passed in January. This one hit me hard because evwn though it had been forever we were really close for a few years

Fuck cancer, man

If you are going to have nice sunglasses, why not have a pair that can take pictures, take calls and listen to music?

I don't think everyone will be walking around with AR headsets but these features on sunglasses could become standard.


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"Everyone has a plan until you punch them in the face. Then they don't have a plan anymore." (c) Mike Tyson

"what's a leader if he isn't reluctant"

I said if healthy and in little pain I could see myself going another 35 to 40 years

She said she is good with another 20 years

Nigga. I told her she gotta come up on those years or fucking tap out quicker than 20 years. Fuck that. Either rock with me or die early enough for a nigga to find someone else while I can still do some things

We had a good laugh.

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TBH the fact that you're even a mod here fits squarely within Jag's narrative of OK-sanctioned aggression, bullying, and toxicity. *shrug*

told him that dude was a fraud and couldn’t be trusted

the other day he says “yeah, so turns out he also wanted to fire me too and bring my wife (she used to work for us) over to work with him”

gotdamn savage

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buddy was scheming

<--- Big Baller World Order

I warned him that dude was a fucking liar.

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I'm trying to find apartments with inclusionary/low income zoning and it's impossible.

But this place is $590 a month but man, it does look like a Prison: https://www.srolivingsandiego.com/

https://www.trulia.com/building/golden-west-apartments-720-4th-ave-san-diego-ca-92101-2079674139?mid=0#lil-mediaTab

They want $1,000 deposit. I am asking him to go look at the place, he has an appoint tomorrow. But I might go down tonight say at 8pm and see what it's like.

Also trying to get them to come down on the deposit.

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Gone: My Discogs collection for The Roots:
http://www.discogs.com/user/tomhayes-roots/collection

but its wild how they have 3 photos of the building/room and 20 photos of the street.

community bathrooms?

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TBH the fact that you're even a mod here fits squarely within Jag's narrative of OK-sanctioned aggression, bullying, and toxicity. *shrug*

I found a Reddit thread on it, it doesn’t sound great:

https://www.reddit.com/r/sandiego/s/ZJiwviH3j9

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Gone: My Discogs collection for The Roots:
http://www.discogs.com/user/tomhayes-roots/collection

At least that's what I've heard people call them here in Philly. A house that one can rent rooms out of, usually weekly for like $100-!$125. Shared bathroom(s) & kitchen, as well as porch, yard and whatever else is there.

Probably not *too* bad if the people living there are overall good people, and he isn't an introvert. Definitely something to think of as temporary, but it is also a roof with a bed, hot water & a kitchen so it's better than a lot of alternatives.

The type of people he'd be sharing intimate space with is crucial tho.

Edit:It's not a house, it's a HOTEL that was converted. I don't think there is any kitchen, you get a room and shared a bathroom with the entire floor. Not sure how many bathrooms per floor, or if it's like a gym bathroom or what.

A charity in town paid for his deposit AND first month's rent.

I plan on going down tomorrow and looking at it.

I think we can get him a mini fridge and a microwave for under $100 both used.

Not sure how he'll get internet.

I have a PC monitor I can give him so he can plug his Xbox into. He has headphones. He can browse web and watch streaming on the Xbox once he gets Internet.

So unless the place has a ton of break ins, or it's horribly unsafe he's got a base of operations until we can get him low income housing.

I call him after work and see if he needs blankets/pillows - I have extras.

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Gone: My Discogs collection for The Roots:
http://www.discogs.com/user/tomhayes-roots/collection

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TBH the fact that you're even a mod here fits squarely within Jag's narrative of OK-sanctioned aggression, bullying, and toxicity. *shrug*

I know you're mostly joking, and the idea of having video games means someone is lazy, but for him it is not.

He has been receiving SSI income for almost 30 years becuase he is manic-depressive. He is currently taking medication, and has been for most of the 30 years.

When he gets into a depressed state he simply does not leave his bed for days. So he CAN'T work - he literally will not go to work or call work - he is *not* reliable in any way.

That's why he's on SSI. They don't love giving that out to single guys in their 20s.

Apart from that he has NO HUSTLE. You'd think that when he wasn't depressed he might try to get some extra money somehow - like day work but he doesn't.

So he plays Xbox *literally* 12 hours or more a day. A $60 game can occupy him for WEEKS. Like it cost 10 cents an hour to play it. It is all he does.

He's not dumb, but he definitely needs some sort of institutionalization or support or he'll end up right back on the street.

He had spent his entire $1100 by the 17th and when I asked on what he was non responsive about it. I know it wasn't rent. It wasn't video games - I have his Xbox. It wasn't bills. I doubt he ate $1100 of fast food - or bought $1100 of weed in 2 weeks.

Maybe he got robbed? Maybe he got conned? Maybe he is smoking crack now??

Since his rent is paid for 30 days I'm worried he might spend his money on other stuff and miss rent when it is due on the 22nd of nect month.

Update:
He's in room now. He told me the place has bedbugs. I said to talk to management.

He responded "They had a whole cadre here within an hour of my report. First an inspection, then a spray, now they are doing something to my door. They use heat treatments to insure eradication too."

I'll bet he brought in bed bugs on some of his stuff - I hope he did. That way they can eradicated them quickly - if the whole place has them it'll be bad.



Added:
I'm worried about burglary too but people live there for years, so people have TVs and xboxes. I'm going to buy a used 1080P TV at the thrift store for him, and a used mini fridge and a used microwave. Probably cost $100. We'll smuggle in the X-box - but anyone going to rob him will do it even if he has no Xbox. And Xbox isn't worth nearly as much as PS5 for resell.

I think about his situation a lot - it is seriously stressing me out a lot. But it's not a problem I can solve other than to give him at least $1000 a month and maybe put *my* name on a lease - and I'm not going to do that.

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Gone: My Discogs collection for The Roots:
http://www.discogs.com/user/tomhayes-roots/collection

I wouldn’t buy that nigga anything besides food and clothing

and cant work or wont work?

is the plan to stay there forever?

I wasn’t joking at all. An Xbox at a place like that? If he lost 1100 dollars best believe that Xbox will end up missing and he wont know where it went.

I have a cousin who begs on FB on the daily. My older cousin wants to punch her in the face every time she sees her. Got like 5 kids.. and her 5 kids have like 12 kids.. come to find out, my cousin gets 4800 a month in disabilities. I heard that and EYE wanted to leg sweep her ass.

got another cousin who just spent 80,000 in 14 months and has nothing to show for it. Didnt even use any of it to buy her son a headstone.

I loathe these types and cant help them. fuck that, why care more about their life than they do?

Rant over..

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TBH the fact that you're even a mod here fits squarely within Jag's narrative of OK-sanctioned aggression, bullying, and toxicity. *shrug*

>I wouldn’t buy that nigga anything besides food and
>clothing

I think buying a TV, fridge and microwave from Craigslist with all 3 combined costing $100-$150 is fine. (Frankly I make a lot more money than I spend - so a few hundred dollars every few months doesn't impact me in a big way. I certainly don't relish it - my money needs to go into the bank so *I* don't become homeless.)


>and cant work or wont work?

*Can't work* - it's a disease in his case - a mental disease but not just him being lazy. If you had an employee who got depressed and didn't call into work or come in you'd fire him QUICK like. That's why he gets disability - he actually can't work.

>is the plan to stay there forever?

I hope not, but what else can he do? Getting on Section 8 in San Diego *literally* takes 10 years. https://www.sandiegocounty.gov/content/sdc/sdhcd/rental-assistance/update-application.html

I hope he can find better low income housing - but he's never going to be able to get much more money and $1100 a month doesn't get an apartment and food in Mississippi-- much less San Diego.

>I wasn’t joking at all. An Xbox at a place like that? If he
>lost 1100 dollars best believe that Xbox will end up missing
>and he wont know where it went.

Yeah, could be. But if keeps the door locked and no one breaks the door down then he has a shot at keeping it. A used Xbox is worth about $350 so it's definitely a target but not like if he had jewelry or cash. I'm advising him to bring it in a suitcase and not tell people about it.

>I have a cousin who begs on FB on the daily. My older cousin
>wants to punch her in the face every time she sees her. Got
>like 5 kids.. and her 5 kids have like 12 kids.. come to find
>out, my cousin gets 4800 a month in disabilities. I heard that
>and EYE wanted to leg sweep her ass.

My friend doesn't beg - and only gets $1140 a month. That's $13k a year to live in San Diego on. Median rent in San Diego is $2500 a month. I kind of wish he begged but he has no one - no family at all.


>I loathe these types and cant help them. fuck that, why care
>more about their life than they do?
>
>Rant over..

I definitely know people like you describe - he's just not one of those. It'd be way easier if he was - I just stop being his friend and move on.

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Gone: My Discogs collection for The Roots:
http://www.discogs.com/user/tomhayes-roots/collection

Product marketing, he can do something. He chooses not to.
At least 80% of the working class are not thrilled about leaving their bed to go to work, but most of us understand the consequences of not getting up and out to get something.

Until the day a person is unable to leave their bed to feed themselves for days and die, there’s no disease.

I picked him up and bought him to Best Buy and bought a mini fridge/freezer and a small microwave at Best Buy. I also ordered a T-Mobile 5g home internet device too.

The place is OLD, 1913 old.
It is *clean* and there was a security guard in the lobby.
I met/saw maybe 20 residents. It seems like it's just people without money - I didn't see anything illicit or shady going on - but it was 5pm maybe the shady folks were still asleep?

The location is great: It's on 4th and G which is the corner of Horton Plaza and in the heart of the Gaslamp district. Easy walk to Comic-con. TONS of shopping and food around. (No movie theatres at all downtown anymore though.)

We showed up and unloaded the fridge thinking we'd have to carry it stairs. A man who was smoking a Meerschaum pipe saw us and said "Hey, I'll get the hand cart" and went and got us the hand cart/dolly. We thanked him and started toward the stairs.

He said "Why not take the freight elevator?" My friend had no idea there was one, so we headed to it. An elderly man who was using a chair-walker was already on it but welcomes us on.

We went to the second floor and the interior smelled of a heavy mixture of Lysol and someone cooking hamburgers. No trash to be seen - very clean and very old feeling.

Went to his room and it's is SMALL. It could probably hold a king size mattress and a desk chair -if you didn't mind not being able to open the door.)

Ceiling is high, and it has a ceiling fan and a smoke detector. Windows have retractable plastic blinds and the windows do open.

The twin bed mattress didn't seem great, but much better than sleeping in a tent on the street.

We unpacked the fridge and microwave. There's 2 electrical boxes with a total of 4 outlets, but I'll just get a power strip for him.

I set-up the T-mobile internet and it is BLAZING FAST on the speed test. Like 680Mbps down and 110Mbps up. $50 a month flat - no equipment cost - no contract. 15 day free trail and $200 cash back if you keep service for 60 days. It'll be effectively $34 a month for the first year.

He's by the stairs and there was a very loud guy upstairs talking to someone and we heard shouts of "She's a bald head!" and other random claptrap. Hopefully it's quieter at night.

His cat was suspicious of me, but seemed in great health.

I used a toilet near the freight elevator - it was simply a toilet - no sink. All rooms have sinks.

There's a shower area and bigger bathroom but I didn't go see them - but my friend says they are clean.

He's going to buy a giant TV (cost like $400 or less) but in the meantime I offered my old 32" monitor. I'll probably help him move some of his things from my storage area to his place this weekend.

So for $600 a month he's indoors, has a fridge/microwave, utilities paid, fast internet. Seems old and clean and filled with people who are just poor and living their lives.

Next challenge: Getting him a "better' place with low-income housing.

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Gone: My Discogs collection for The Roots:
http://www.discogs.com/user/tomhayes-roots/collection

I picked him up so he could get some stuff out of my storage area, like his XBox and his clothes.

When he gets in my car he has some electronic cases, because he doesn't have renter's insurance yet and didn't want to leave them behind for fear of a break-ins. I notice he has some Harmon Kardon headphones and he tells me how GREAT they sound and how he'll never use earbuds again. Not sure which ones they are but he says the cost like $100.

He also says he ordered a TV. He wanted the Hisense U7K https://www.hisense-usa.com/televisions/hisense-55-u7-series-mini-led-uled-4k-google-tv-55u7k . It retails for $499 but it's been sold out for months - I think they stopped making it.

He bought a "refurbished" on from a seller on Amazon (not Amazon itself) for $449 and then got an extended warranty for $60 - and it won't ship until the 14th. So he paid more for a refurbished TV than new - but with a warranty. Seems like a stupid decision to me - but I tell myself - "it is his money." (I think he should have bought $200 TV and banked a little money.)

So we go to my house and he packs up some stuff and I loan him my Dell 32" monitor until his TV comes in.

We head back to his place. I notice he has another portable electronic case that looks like it's for a Switch. I ask "Did you get a Switch?"

Turns out it's an Rog Ally portable Windows Gaming PC - like a Steamdeck. I know those cost between $400 and $600 depending when you bought it and the options. (He never seems to buy the cheapest.)

I stopped asking question - *but man I am pissed. *

Because if he had that BEFORE he was evicted he should have sold it to pay for a fucking hotel or toward a room.

But if he bought it AFTER he got evicted then I've been worrying about him and he's blowing his fucking money on handheld gaming system that I don't even buy for myself because of cost. I suspect he bought it last month after some dude let him stay in a spare room for 2 weeks, and that's why he had no money last month after the 14th.

So I realize that 1)He's a dumbass extreme and 2)His manic phase might account for some of the behavior - but I'm personally over his shit. He's not a blood relative so I don't have to deal with any of this if I don't want to.

To recap: He has the smallest room possible in a pretty depressing place but all he cares about are video games and electronics. So if he has $500 a month in cash after rent that he's going to spend $500 a month on shit like this and he's not going to try to get a better place to live or save a single cent for emergencies.

I gave him at least $600 in cash in the last 2 months and he has a $600 handheld OLED video game system.

Plus I know he's smoking a ton of weed - that's not exactly cheap either.

His birthday and my mom's are 1 day apart so I'll still take him along for the annual The Cheesecake Factory dinner my mom wants - but he's not getting any more money from me and in 6 months I'm going to make him for for the Internet or cancel it.

He has proven himself right, living the way he is he's been able to do whatever he wants for all but 6 weeks of his life - when he was on the street in a tent. So this is working for him.

I have to learn to say "Fuck it, he's made his decisions and if they are stupid and he's on the street it's his problem only."

I see our friendship dwindling - we are too different now.

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Gone: My Discogs collection for The Roots:
http://www.discogs.com/user/tomhayes-roots/collection

he’s running game. I know you say he is depressed but he is prolly depressed from smoking weed all day and not being able to get past level 35 of Minecraft or some shit.

Not trying to be insensitive but dudes who say I can’t work to keep a roof over their head but can work YOU for your hard earned money don’t get any sympathy from me.

lmao at spending rent money on video games and weed.

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TBH the fact that you're even a mod here fits squarely within Jag's narrative of OK-sanctioned aggression, bullying, and toxicity. *shrug*

>Not trying to be insensitive but dudes who say I can’t work
>to keep a roof over their head but can work YOU for your hard
>earned money don’t get any sympathy from me.

I mean disabled has an actual meaning, and he's been diagnosed as severely bi-polar
https://www.healthline.com/health/bipolar-disorder/is-bipolar-a-disability#:~:text=The%20Americans%20with%20Disabilities%20Act,if%20you%20can\'t%20work.


>lmao at spending rent money on video games and weed.
Yes, this park is INSANE to me. His doctor might say it's a part of being bipolar - but it's a bridge too far for even me.

If he was living in a tent and then someone invited him to stay at their house for 2 weeks so he felt he could spend $500+ on a video game system - that seems more than bi-polar to me. It seems stupid.

If he plays his cards right he'll just live in that small room for the rest of his life and have enough to buy video games and weed.

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Gone: My Discogs collection for The Roots:
http://www.discogs.com/user/tomhayes-roots/collection

Probably keeps him from spazzing out, or getting all depressed, etc.

I agree about the video games tho, that's just escapism/a distraction from reality.

but I’m not against smoking weed

I’m against smoking so much weed you cant do anything but play video games all day.

Not even dismissing his disorder, but I think anyone who smokes knew a few people who chose weed over work.

If he said dude just sits in a corner all day or is zombied out due to medication then sure but this dude is buying the finest weeds and using his brain to solve digital puzzles using hand eye coordination and shit.

He is also finessing the fuck outta handle while doing it.

That man has an amazing work ethic at avoiding work and paying bills.

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TBH the fact that you're even a mod here fits squarely within Jag's narrative of OK-sanctioned aggression, bullying, and toxicity. *shrug*

Last month he had spent *all* of his money by the 18th and I didn't talk to him from May 20th until June 5th.

Basically I wrote an email saying we have been friends for 35+ years, and I love him, but his situation is stressing me the fuck out and we can't really talk about only bad things anymore - that's not really a friendship.

He tells me that spending all of his money early is fine now because as long as on the 1st he pays rent that he's set because it includes electricity, water, etc. I told him that's fine but if he needs $100 on the 18th because he split his pants and has $0 money until the 1st that he can't ask me for money or even really tell me about the bad stuff that is solvable with money - because I'm not a charity - I am his friend.

So he needs to call me and just bullshit about life, and pop culture and keep me out of the existential "I need a house" or "I'm 1000% broke and can't buy food" shit - unless it's a surprise like his building burns down or the big earthquake comes and makes his place un-liveable.

He called on the 5th (my birthday) and we talked about everything but him being so broke. I'll see how it goes in the future.

And he has bed bugs again - he thinks the place has bed bugs and roaches so he's pretty sure he didn't bring them in with him. It's hard to tell because shelters and places like he's staying at where people come in from shelters do have bed bugs.

I had an inspector to my house to look for bed bugs around May 25th just be be sure - I have no sign of bed bugs at all.


In other news homeless in California is really hitting the 50 year old plus demographic hard now - and it super hard on the black population. (This friend is white, but my other friend who has been living for free with his friend is black and will be kicked out in October.)

https://calbudgetcenter.org/resources/the-rise-of-homelessness-among-californias-older-adults/

The above link describes my white disabled friend situation to a tee, and probably my black friend's future condition.

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Gone: My Discogs collection for The Roots:
http://www.discogs.com/user/tomhayes-roots/collection

I have friends who are mentally ill and it is so frustrating dealing with them at times. But, know you are doing something really worthwhile, even if it seems naive.

But, I want to say that its important to draw firm boundaries with people like your "friend." Just because their needs are too much for us laypeople to handle. Your friend really needs some form of therapy besides video games and better meds. Both things that you aren't trained to provide.

I also want to suggest you reach out to an organization named NAMI. They provide support groups and other training to people who care for people with mental health conditions (the new term for the mentally ill).

I do some work for NAMI in LA, but the San Diego chapter is known nationwide for its services.

Just a suggestion...

<--- Me when my head hits the pillow

My mom is on my phone plan and it only costs me $20 a month to have her on it. I tell her do not give me money but then she'll randomly stick an envelope in my wife purse with some cash in it for me.

Last weekend she did that and wrote "my cell phone bill for the year" on it.

FFWD a couple days later. I NEVER carry cash, my schedules tight, I'm carrying around this envelope from the gym twice a day to work etc. no time to take it by the bank.

I had it in the same pocket as my cell and when I pulled my phone out in the gym as i left the locker room it must have fell out. Didn't realize it until I got to work like 20mins later.

I'm killin' myself initially over it, but chalk it up to someone needed it more than me, I'm going to keep it moving. My wife felt the same and didn't make me feel bad about it. I made peace with it.

Today my mom says on the phone as I'm pulling up to the gym at lunch "Don't drop anything important". I didn't know what to say and she said sorry, I shouldn't joke about that but it kinda hurt. I felt awful as it was and she knew it. Now my days ruined all over.

I lost $100 like six months ago. Had it in the back pocket of my jeans, five 20s. Went to get it and it was gone. Looked around outside where I knew I reached into my pockets and didn't see it. Still hoping it turns up in the house somewhere.

I once found a 20 that I lost almost two years later.

they redid the chimney and did a great job..

but they ghosted me on the kitchen ceiling. I'll try again but I guess they got better things to do.

I signed off on the quote but only paid for the chimney...

hopefully they respond because the quote is a great price.. lol

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TBH the fact that you're even a mod here fits squarely within Jag's narrative of OK-sanctioned aggression, bullying, and toxicity. *shrug*

Got tired of haggling over the size of my burrito EVERY TIME.

I get skimping on the meat, but I didn't even get meat on mine and they still skimped on the tofu. That little pat of rice they used to try and give me every time was like a slap in the face tho. Couldn't get past that.

Plus, it's more work but my homemade burritos are much better tasting & cheaper.

dirty muthafukkas.

I was hype for a second

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TBH the fact that you're even a mod here fits squarely within Jag's narrative of OK-sanctioned aggression, bullying, and toxicity. *shrug*

Shot in the head at close range.

He didn’t die or pass on. His life was taken from him.

I haven’t seen or heard from him in maybe a decade, a little less probably.

He embraced me when we first met and never looked back. He helped me feel welcome, like family. Whenever we would go visit that side of my wife’s family, we’d stay with his mom. I had the distinct honor of being her favorite of all her nephews. I know this because everyone knows this, because she told everyone. She passed two years ago.

And now he’s gone too. He got sidetracked in dope, street shit, got locked up for awhile, etc.

He got out awhile back but I don’t know when exactly. I know he had a shaky path trying to get his life on track.

But man. We had an instant bond. And I always felt that love, that family love, that helped me feel comfortable integrating completely. Even now, with the separation, this is still my family.

We had a few convos way back when and I let him know what that meant to me. I wish we had gotten to cross paths once more, just so I could remind him. I should have reached out when he was locked up, but out of sight I guess. Should have reached out after he got out, but too busy here in Cali I suppose.

I spent my Sunday giggling at BBL Drizzy, Drake memes, and texting friends about how Kendrick whooped Drakes ass. Tonight we find out he got killed.

It is what it is. That juxtaposition is sobering but I know how life goes.

But man this sucks.

-Sig-

“Why didn’t you do this in your own god damn country?"

-All Stah's view on undocumented immigrants wanting to be treated like human beings.

It reminds me to keep up my relationships with family that's out of state.

<--- Me when my head hits the pillow

...peak "artistry."

Personal shit, at that. Not even clever bars & jokes. Just who can win the shit-talking contest in the public forum.

All this shit is toxic AF.

we’ve lived in Nc for like 12 years which is the longest we have ever lived anywhere.

We used to love A LOT fresh out of college because its what you tend to do at a young age.

and while I do think it would be dope to live outside the US given the climate, she wont want to sell the house which means we aint got no real money to make that type of move.

or maybe I’m just older and more conservative when it comes to moving.

While Trump and the climate of the US is a reason, the real reason is hating her gig and I know when moves are made due to trying to escape life, you just end up in a new place with similar problems. Plus we got kids.

but again, maybe its me and it would be dope to live a slower laced life that isn’t based on capitalism and trying to spend your way to happiness.

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TBH the fact that you're even a mod here fits squarely within Jag's narrative of OK-sanctioned aggression, bullying, and toxicity. *shrug*

And by "leave" my job is voluntarily exit to avoid cuts to my team.

When I mistakenly framed it like leaving my job so people under me don't lose their job, she flipped.

But the truth is, I really am ready to go. If I get packaged out I can take some time for my own stuff and figure out what I want to do next.

I am about to meet with HR and I think the conversation may be either me or someone from my team has to be on the chopping block. At this very moment not sure how I am going to respond.


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"Everyone has a plan until you punch them in the face. Then they don't have a plan anymore." (c) Mike Tyson

"what's a leader if he isn't reluctant"