"Poll question: Asexuality: Is it a real thing?" Tue Sep-19-23 01:11 PM by Buddy_Gilapagos
I feel like one of the least talked about sexuality is lightweight having a moment, Asexuality.
I saw a recent episode of Big Mouth and they had a black character who was asexual and was trying to explain what it was like and truth is, I didn't fully buy the shows characterization of it, but then, never really seen much of a fulsome discussion around it.
Anyone know any asexuals? I know some folks with low libidos. Some incels, some repressed folks but do you think it's really possible to not have any sexual attraction to anyone? Is it possible to have that state without some sort of trauma associated with sex?
>"when the "time" comes, they make it work." > >What does that mean!??!!?
It means when he wants to have sex, they make it work. I'm not privy to the intimate details beyond that.
>Also, how sure are you that they are a happily married >couple?
LOL. Very sure. They share many, many interests and loves. They're travelling around the country and the globe. They don't have kids, so they're not staying together "for the children." They've built a happy marriage where sexual intimacy doesn't play a substantial role. Whatever works for them.
seems like if you are asexual you wouldnt ever want to make it work.
Now I’m wondering if there is any intimacy or passion while making it work or if its umm.. just cold and just “work”’
**************** TBH the fact that you're even a mod here fits squarely within Jag's narrative of OK-sanctioned aggression, bullying, and toxicity. *shrug*
but i don't think i really have to get it. if it works for them, and they're not hurting anyone, more power to em i guess.
on one hand i don't get why it's really an identity with their own flag, etc... but i guess it's more a way of finding other people who are like you and getting support that way. and i'm sure it sucks when people judge you like you're defective as a human or you're doing something wrong, and constantly feeling like you have to explain yourself to people. so it likely feels empowering for some to put a label/identity on it.
but i can't say i ever met anyone who self-identifies that way other than joking around from not getting some for a long time.
8. "one of my cousins is asexual." In response to Reply # 0
she's has attraction to people at times, where she'll say such & such is cute. usually it's someone with some level of celebrity, but not in a sexual way to her. she has no interest in having sex. has never had it.
I'm pretty close to and when we talk, there's never any discussion of who she'd like to smang or even she's attracted to in real life. it's just not a thing for her. she's 25.
10. "I wonder if it has something to do with feeling unattractive " In response to Reply # 0
I know that plenty of people who feel or know they’re unattractive do want sex, but I wonder if asexuals just don’t see themselves as attractive and feel that based on that, it’s just much easier to not bother with sex or physical attraction to others. Kinda like cutting out a bad, confusing, consequential situation (the flutters of being attracted to someone, sex, heartbreak etc) before it begins.
12. "It's real. There's a big gender gap with it (it's mostly women)." In response to Reply # 0
Adn from what I've seen most of the women who identify as asexual are relatively attractive too. I think there's some kindof connection behind that but I'm not sure how that works.
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