1. "Got in my lady's car, and it smelled like cologne on the inside..." In response to Reply # 0 Wed Sep-06-23 11:38 AM by flipnile
I started to get heated, but I looked and saw the passenger seat wasn't leaned-back so that's good, but why does it smell suspicious in here? She *did* just get the car cleaned, so I looked around and saw the new air freshener hanging from the rear-view.
She asked me later if I liked how the car smelled, talking about "I thought you'd like the air freshener, it has a musky smell!"
Just told her it was a little strong, and left it at that, lol.
2. "The decline of Facebook is killing me. " In response to Reply # 0
Instead of going to one centralized place for pictures of kids and wishing happy birthday to people I got everyone wanting to start a whatsapp group which I am expected to be up to date on. SMH.
********** "Everyone has a plan until you punch them in the face. Then they don't have a plan anymore." (c) Mike Tyson
6. "I’m back in school full time" In response to Reply # 0
Undergrad. Never graduated. I’m 38.
I was in the military for a few years after high school and I first attended college full time after I got out of the military. Had a few lackadaisical years in between but now I’m back at it.
I feel old and I’m ready for it to be over. I don’t feel like doing the work. I’m a double major with about a year left after this semester. Some kind of science is one of my majors; I have labs, do not wanna do nothing. A lot of papers due, not looking forward to writing.
Trying to get motivated and leave my mark on the world. Seems dreary.
legsdiamond Member since May 05th 2011 82088 posts
Tue Sep-12-23 10:49 AM
8. "its never too late for a second act" In response to Reply # 6
push through.
my mom went back to school in her late 40’s after I graduated HS.
**************** TBH the fact that you're even a mod here fits squarely within Jag's narrative of OK-sanctioned aggression, bullying, and toxicity. *shrug*
7. "It's sexist to apologize for cursing right?" In response to Reply # 0
I've got a co-worker who constantly apologizes for cursing...only when he is in the presence of women. The women have noticed. That's low-key sexist right?
The funny thing is I think I curse less, especially at work, in the presence of women but the apologizing part calls it out and is extra. What do you think?
********** "Everyone has a plan until you punch them in the face. Then they don't have a plan anymore." (c) Mike Tyson
legsdiamond Member since May 05th 2011 82088 posts
Tue Sep-12-23 10:54 AM
9. "I think he is being cautious, not sexist" In response to Reply # 7
**************** TBH the fact that you're even a mod here fits squarely within Jag's narrative of OK-sanctioned aggression, bullying, and toxicity. *shrug*
legsdiamond Member since May 05th 2011 82088 posts
Tue Sep-12-23 11:02 AM
10. "getting ready to send my severance offer" In response to Reply # 0
they offered 2 months. I want 3 so I’m going to ask for 4.
universe has been working in my favor lately and now its grind time.
**************** TBH the fact that you're even a mod here fits squarely within Jag's narrative of OK-sanctioned aggression, bullying, and toxicity. *shrug*
who is supposedly my mom's friend, but I have never met before thinks it's horrible that my mom is at times home alone. she thinks i should put her in a nursing home and she wants to help me find a nursing home for her.
i think she is only saying this because she wants me to sell my mom's house and to give her the listing (she is a realtor).
-- Sometimes you have to look reality in the face and say 'No!' -Ben (Reaper)
14. "Is 50/50 an option? A lot people experience exploitation at work" In response to Reply # 12
And think they can help others avoid that. It's also just as likely that this woman has seen the bad cases - listing homes people have died in - folks being alone and not prepared to transition - family members being left to deal with an asset as they deal with grief
etc
And with this being her kinda friend, who knows. But there are definitely predators out there. So it's always important to look out for your kin first. So good on you.
------ “There is no fate that cannot be surmounted by scorn.” -Albert Camus
legsdiamond Member since May 05th 2011 82088 posts
Thu Sep-14-23 01:25 PM
15. "if she is a realtor it def comes across sketchy" In response to Reply # 12
unless she is also open to having someone come to the home to help your mom
**************** TBH the fact that you're even a mod here fits squarely within Jag's narrative of OK-sanctioned aggression, bullying, and toxicity. *shrug*
18. "my friend said I should " In response to Reply # 15
tell her that even if my mom goes into a nursing home and we sell the house she is not going to get the listing and see if she still wants to help... LOL!
-- Sometimes you have to look reality in the face and say 'No!' -Ben (Reaper)
legsdiamond Member since May 05th 2011 82088 posts
Fri Sep-15-23 09:26 AM
22. "yep, tel her you plan on keeping the house" In response to Reply # 18
and see how she responds.
**************** TBH the fact that you're even a mod here fits squarely within Jag's narrative of OK-sanctioned aggression, bullying, and toxicity. *shrug*
17. "my mom is not healthy" In response to Reply # 16
she is 86 and has all kinds of health problems (parkinsons, congestive heart failure, diabetes, lost vision in her left eye from a vein occlusion) and parkinsons induced psychosis.
but i'm working 3 days a week. i got family medical leave (FMLA). i also have a home aid to come in twice a week. she is home alone only 1 day a week and I call her many times a day to make sure she is okay, I have a video camera I can monitor her with and a medical alert necklace.
this woman has only visited her once in the 2.5 year that I have moved in to take care of her and dropped off some realtor brochures.
i have had many other friends, family, social workers, visiting nurses come and see my mom. none have said she should be in a nursing home. most have said she is lucky to have me taking care of her.
-- Sometimes you have to look reality in the face and say 'No!' -Ben (Reaper)
legsdiamond Member since May 05th 2011 82088 posts
Fri Sep-15-23 09:29 AM
23. "well in that case I kinda agree" In response to Reply # 17
at 86, that one day is a bit of a problem based on all the health problems.
but I still don't trust that lady
**************** TBH the fact that you're even a mod here fits squarely within Jag's narrative of OK-sanctioned aggression, bullying, and toxicity. *shrug*
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