legsdiamond Member since May 05th 2011 79594 posts
Mon May-22-23 12:59 PM
"Partner shaming on social media"
why do people do this unless the plan is to get them to break up with you?
Do they think their SO will hop online and see their partner shaming them and say “I have to be a better partner”
just watched a woman take shots at her dude for 3 weeks with memes and “another lonely saturday” post and now she updates with “So you dumped me because I had a few bad weeks”
Nothing wrong with venting but venting publicly for all to see? Not a good idea
They need to hit up these Confession Wednesday’s
**************** TBH the fact that you're even a mod here fits squarely within Jag's narrative of OK-sanctioned aggression, bullying, and toxicity. *shrug*
legsdiamond Member since May 05th 2011 79594 posts
Mon May-22-23 01:28 PM
2. "I want to tell folks to chill on FB" In response to Reply # 1
but it aint my business
Need an app that ask you 3 questions before it lets you send a new post
Is this going to help or hurt your relationship? Have you tried talking to your SO first? Will this make other people think twice about dating you? Is this really what went down?
**************** TBH the fact that you're even a mod here fits squarely within Jag's narrative of OK-sanctioned aggression, bullying, and toxicity. *shrug*
legsdiamond Member since May 05th 2011 79594 posts
Mon May-22-23 03:52 PM
6. "I’m mad at my SO. Let me tell the whole world they aint shit" In response to Reply # 4
hoping in some weird way it will fix the relationship
As soon as the SO sees that shit its over.
Its like calling the cops on your partner. Aint no coming back from that.
**************** TBH the fact that you're even a mod here fits squarely within Jag's narrative of OK-sanctioned aggression, bullying, and toxicity. *shrug*
14. "these days its mandatory to ask someone how they navigate on SM" In response to Reply # 6
as a dating question...if the answer doesnt jive with how you move then dont do it. like BK said i wouldnt date a SM junkie no way no how. you could be dimed out and paid and id still pass...SM is a relationship killer in many cases.
if you a young cat and you were born into SM then i get it its part of your life like that but anyone who knows different? smh. hail naw no thx
17. "real talk...do spend hours and hours a day on the edge of your seat" In response to Reply # 16
analyzing FB posts? do you find it necessary to post about every decision that you make throughout the day? do you air out your friends, fam, and SO on the book when you get angry? do you respect if your SO wants no parts of SM or your shenanigans? answer any of these wrong and God bless you have a great life
legsdiamond Member since May 05th 2011 79594 posts
Wed May-24-23 03:28 PM
18. "airing out friends and fam is the worst!!" In response to Reply # 17
“I always help people out but when I need help no one is there for me!!!”
lawd.. smh.
**************** TBH the fact that you're even a mod here fits squarely within Jag's narrative of OK-sanctioned aggression, bullying, and toxicity. *shrug*
legsdiamond Member since May 05th 2011 79594 posts
Tue May-23-23 04:05 PM
12. "when things are calm they get uncomfortable " In response to Reply # 7
**************** TBH the fact that you're even a mod here fits squarely within Jag's narrative of OK-sanctioned aggression, bullying, and toxicity. *shrug*
8. "I think folks who IG Live stream are mostly weirdos" In response to Reply # 0
I have a few friends who either stream live or make little videos while driving their car and talking about the topic of the day...and I am always why like you think anyone is interested enough in what you have to say to watch this?
These are usually the same people who talk to much in real life. Just seems like pure narcissism to me.
I'm off topic, I usually assume those videos I see online are fake.
********** "Everyone has a plan until you punch them in the face. Then they don't have a plan anymore." (c) Mike Tyson
>These are usually the same people who talk to much in real >life. Just seems like pure narcissism to me.
social media just enables folks like this to broadcast to a wider net and get more attention. doesn't matter if it's positive or negative, as long as someone is looking or listening they are sated
legsdiamond Member since May 05th 2011 79594 posts
Tue May-23-23 04:02 PM
11. "I’ll never forget a car doing 15mph on the highway" In response to Reply # 8
she was face timing someone while driving
for me anyone doing a live in a car is full of shit.
**************** TBH the fact that you're even a mod here fits squarely within Jag's narrative of OK-sanctioned aggression, bullying, and toxicity. *shrug*
legsdiamond Member since May 05th 2011 79594 posts
Thu May-25-23 11:57 AM
22. "why is your face.. “all in the video” " In response to Reply # 19
**************** TBH the fact that you're even a mod here fits squarely within Jag's narrative of OK-sanctioned aggression, bullying, and toxicity. *shrug*
20. "RE: Partner shaming on social media" In response to Reply # 0
They want/need/crave validation, maybe?
I've seen it with people in different stages in their lives so I don't even think its just a 'these folks out here now' type of thing.
I personally couldn't see getting down like that cuz I'm just old enough that I grew up without having to publicly document every damn thing I do/think/say/want. And I'm doing fine if not everyone is aware of how seriously I lust after Anitta, Regina Hall, or whoever.
But hey, maybe they're not thinking it through all the way. Most grown ass folks I know would be not into that type of stuff at all.
I don't even love my wife posting pics of me while we're on vacation/out somewhere (cuz I don't love people knowing exactly where I'm at ever..I'm square enough as it is so I'm usually at home or work..that's enough!), and she pretty much knows trying to slide some Jayz sneak diss shit at me online isn't gonna be a good look. And I'm going to react in-person. Or as the kids were saying, I'm going to pull up on her directly on some ole say it with ya chest shit. And I adore that lady.
>why do people do this unless the plan is to get them to break >up with you? > >Do they think their SO will hop online and see their partner >shaming them and say “I have to be a better partner” > >just watched a woman take shots at her dude for 3 weeks with >memes and “another lonely saturday” post and now she >updates with “So you dumped me because I had a few bad >weeks” > >Nothing wrong with venting but venting publicly for all to >see? Not a good idea > > >They need to hit up these Confession Wednesday’s > >
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