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originally it was supposed to be held in a hotel suite at the W in Times Square, but at the last minute, it got changed to this FABULOUS huge multilevel apartment in Brooklyn...that's where they had it the last time i went and there is waaay more room to spread out there..multiple rooms, tubs, showers, nooks and crannies...a perfect space for a party of this nature...plus there were only about 20 people in attenddance so there was plenty of room for everyone
on arrival, folks were getting checked in, some went to change into comfy and/or sexy clothing etc...there was music playing and snacks out in the open kitchen..fruits, cookies, cheese etc..people were mingling, greeting each other and chatting, touring the space etc
after about an hour, we were summoned to sit in a circle and do introductions. my friend, the host, introduced the event and explained that the point of the evening was to tap into your own desires and get comfortable with asking for and receiving them...and that desires can take any form...sexual or nonsexual ones and that everyone was 100% at choice at all times.
then each person in the circle introduced themselves and stated what they had to offer this evening, and what they desired for the evening. those who were new mostly kept it G rated "i can offer hugs and listening, and i desire connection, intimacy, to be seen" etc...previous attendees were a bit more explicit about their desires or stated that they were down for anything...the point of this is it allows others to seek out folks who expressed desires that they're willing to fulfill..one guy said he wanted to feel breasts all over his body so multiple women sought him out to oblige him later on
there was one woman there who was visibly emotional as she had never been in such a welcoming and loving sexual space like this before and had never given herself permission to enjoy sex...when she shared her story, everyone was really supportive of her
there was also a lovely older indian dude there who is an expert at BDSM play (he's a dom) and he offered to hold space for a BDSM station in the back where anyone could either do a scene with him, or he could facilitate a couple in BDSM play (there were two couples there), and invited anyone to watch and be voyeurs..he had this really calm loving spirit and is a regular at these events. he never gets naked tho..he keeps his clothes on when he doms
the next part was the puja ceremony where the women made a circle facing out and the men made a circle around them facing in...that way each woman was in front of a man. the host led us through a series of exercises to get us comfortaable with asking for our desire, hearing and saying yes, or hearing and saying no, or negotiating a different interaction than the one requested...with each practice, we'd rotate to a different person..practice eye gazing, hugs, body gazing...then the final exercise was giving & receiving a massage with the person in front of you, which naturally led to the play part of the event, because by that point, may people had taken off their clothes
my final partner happened to be a woman (because i went to the restroom during the puja and when i came back, i just stood in a masculine spot to rebalance the numbers lol) but it worked out perfectly because i ended up giving her a sensual massage on her breasts etc..she was so gorgeous omg
then her and i ended up finding a semi-private spot to play...when i'm with a woman, it definitely brings out more of my masculine energy, especially with her being so incredibly feminine and curvy...i had a really amazing time with her and there were people coming by to watch us etc lol
at one point, i went upstairs to watch some BDSM play, i hung out in the hot tub with a few folks chatting and laughing, had a really nice cuddle session with someone who just wanted to be held...
it was just so freaking chill and dope and relaxed...then we did a circle again to close it out and folks talked about what they got out of the evening...
so yeah, that's the jist.
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"I don't speak to provoke. I speak because I think our time on Earth is short and each moment that we are not our truest selves, each moment we say what we do not mean because we imagine that is what somebody what's us to say, then we are wasting our time
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