"Poll question: People, would you want to work 9-5 with your SO?"
If the answer is yes, if you partner said no. Would you be mad? I'm not talking about starting a business or side hustle together. I mean y'all work in the same office, maybe in different departments, but close enough that you'd see them all day everyday, and you'd commute together, both ways.
Does it make a difference if it's your actual spouse?
2. "Wife and I met at work…" In response to Reply # 0
worked in different departments, but it was a small building. We dated, got super serious, moved in together. We drove to work together, saw each other in the halls/break room, sometimes went to lunch together and drove home. We did that (the full living together and working at the same place) for about a year, before she left for a better gig. There were no issues, at all. We were in our early 20s, then. I couldn’t say how that would work, now.
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Frank Longo Member since Nov 18th 2003 86672 posts
Thu Sep-02-21 02:24 PM
4. "As long as you both do your own thing, shouldn't be a problem." In response to Reply # 0 Thu Sep-02-21 02:25 PM by Frank Longo
Now, if your partner wants to also spend all your time together outside the office too? Might become an issue. But if both partners are smart, they have honest conversations, and they make sure to have their own lives away from their partner in addition to the one they share? Yeah, shouldn't be an issue.
I essentially worked from home with my wife for most of the entire last year. Things were fine.
7. "We had a four day conversation recently over money" In response to Reply # 6
It was a five minutes tops conversation with a lot of dancing and her talking around what she was thinking and feeling. I gave her ALLLLLLL of the space and grace to work through that. But in the end it was just cold numbers. Deal with how you feel after. I can live like that, I love that woman, but I could not reasonably work like that. Not at all. Never. Ugh.
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legsdiamond Member since May 05th 2011 79616 posts
Thu Sep-02-21 02:59 PM
11. "my wife isn’t that long winded but my wife will say everything but" In response to Reply # 7
the answer to a question.
I still have mo idea what days she can pick up the kids from school because she went down a list of every day and what classes she has..
Had to tell her three times “Just tell me the days” before she actually said them without all the extra shit.
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legsdiamond Member since May 05th 2011 79616 posts
Thu Sep-02-21 02:50 PM
9. "Worked at the same university when we were dating" In response to Reply # 0
but in different buildings and different departments.
Rarely saw her so it wasnt an issue.
At my current gig there is a married couple. Not sure how they do it but they do it.
but she also wears the pants in their relationship and he says shit like “I wouldn’t go on a guys trip because I love my wife”
I could not work in the same building or dept with my wife. She already talks too much about work as it is… lol.
**************** TBH the fact that you're even a mod here fits squarely within Jag's narrative of OK-sanctioned aggression, bullying, and toxicity. *shrug*
10. "We met while working together... (edit)" In response to Reply # 0 Thu Sep-02-21 02:57 PM by Marbles
Ideally, I wouldn't want to have to see her at work in addition to seeing her at home.
Now, she almost took a position at my firm a while back. We would have been in different departments and we agreed that we wouldn't be together all the time (hanging at each others desks, eating lunch together everyday, etc). It was a good move for her so even though I didn't want to see her every minute, I was all for it. Some stuff is more important than being annoyed by her being around all the time.
EDIT - We're not married but we've been together for almost 18 & a half years. Technically, she's not my spouse.
13. "Been working with my wife since 2006..." In response to Reply # 0
She was already at our company when we started dating back in 2001, and I started working for that company in 2006. We've both been in multiple roles with the company through the years, and are currently in the same department.
The main thing we do to make it work is we COMPLETELY separate work/home. Pre-pandemic when we were working in the office we didn't even drive in together - because we might not work at the same times and want to have the flexibility. We often have coworkers work with us for a while without even knowing we are married.
At home we REALLY try to not talk about work. That's been more difficult with us being in the same department, especially because I'm in management so she reports to one of my peers. Especially during the last year with us both working from home full-time. But keeping work-life integration/balance in line is extremely important.
14. "Different departments? Sure," In response to Reply # 0
I can think of at least five married couples at my company, and all work in different departments.
My wife was just joking with me yesterday that apparently my job is looking to hire attorneys in the legal department. Since it's a different type of law that she practices, the point is moot, but I wouldn't have been opposed to it.
And to echo other sentiments above, I met my first serious serious GF while working. I will say that shit got weird after we broke up, even though we were working in different offices by then (this is when I worked at a newspaper). Certainly hastened her exit.
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