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That was our solution. It's one that isn't for everyone, but that is worth trying in the right scenarios.
In our situation, damn near everything remains the same. Finances, everything. We remain a family unit, and that "family" designation includes each other.
We're not divorcing or anything, health benefits and whatnot remain as-is, all that. We have each other's back, have family trips and everything. But we are done as a couple in any traditional sense of the designation. We ar not together, and that's a wrap. The sun has set on that.
Tontgat end, we each do as we please in our personal lives, with no expectations that we report back, though in at least some cases we keep each other aprised of our relationships, to some degree. We don't need to get a sitter or anything, we just keep each other up to date if we're going somewhere.
Frankly, all we did was remove the general expectation/presumption of certain marital obligations. It's imperfect, and for awhile it seemed that we'd definitely split up were we financially able to do so without anyone sacrificing quality of life to do it.
Currently, it's very likely that we'd still stay together in the smae household. It took time to get to this point, and things are solid.
It's imperfect and less than ideal, to be sure. But there are significant benefits for all of us.
It only works becaus we happened to be the people for it, and I have no illusions that it's one size fits all. It doesn't sound like you and yours fit that bill though- but if that's even a remote possibility, I recommend giving the idea some thought.
Other than that, I'm sorry to hear it didn't work out and I hope whatever follows finds you both in a better place, in all walks of life.
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