1. "my sister is mad at me" In response to Reply # 0
and I’m not taking the blame for this shit.
She came up for the weekend and right before she left she asked me to put half a bottle of oil in her car engine because the light comes on every time she makes a 4 hour trip to visit. I replied that its odd and something she needs to get fixed
So I poured oil in.. slightly less than half. like a half pour less than half.
She claims I only put a drop in and her oil light came on and she couldn’t go to work.
Now, its a Volvo, she got it because my mom loved Volvo’s. But I think the German maintenance is kicking her pockets in the ass. It was also the same day as my moms bday and she always gets funky on that day.
Anyway she flipped out on some “if you did what I just told you to do”
hold up.. I ain't your son or nephew. Basically told her to check the tone and find someone else to blame for the car having issues. That 40 milliliters wasn’t the difference between an engine light going on or not. I offered to help her get the car fixed because honestly, it sounds mechanical not family related.. lol. But she in her feels on some “this is my problem and I can only depend on me”
I didn’t say it but real talk, this is why she can’t keep a man. She always finds a reason to snap and I was the perfect victim.. lol.
**************** TBH the fact that you're even a mod here fits squarely within Jag's narrative of OK-sanctioned aggression, bullying, and toxicity. *shrug*
4. "I have been thinking lately about expectation I have of people" In response to Reply # 1
related to me that might not be reasonable and how I only have that expectation because of their relationship to me. This reply brought that back to mind. For example I sometimes get upset with my uncles for not helping me with car stuff or for not being enthusiastic about helping. But you know what, I actually have other men in my life that are actually "car guys." They may not be men I am in any type of relationship with (family or romantic) but when I take the chance at asking them instead of the people I thing *should* help me I come out the the situation much happier AND I don't end up damaging a closer relationship by being mad at them for whatever reason.
You reply just made me thing about that....
♥ Inescapably Me ♥
"Love is never any better than the lover" Toni Morrison (The Bluest Eye)
9. "i used to think in black and white" In response to Reply # 0
it either is or isn't. until i realized it just isn't that simple. life happens in the gray areas and you have to be comfortable in that. and it at times it can be two competing thoughts, and letting both have room to exist at the same time.
i frequent another message board that is much larger than okp. the post about makhia bryant has over 3k responses. it is literally all over the place. i understand the many different sentiments and can see (not necessarily agree) with other people's point of view. and its easy to sit at home saying what should have been done in this instance or in the case of adam toledo. am i wrong for thinking every response doesn't have to occur in the matter of seconds? could you breathe for a minute and assess the situation better? they both should be alive.
there is a video going around on twitter about a man with a machete (i think) chasing cops around. no one shoots him. they wait, until more cops show up with shields, surround him, and arrest him. no one jumps on top of him, no one kills him. he is then taking to the hospital. how can they do it, but we can't?
So i bought stock for the first time in my life about 3 weeks ago. Didn't invest much. Had download the Robinhood app that my stepdaughter told me about last year and threw a few dollar on various things. One of the stocks i bought was the Doge bitcoin stock. Not for any reason than it was cheap and it was available for me to buy. Well when that stock rose and i saw i had made triple my money, i was excited. Now im hooked.
My wife and I communicate very well on almost all subjects except when its time for me to go fishing. When i met her a few years ago, i was fishing all the time. I would talk to her but at least 3 times a week i would be fishing with friends. I cut down considerably when we got married because i didn't want to hear her fuss. Even the many times i explained to her my passion over it, her reasoning was that at night anything could happen and i could be harmed(which is a load of bs since ive been night fishing for at 20 years with my friend, but whatever). So we compromised to just day fishing for me. Even that was met with a frown but it is what it is. Fast forward to yesterday, i told my wife i was taking off to go fishing with my cousin. I expected to hear some bs but it never came. After a short pause, she said well have fun. And not in a sarcastic way. For the first time, i think she really sees how happy my passion makes me and how determined i was to keep in my life. When i came home, she was still in that good mood. I think we're turning the corner on this. At least i really hope so.