19. "Soon as you raise your voice/get emotional you're" In response to Reply # 18 Fri Apr-09-21 01:21 PM by Adwhizz
perceived as as a threat/source of trauma
If I talked to my Wife/my Ex-GFs the way they talked to me I would probably have had a nice little stint in a jail cell.
Maybe I just have a really approachable face/demeanor but pre-pandemic there were instances where random strangers/people I barely know (not just women) would feel comfortable touching me, and yea I might have WANTED to stiff arm them, but in the long run it's not worth the hassle to be out here barking on people.
R.I.P. Loud But Wrong Guy Dec 29th 2009 - Dec 17th 2017
legsdiamond Member since May 05th 2011 79594 posts
Sat Apr-10-21 08:23 AM
25. "I think you may need to have a sit down with the wife" In response to Reply # 19
cause you shouldn't tolerate being talked to like that UNLESS you said or did some foul shit.
Early in our relationship after an argument the wife and I agreed we wouldn’t talk to each other like that. Not saying we don’t argue or disagree on things but the tone of our voice will never be on some disrespectful shit.
**************** TBH the fact that you're even a mod here fits squarely within Jag's narrative of OK-sanctioned aggression, bullying, and toxicity. *shrug*
legsdiamond Member since May 05th 2011 79594 posts
Sat Apr-10-21 08:19 AM
24. "this isn’t true.. they don't like when we lose our temper towards them" In response to Reply # 18 Sat Apr-10-21 08:20 AM by legsdiamond
but let someone disrespect them while you are with them and unless its jail time they will want you to show emotion and anger towards that person
I mean.. what person likes it when their mate shows anger towards them? Only damaged goods likes that type of energy pointed in their direction.
**************** TBH the fact that you're even a mod here fits squarely within Jag's narrative of OK-sanctioned aggression, bullying, and toxicity. *shrug*
36. "uh not necessarily" In response to Reply # 27
let me handle the disrespect myself, then u be mean mugging right behind me just in case the shit goes left LOL
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"But rest assured, in my luxurious house built on the backs of people darker than me, I am sipping fine scotch and scoffing at how stupid you are." - bshelly
the woman: “I can handle it myself” .. “please chill, stop being so aggressive”
goes to club or venue and drunk dude oversteps and the man chills
the woman: “wtf? where were you? didnt you see what was happening? If I can’t trust you to protect me..”
my wife is my nuggah, she always tells me she got my back. When shit goes down tho.. she knows to go start the fucking car. I don’t need both of us getting knocked the fuck out.
Someone gotta drive us home dammit.
**************** TBH the fact that you're even a mod here fits squarely within Jag's narrative of OK-sanctioned aggression, bullying, and toxicity. *shrug*
"But rest assured, in my luxurious house built on the backs of people darker than me, I am sipping fine scotch and scoffing at how stupid you are." - bshelly
9. "My pops gave me the roadmap I am raising my boys with. " In response to Reply # 0 Fri Apr-09-21 11:56 AM by Buddy_Gilapagos
I never seen my dad play a sport. Never threw a football with me and I had to learn basketball on my own.
I never seen my dad wear jeans or sneakers until much later in life. Like in his 60s.
I've seen him cry a million times. In public. He could be at church and sharing a story and be moved to tears.
And yet he was always the coolest, smartest, baddest mofo I have ever met.
Man loved clothes, cars, music, knowledge and people. Wasn't a subject matter he couldn't speak on. Was always reading some huge biography. Had subscriptions to GQ, Esquire, New Yorker and Vanity Fair when no one within 3 zip codes were reading those type of magazine. Was more charming than anyone I've ever met. Could talk to anyone from the brothers on the corner to my college professors.
I've never seen my dad cower or bow his head to white folks. Seen him curse out everyone from cops to judges (even was held in contempt and put in jail for telling a judge off).
So I say all this to say I've seen so many brothers struggle with the idea of what it means to be a man and conform to societal standards whether its street toughness, or bagging chicks or even making money but I really neer felt those pressures because my dad was never that type of man but was still "The Man" in my eyes.
My pop turns 80 next week and is in a home suffering from dementia so forgive a brother for bragging, that's headspace I'm at in the moment.
********** "Everyone has a plan until you punch them in the face. Then they don't have a plan anymore." (c) Mike Tyson
22. "your dad sounds like a dope dude. " In response to Reply # 9
i never had a father.
i had to figure out what it meant to be a man on my own.
by most people's accounts, i figured it out pretty well. your pops sounds a lot like me now (but definitely better read).
and now i get to pass it down. i hope my son sees me how you see your pops some day. feels like he does now, but he's also 5. when he's 35, i hope it feels the same.
legsdiamond Member since May 05th 2011 79594 posts
Sat Apr-10-21 08:27 AM
26. "bruh.. the part about never cowering to a white man is dope as fuck" In response to Reply # 9
that’s powerful
**************** TBH the fact that you're even a mod here fits squarely within Jag's narrative of OK-sanctioned aggression, bullying, and toxicity. *shrug*
28. "Man My pops from a generation where you really didn't have to deal with" In response to Reply # 26
White People. Virginia Union and Virginia State, HBCU cats who became professionals working for themselves and servicing black clients and people and really didn't have to deal with or need White people at all to prosper. I don't even think that exists anymore.
********** "Everyone has a plan until you punch them in the face. Then they don't have a plan anymore." (c) Mike Tyson
legsdiamond Member since May 05th 2011 79594 posts
Sat Apr-10-21 12:28 PM
29. "I lived in PA and we sorta had that but not on that scale" In response to Reply # 28 Sat Apr-10-21 12:52 PM by legsdiamond
I’m old enough to remember a lot of Black owned businesses.
Lived in a predominantly white suburb but of course we had our own shit because they didnt want any part of us in their establishments
but with the steel mills pumping we had a lot of dollars circulating.
my schooling was PWT but my afterschool program and summers was all black everything.
10 years ago an Italian friend found himself at our Black VFW and was amazed. We’ve known each other for 40 years, he lived 2 minutes from it and never knew it existed. We lost that building because of unpaid taxes and the younger generation moving away or going to clubs in the city. This VFW is where Duke Ellington and Ella would perform after playing white clubs in the city.
**************** TBH the fact that you're even a mod here fits squarely within Jag's narrative of OK-sanctioned aggression, bullying, and toxicity. *shrug*
I'm not prepared to talk about him, but I wanted to share what some folks from the community wrote about him on FB:
"Attorney P and his wife were THE FIRST ones to recommend that I go to Howard University. If he had never done anything else for me, that would have been enough! But then Mr. P went the extra mile and introduced me to someone who helped me pay for college. As a result, I never had the insurmountable student loan debt that plagues so many college graduates. When I came back home after college he allowed me to use his office to send and receive faxes, use the copier, etc.... He was always a role model, an advisor and a supporter. I am grateful to be a part of the lasting legacy of Mr. P. You made a tremendous difference in my life!! You will be missed."
" thank you for so graciously sharing your loved one with our community. Mr. P was a role model, encourager, and ALWAYS saw better and bigger for others than they saw for themselves. So grateful for my favorite high school memory of shadowing him as County Attorney for Student Government Day. He picked me up from school in one of his finest rides and took me to court with him. People thought I was his paralegal and he never corrected them that I was just a high school student. It was a special day. He imparted so much wisdom and care in my goals and ambitions that I’ll never forget. He did that with everyone. We’ve lost a giant in the community but we celebrate his life and humanity. We are grateful and appreciate that his legacy lives through all of you."
********** "Everyone has a plan until you punch them in the face. Then they don't have a plan anymore." (c) Mike Tyson
56. "And this week, I will have to bury him. " In response to Reply # 9
I'm not prepared to talk about him, but I wanted to share what some folks from the community wrote about him on FB:
"Attorney P and his wife were THE FIRST ones to recommend that I go to Howard University. If he had never done anything else for me, that would have been enough! But then Mr. P went the extra mile and introduced me to someone who helped me pay for college. As a result, I never had the insurmountable student loan debt that plagues so many college graduates. When I came back home after college he allowed me to use his office to send and receive faxes, use the copier, etc.... He was always a role model, an advisor and a supporter. I am grateful to be a part of the lasting legacy of Mr. P. You made a tremendous difference in my life!! You will be missed."
" thank you for so graciously sharing your loved one with our community. Mr. P was a role model, encourager, and ALWAYS saw better and bigger for others than they saw for themselves. So grateful for my favorite high school memory of shadowing him as County Attorney for Student Government Day. He picked me up from school in one of his finest rides and took me to court with him. People thought I was his paralegal and he never corrected them that I was just a high school student. It was a special day. He imparted so much wisdom and care in my goals and ambitions that I’ll never forget. He did that with everyone. We’ve lost a giant in the community but we celebrate his life and humanity. We are grateful and appreciate that his legacy lives through all of you."
********** "Everyone has a plan until you punch them in the face. Then they don't have a plan anymore." (c) Mike Tyson
33. "*opens lawn chair and fills cup w/ drank*" In response to Reply # 0
this should be interesting.
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"But rest assured, in my luxurious house built on the backs of people darker than me, I am sipping fine scotch and scoffing at how stupid you are." - bshelly
34. "It probably wont lol" In response to Reply # 33
>this should be interesting. > >d > >"But rest assured, in my luxurious house built on the backs of >people darker than me, I am sipping fine scotch and scoffing >at how stupid you are." - bshelly
35. "LOL you prolly right" In response to Reply # 34
"But rest assured, in my luxurious house built on the backs of people darker than me, I am sipping fine scotch and scoffing at how stupid you are." - bshelly
41. "🙄 she's a piece of shit bedwench and supporter/ apologist for.." In response to Reply # 40 Wed Apr-28-21 06:54 AM by Somnus
for white supremacy and the murder of Black people at the hands of law enforcement, hence, her opinion on ANY & EVERYTHING should be null and void, ESPECIALLY when it concerns Black folks.
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The ULTIMATE negation of everything.
The space between despair and orgasm is hard to fill ~ Maron
legsdiamond Member since May 05th 2011 79594 posts
Wed Apr-28-21 07:18 AM
44. "Is Bob Darker white? They love this woman for some reason " In response to Reply # 41
only thing I have to add is she looks just like my sister in law..
and my SIL only dates white dudes. Must be the look.
**************** TBH the fact that you're even a mod here fits squarely within Jag's narrative of OK-sanctioned aggression, bullying, and toxicity. *shrug*
legsdiamond Member since May 05th 2011 79594 posts
Wed Apr-28-21 12:39 PM
47. "yeah.. when I see people push her " In response to Reply # 46
its usually those Ye types who want to troll Black folk..
or its white dudes who love to see Black people shit on Black people.
**************** TBH the fact that you're even a mod here fits squarely within Jag's narrative of OK-sanctioned aggression, bullying, and toxicity. *shrug*
50. "RE: Naw, bruh...I’m definitely not white and I don’t fuck with CO li..." In response to Reply # 49
>But I do have the ability to separate the message from the >messenger, which apparently some folks can’t do, I see... > >I didn’t ask if anyone liked her... > >I asked if what she was saying wrong in regard to women’s >expectations of men, vs. what they really want on a biological >level. > >Nobody is pushing CO....I just saw the vid and tied it to what >this post was asking. > >Ole buddy talking about people trolling and incels... the fact >that she live in that man’s head like that rent >free...damn...that shit must suck. > >Fuck the messenger....focus on the message. > >Is what she saying wrong?
just to reiterate: fuck if what she's saying is right or wrong at this point, SHE IS AND BEEN WRONG; her whole existence is wrong. Fuck her and everyone she loves.
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The ULTIMATE negation of everything.
The space between despair and orgasm is hard to fill ~ Maron
53. "i can respect that" In response to Reply # 50
>just to reiterate: fuck if what she's saying is right or wrong at this >SHE IS AND BEEN WRONG; her whole existence is wrong. >Fuck her and everyone she loves.
Her overall paid white-face ideology is trash for sure, but I figured cats would be mature enough to discern the difference between 'who is saying' and 'what is being said.'
Definitely wasn't trying to turn this into convo about her, but I get it, she triggers many just at the sight of her. I get it.
**************** TBH the fact that you're even a mod here fits squarely within Jag's narrative of OK-sanctioned aggression, bullying, and toxicity. *shrug*
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