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double negative
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"*DEEP INHALE*...toddlers, what the fuck man?"


  

          

As I'm typing this, I can hear my 3 year old screaming his head off and being an absolute dickhead to the sitter because she said "Ok, it's time for the bathroom"

cue; "NO NO NO I don't want to go!", throwing of shit, kicking, screaming, tantrum. Bog standard toddler shit on a Monday.

Which - ok, it could be upsetting if you DON'T have to go but you feel forced to go.

Here's The Thing.

he's a toddler, if you oblige his response that he does not want to go, you can just about set your watch to the second when he will inevitably wet his pants 1 minute later.

We have the reward system down, he's been learning.


The fucking insane thing about toddlers is how unpredictable they can be. 8 out of 10 times things will be peaceful but then out of the blue, you will be forced to reckon with a meltdown flying in from left field.


Kids I have learned, have some of the deepest FOMO on earth. I could be polishing cherry tomatoes with a q-tip and my boys will be fighting each other to see who can get closest to watch me do some boring shit.
When the oldest child is refusing to take a bathroom break its because he's afraid he's going to miss out on...god knows what.

I'm patient, I understand that screaming and tantrums is like their brains saying "what the fuck man, what even are the words...I'm upset!"

I know I'm just barely on level 1 of the parenting game.




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yup. *hands you some drank*
Jan 04th 2021
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smacks drink out your hand
Jan 04th 2021
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      LMAO...
Jan 04th 2021
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      ha. we're down to a sitter now
Jan 04th 2021
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      crying!!!
Jan 04th 2021
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      Right?! Nanny? WTF is that? I’m lucky if I get a half way interested
Jan 04th 2021
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      Kids with Nannies and Behavior
Jan 04th 2021
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      It's weird man. it's really personality dynamics at work.
Jan 05th 2021
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      lol I remember a coworker not staying for an all-staff after work becaus...
Jan 04th 2021
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      lmaoooo
Jan 12th 2021
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now imagine a 3 and 5 yr old without a sitter
Jan 04th 2021
2
The fear of pooping...I thought I was alone in that struggle.
Jan 04th 2021
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      lol @ he always has a super confused look on his face
Jan 04th 2021
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My daughter is 3 so I feel you and know what you’re talking about
Jan 04th 2021
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perfect description of a toddler
Jan 04th 2021
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      All of that plus fighting to get in the car, taking their clothes off
Jan 04th 2021
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3 is worse than 2
Jan 04th 2021
11
age or amount of kids?
Jan 05th 2021
29
      Age
Jan 05th 2021
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Single mom here- Tough Love
Jan 04th 2021
12
when my wife has them at home all day.. they chill af
Jan 05th 2021
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      it's the opposite here...or it can switch.
Jan 05th 2021
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           You are a great dad! Don't stress it
Jan 05th 2021
36
dialogue...
Jan 04th 2021
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So that's how that works huh? Just tell em to go 'night night' and boom....
Jan 05th 2021
19
yes. using my grand-daughter as an example...
Jan 05th 2021
20
my kids scoff in the face of naps....they on some Nas when it comes to s...
Jan 05th 2021
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in our house...yes. sleep training FTW.
Jan 06th 2021
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We do emotional resets
Jan 05th 2021
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      RE: We do emotional resets
Jan 05th 2021
31
      we did some version of this to.
Jan 12th 2021
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the 2s and 3s were the most fun to me.
Jan 04th 2021
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it's weird, they don't bust out tantrums in public, they do them in priv...
Jan 05th 2021
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I need the definition of a tantrum
Jan 05th 2021
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If you gotta ask.........
Jan 05th 2021
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yeah.. my kids have cried and screamed in public a
Jan 05th 2021
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there is screaming and crying and then there is...
Jan 05th 2021
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do y'all all have multiple kids?
Jan 05th 2021
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We have 2 girls. The youngest one is the only one
Jan 05th 2021
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i think people have different definitions of tantrums
Jan 06th 2021
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hard to say.
Jan 06th 2021
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doubt that it's related to having siblings.
Jan 09th 2021
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3 yr old boy here....
Jan 06th 2021
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I have 2 boys that are 21 months and 4 month old. Dear God!
Jan 06th 2021
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6 months from now things will be amazing.
Jan 06th 2021
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Reward systems are nice but you also need a consequence system
Jan 09th 2021
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Timeout stopped working here. So now I threaten pajamas
Jan 10th 2021
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Turned on our 65” 4K TV last night...
Jan 09th 2021
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are you typing to us from jail?
Jan 12th 2021
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      As a "glass half full" guy. I realized that it provided an upgrade justi...
Jan 12th 2021
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           salute. im kind of the same way but only after working it out internally...
Jan 12th 2021
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Haha, mine's 2.8 months, no real tantrums yet
Jan 10th 2021
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2.8 months? lmao.. never seen the decimal used before
Jan 10th 2021
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      Lol! I just find it easier to write
Jan 10th 2021
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           "almost 3"
Jan 12th 2021
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                3 months
Jan 12th 2021
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"spare the rod, spoil the child" Proverbs 13:24
Jan 12th 2021
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hitting three year olds usually not the move. def set boundaries, thoug...
Jan 12th 2021
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"SHEEEEEEEET!(c)R. Clay Davis, it doesn't take a full blown spanking...
Jan 13th 2021
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nah.. when you see a kid cringe
Jan 13th 2021
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I can get the same fear reaction without physical threats
Jan 13th 2021
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i don't think it's super helpful when they're in full tantrum mode
Jan 13th 2021
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why spank? you can inflict more damage with words and emotions
Jan 13th 2021
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lmao.. knowing damn well you aren’t religious
Jan 12th 2021
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My boys just turned 10 this week. I MISS ALL that ish.
Jan 13th 2021
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this is the cruel joke of it all.
Jan 14th 2021
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FLUIDJ
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1. "yup. *hands you some drank*"
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"Get ready....for your blessing....."
"Bury me by my Grand-Grand and when you can come follow me"

  

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legsdiamond
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3. "smacks drink out your hand"
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he said the nanny..

he’s fine.

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FLUIDJ
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4. "LMAO..."
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"Get ready....for your blessing....."
"Bury me by my Grand-Grand and when you can come follow me"

  

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5. "ha. we're down to a sitter now"
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we HAD a nanny situation because the lady lived in our building then she moved and then we moved. she cooked, cleaned and watched the kids, it was glorious as fuck.

the sitter costs more and does less.

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8. "crying!!!"
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it looked like Bol Bol was diving in the river - Action Bronson

  

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9. "Right?! Nanny? WTF is that? I’m lucky if I get a half way interested "
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20 something babysitter for a few hours.

  

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13. "Kids with Nannies and Behavior"
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Anecdotal observation, but are kids with nannies more rebellious because they have someone doting on them all day? Or are the kids already rebellious and need a nanny?

All my friends with in home nannies have kids who act like complete jerks, especially towards the parents. If there are nanny pods or other kids, the behavior isn't so bad.

I had an African nanny from 0-6 months. Then I put the kid in daycare. Behavior was never an issue. I hired another as needed nanny when my kid turned 4. The nanny was a black ass, around the way woman who didn't take no mess.

I just find the whole care-taking and disciplining of the child to be a delicate balance in those early years.

Some things I would rather do myself.

Rise & Shine
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28. "It's weird man. it's really personality dynamics at work. "
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when we have to go with a backup sitter we find from a work provided backup system of providers it can depend.

some sitters who seem to be checked out mentally will have a really easy time with the boys. they will do everything asked, they are sweet angels.

and with some other sitters who have advanced child development training, the boys will act like drunk monkeys.

it. depends.

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18. "lol I remember a coworker not staying for an all-staff after work becaus..."
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she didn't want to pay her nanny. AND she has a husband! Plenty of the under paid single mothers around there were like "excuse me HR! didn't y'all say this shit was mandatory? why she get to leave because she didn't want to pay her nanny???"

♥ Inescapably Me ♥

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50. "lmaoooo"
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It's plenty of money to be made
from Candler Road to Bankhead
It's plenty of room to get paid
for those that ain't scared

  

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legsdiamond
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2. "now imagine a 3 and 5 yr old without a sitter"
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these lil gremlins know 3 words

Daddy, I want...

will ask for food an then flip the fuck out if I use the wrong color cup or one has a fork thats bigger.

I cam give the 5 year old cookies 5 while the 3 year old is in the bathroom. Then give the 3 year old. Then give the 3 year old 3 cookies and the 5 year old 2 more cookies and the 5 year old thinks its unfair and she got a raw deal.

and this lil 3 year old will pee in the potty all day but pooping??? Shes scared. Will fight me.. physically, fight me to not sit on the potty and then as soon as she’s on it act like an angel that didnt just try to poop all over herself.

I just walk away from the tantrums now. They’ll be aight.

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6. "The fear of pooping...I thought I was alone in that struggle. "
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The oldest was so afraid of pooping when he was 1, we would often catch him straining like fuck to keep poop in while his body was like "no can do chief, I gotta lot of shit on my to-do list and it is BACKED. UP."

now that he's older he's poop shy. he will pee in front of the pope but will only bust a duke if it's against his will, as in, his body is making the choice independent of his will. I know this is true because he always has a super confused look on his face when it's happening.


That cookie stuff...oh man. I'm just now getting a taste of that. The youngest now gives a fuck and will scream if he's not included if something different is given to his brother.

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15. "lol @ he always has a super confused look on his face "
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funny description

>The oldest was so afraid of pooping when he was 1, we would
>often catch him straining like fuck to keep poop in while his
>body was like "no can do chief, I gotta lot of shit on my
>to-do list and it is BACKED. UP."
>
>now that he's older he's poop shy. he will pee in front of the
>pope but will only bust a duke if it's against his will, as
>in, his body is making the choice independent of his will. I
>know this is true because he always has a super confused look
>on his face when it's happening.
>
>
>That cookie stuff...oh man. I'm just now getting a taste of
>that. The youngest now gives a fuck and will scream if he's
>not included if something different is given to his brother.

  

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7. "My daughter is 3 so I feel you and know what you’re talking about "
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It is like dealing with a drunk person 24/7.

  

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10. "perfect description of a toddler"
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its like a drunk white women in college

happy, crying..

bubbly, crying

dancing.. then crying

and this is before breakfast.



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14. "All of that plus fighting to get in the car, taking their clothes off"
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Keep their hands to themselves, food everywhere, pissing themselves, etc

  

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11. "3 is worse than 2"
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“So back we go to these questions — friendship, character… ethics.”

  

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29. "age or amount of kids?"
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3 as an age is a test in mental strength

3 as an amount of kids is a test in how much your liver can handle

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33. "Age"
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Everyone talks about terrible 2’s but 3 is tougher IMO. I do not know, thankfully, but I would imagine 3 kids is tougher than 2, you are outnumbered.

“So back we go to these questions — friendship, character… ethics.”

  

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12. "Single mom here- Tough Love"
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I dealt with a 3 year old tantrum ALONE in public in a high traffic area.

Child laid out on the floor. I picked her up and told her that if this continues there will no toys, no fun, no tablet, no treats. I meant it.

My kid doesn't have another parent to bounce her tantrums off of. Those tantrums ended within 3 months.

I observe my friends kids' with two parents they can play off of, the kids go wild. My single parent friends' kids know that parent in charge has no time for bullshit and therefore punishments (aka deprivation) will occur.

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23. "when my wife has them at home all day.. they chill af"
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but when I work from home or as soon as I walk thru the door they turn UP

its excitement but its also because they know they can get away with more because I haven’t been home.

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25. "it's the opposite here...or it can switch. "
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the boys are chill with me but when mom shows up they turn the hell up.

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36. "You are a great dad! Don't stress it"
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I think letting them get it out also helps. It just can't be used to manipulate the parents and caretakers.

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16. "dialogue..."
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how do you handle something like that?

I think I give off an authoritative vibe to kids because they never give me a problem- my kid, grandkids, other people kids so I’m interested in your perspective. my son and I butt heads a lot about discipline. Like, I think naps are a “requirement”. he’ll be like, “mom, they just got up” or “they’re kids...thats what they do”

idc. when kids start acting up, time to go night night...
reset the mind
kids aren’t built to be up all day



  

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19. "So that's how that works huh? Just tell em to go 'night night' and boom...."
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they go and fall asleep....
WTDTA????!!!



"Get ready....for your blessing....."
"Bury me by my Grand-Grand and when you can come follow me"

  

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20. "yes. using my grand-daughter as an example..."
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she hates taking naps so the threat of taking one she’ll act right. she suffers from ADD, when she starts bouncing off walls I make her nap. I also explain to her why she has to take one...what she done wrong. She’s 9 but given her behavior/medical issues, napping work.

her parents let her run wild tho...

  

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22. "my kids scoff in the face of naps....they on some Nas when it comes to s..."
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sleeping



"Get ready....for your blessing....."
"Bury me by my Grand-Grand and when you can come follow me"

  

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38. "in our house...yes. sleep training FTW. "
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for whatever reason, people get sleep training fucked up and think it's just putting the kid down and letting them cry it out.

far from it.

for us it was a data-intense regimented exercise in strict time management. it was hard work but the pay off is being able to put them down say the key phrase and walk the fuck out.

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26. "We do emotional resets"
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naps are off the table since they are on a tight sleep/eat/play schedule and changing one thing like a random nap fucks the entire day

when melt downs happen we just reset using a variety of methods each one in choice form "you COULD do the thing we're asking or you COULD take a time out / go without ____ / not get _____" it's an escalating system that ends with a consequence

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31. "RE: We do emotional resets"
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>naps are off the table since they are on a tight
>sleep/eat/play schedule and changing one thing like a random
>nap fucks the entire day

fair point, lol.

>when melt downs happen we just reset using a variety of
>methods each one in choice form "you COULD do the thing we're
>asking or you COULD take a time out / go without ____ / not
>get _____" it's an escalating system that ends with a
>consequence

ok, we’re on the same page.

  

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51. "we did some version of this to."
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this was also to help them process decision making as they grow older.

Y'all buy those labels, I was born supreme

  

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17. "the 2s and 3s were the most fun to me."
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you see so much growth and learning that they can make decisions. getting speech down, feeding themselves.

my daughter only threw one tantrum that I recall. we were in target and she asked for something. once I said no, she balled out on the floor. I didn't try to reason with her or punishment. just picked her up, put her on my shoulder while she cried. as I was walking in the store, she got herself together and eventually settled into being too distracted by target to keep crying.

I hate seeing folks trying to 'win' the toddler fights. it looks crazy to me trying to reason with someone that clearly isn't logical.

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30. "it's weird, they don't bust out tantrums in public, they do them in priv..."
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and yes, you can never ever win a toddler fight, they don't even live on planet earth.

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21. "I need the definition of a tantrum"
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cause to me, anytime a kid is screaming and crying to get what they want.. thats a tantrum. Do they have to fall out for it to be a real tantrum?


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24. "If you gotta ask........."
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I thought I'd seen my kids have a tantrum until I was in Target one day and saw a REAL tantrum...I felt bad for dude...he was being tried for REAL for real....

Lil dude was screaming at first...but THEN he straight up fell on the floor really REALLY screaming...body went limp when dad tried to scoop him up, then he started scratching everything within reach...face was turning red...though the kid was about to burst into flames! .....

Our youngest came close to that just once...and oddly enough it was when we were also inside a store...it was Dick's Sporting Goods... I had to carry her out because she was just being rowdy and crying all loud.


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32. "yeah.. my kids have cried and screamed in public a"
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but the back arch full on tantrum is reserved for the house. Weirded us out at first because everyone always said our kids were great in public.

but as soon as we get to the car.. smh.

so when we see other parents going thru it we just give each other the “we must be lucky” since we never dealt with it.

my sister said one time my youngest tried to do the fall out in a store but she used the aunt jedi mind trick on her.

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27. "there is screaming and crying and then there is..."
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the tantrum threshold is crossed once the back is arched and the arms go up or they flop on the ground. crying and screaming is just that, crying and screaming - HOWEVER once the crying and screaming turns to coughing/wheezing/choking and a full Viola Davis moist face thats a kind of tantrum as well

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34. "do y'all all have multiple kids?"
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i'm just asking cuz i have an "only child" and he's never displayed any of this behavior.

maybe we just got lucky.

now, i'm not saying he's perfect by any means, but no tantrums or just crazy behavior in general, ever. he'll cry about things at times he's not allowed to have his way (and even those aren't THAT frequent) but it's more of a lonely, sad cry vs. a pissed off, lash out at the denial of his desires kind of thing.

just wondering if any of it has to due w/ having siblings or not.

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35. "We have 2 girls. The youngest one is the only one"
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That comes close to tantrums....

But there was a noticeable difference in temperament with the oldest after the youngest hit around 3 years old.

  

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37. "i think people have different definitions of tantrums"
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and no shade but if someone else spent a week at the crib when your kid was 2 or 3 they prolly would say your kid threw a tantrum.

every kid is different tho

maybe you got lucky or your wife had to deal with it while you weren’t home

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39. "hard to say. "
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the one who throws tantrums is the older one.

the baby's the one who will just be joyful while his brother is losing it. "what the fuck is wrong with that guy? an-E-way, what are you doin'?"

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45. "doubt that it's related to having siblings."
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my daughter was the only child when she tried it in Target. my son, 5 yrs younger, never did it.

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40. "3 yr old boy here...."
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Def know the struggle.

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41. "I have 2 boys that are 21 months and 4 month old. Dear God!"
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When the younger one was born, the older one lost his mind. Still trying to get used to the new normal. He is not even two yet. *SIGHS*

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42. "6 months from now things will be amazing. "
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its a moment to moment struggle to get the oldest to learn body awareness and that running or swinging his arms around will lead to his younger brother getting knocked the fuck over.

i feel bad for younger brother at times becuase he wants to be down so bad, whatever older bro is doing he wants to do it too. I'm like...this is the rest of your life bro!

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43. "Reward systems are nice but you also need a consequence system"
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A chore, time out etc.

  

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48. "Timeout stopped working here. So now I threaten pajamas "
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If she needs to chill I try to get her to sit and meditation pose
But if she’s really wild I bring out the pajamas and tell her she’s about to go to bed for the day/night. It could be 2pm, she about to lay in bed until tomorrow.
She straightens up real quick after that.

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44. "Turned on our 65” 4K TV last night..."
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Big ass vertical white line down the middle with a radial crack at the bottom looking like a hi tech exclamation point......

  

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53. "are you typing to us from jail?"
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54. "As a "glass half full" guy. I realized that it provided an upgrade justi..."
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lol....
but I did tell them they gonna have to hand over their piggy banks to help pay for a replacement.....

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57. "salute. im kind of the same way but only after working it out internally..."
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46. "Haha, mine's 2.8 months, no real tantrums yet"
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He's had night terrors before which are pretty scary to witness as a parent because you legit think something must be physically wrong. Screams for an hour straight like he's in incredible pain.

But going by this thread so far that's definitely preferable to all out tantrums

  

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47. "2.8 months? lmao.. never seen the decimal used before"
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always crack up when people say 20 months or 34 months.

divide by 12, carry the 1.

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49. "Lol! I just find it easier to write"
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52. ""almost 3""
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56. "3 months"
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those 4 days arent that big of a deal.

I’m just having fun but the “my baby is 32 months old” was always weird to
me.

anyone ever say they are 43 years and 4 months old?

why is it a thing with babies? development stages or just people doing too much?

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55. ""spare the rod, spoil the child" Proverbs 13:24"
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58. "hitting three year olds usually not the move. def set boundaries, thoug..."
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60. ""SHEEEEEEEET!(c)R. Clay Davis, it doesn't take a full blown spanking..."
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but a lil pop on the bottom will get their attention and let them know their behavior is not acceptable. At a point it will just become a look or a change of tone in voice.

Or have y'all gone full hotthyng up in here?

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61. "nah.. when you see a kid cringe "
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because they think you are going to hit them..

nah b.

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62. "I can get the same fear reaction without physical threats"
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Aint no need to hit at that point. It's all about poking and prodding.
I hunt for what my daughter wants to do the least or what she'll react to like it pains her and I go from there.
Worst case scenario, I make her do wall squats

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64. "i don't think it's super helpful when they're in full tantrum mode"
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plus, if you hit them and it doesn't work, then what? hit them more? hit them harder? I just don't think hitting at 2-3 is the best way. I wasn't really casting judgement, and definitely am not 'soft' on my lil man, but I just don't use hitting as a tool to 'make him a man'.

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63. "why spank? you can inflict more damage with words and emotions"
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response written in a provocative manner intentionally.

I don't think I judge parenting on this point but its not in my bag of tricks.

me and wife will snatch his ass up and hold him if he's acting like a monkey on acid or snatch him up and plant him in a chair for time out if hes reeeeeeally playing like he doesnt hear us.

I think it's down to what the kid responds to and what drives the kid. The oldest wouldn't respond to a spanking or a pop appropriately...I think. The youngest, man, who even knows how his brain works, hes kind of an alien to be honest.

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59. "lmao.. knowing damn well you aren’t religious "
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65. "My boys just turned 10 this week. I MISS ALL that ish. "
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10 is great. but man I look at the pictures of them from that age and it gets me misty eyed.



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66. "this is the cruel joke of it all. "
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I know when they get older and more independent I will wish for this times

I know that everyday SHOULD be cherished because they are growing and changing at a rate beyond comprehension in comparison to adult changes

The stress, the frustration...these are the things that I will remember fondly.

really crazy how that happens.

I was watching the boys play a few days ago and I was getting reeeeeally emotional becuase I knew there would never be another moment like that again.

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