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Unscientifically, I think we can generalize that most men are easily engaged in sex and come relatively easily compared to most women. They generally don't require much work in order to climax.
There are women who are easy to please. God bless them. They are wonderful, even when they'r'e lazy, because they make us feel like super studs. But there are also all kinds of other women, ranging from women who don't really know what pleases them to women who have no idea if they're even capable of having an orgasm to women who only come with one specific position or who require a certain amount of time or a certain type of foreplay. And on top of that, every couple fits together differently. I don't consider myself a casanova but I had one lover who had never been able to come during intercourse... something about the way we fit together was different though. I've probably had the opposite extreme for a partner too.
>I anecdotally ask my women friends married and single, and >most say they have to do all the work in gearing up the man >for romance.
For every one of your woman friends who feels that way I know a guy who cooks a steak dinner, compliments her, does the dishes, puts the kids to bed and then rubs her feet while sitting through some romcom or network true crime show, only to have her fall asleep on the couch. I'm one of them.
Despite that, we work OK together sexually because the pattern works and we understand the way her body works. It's not as frequent as I would really prefer, but if we had sex every day, maybe even every week, she wouldn't come 90% of the time, no matter how much I put into it, and sex is much much much better when we both come.
Regarding your comment about how older men have much less stamina, I think that's not necessarily true. The older we get, the finer the line gets between being overly sensitive (ie when we haven't had sex in three weeks) and not ready to perform well... so figuring out
-when to relieve our own tension in order not to come too fast when the opportunity for sex arises -but not to relieve our own tension in too close proximity to when the opportunity arises, so we can still perform for her and come ourselves
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