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How is it a generation too early?
Trauma is trauma, no matter if it is physical or mental, and no matter at what age it occurs. This is a situation where abuse begets abuse, and for black folks, that descends from the Slaves being abused by slave owners. That experience was carried over with how slaves treated their children, and continued to carry over from generation to generation.
The daughter is no different than any other African American child or young adult, and there are many who have experienced / and are experiencing similar mistreatment. Our culture is quite familiar with that dysfunction, and it just continues to get disregarded and passed down.
I got yelled at and whipped as a child for what was perceived as misbehaving or “acting -up” , and I’m pretty sure there are certain complexions that I have because of it. That was the discipline that was implemented by my parents, because that was the discipline that was implemented on them. And I was INCORRECTLY taught that that was a part of parenting, and to shut up about it, just like my parents were taught. However ,it was just abuse begetting abuse. But the difference is, and what our parents weren’t taught, were the different choices and options with punishing a child, and those options and choices didn’t and don’t have anything to do with physically harming the child.
So, if I ever have children, that abusive form of discipline will not be actualized when it comes to addressing my children. We ( our generation) simply learned a more humane behavior, and refused to acknowledge that “spare the rod, spoil the child nonsense.”
So I agree with you that it is learned behavior.
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