1. "I'm miserable, I think I need therapy" In response to Reply # 0
I'm not happy with my life.
I feel like I've been pretending and barely holding on.
I have no passion for anything and all I want is to waste my life watching TV.
I resent myself for just being so lazy. I wallow in my own misery and spiral into self destructive behavior. Nothing dangerous like drugs or alcohol. But destructive in letting my job responsibilities slid, not saving money and spending on my CC. Not trying hard enough at home with the wife.
I'm not happy. I know I'm not happy and I know its within my power to change it. I don't know how and some part of me knows how and yet I don't. I hate it.
żIf a fat guy falls in the woods and there is no one around to see it, do the trees laugh?
10. "At least you know where to start... take some time to figure out..." In response to Reply # 9
...what YOU want. What makes YOU happy. Who YOU are.
There is nothing you can't do if you put your heart and head into it and keep at it.
Seems corny, but it really has to come from within.
I was in a similar position years ago when I looked up one day and realized I didn't like who I was becoming. Tore it all down and decided to be the person that I always wanted to be, no matter what.
We don't realize how many bags we carry around until we let go.
to think about something you would do for FREE...and that's the path to finding your passion.
Talk to someone - if you're employed, check to see if your job offers 'employee assistance program' (EAP); you should be able to speak to someone and not lose work days.
I hope for you that this is just a phase. I think most of last year I felt like $hit. I have a decent job, I got a cool family etc...but I just felt empty and unfulfilled and I started getting a little self-destructive. It happens.
You aren't alone, don't ever forget that. It's not just you, but it feels like it. But it's not.
BrooklynWHAT Member since Jun 15th 2007 85073 posts
Wed Jan-08-20 10:11 AM
7. "why a male therapist specifically?" In response to Reply # 6
just curious. one of my best friends is a therapist and i asked him whether the thought race/gender/orientation (he's gay & black) mattered in a therapist and he said for him both seeking and giving therapy he didn't feel like it was a big thing.
11. "i meant to tag walihorse, but apparently pressed the wrong link." In response to Reply # 7
anyway i recently changed the sex of my therapist to male, particularly black males (unicorns in the mental health industry) to see if I would get the same/different/no results perspective as i did with a female therapist. so far, what i notice w/ the one I'm with is he points out the -isms from society to make me feel not good enough, same shit i heard from the women. yet he pointed out something that left me numb in one session, he said-it can literally drive one crazy when your mental health care is ran by the people who are the reason you need mental health care.
legsdiamond Member since May 05th 2011 79594 posts
Wed Jan-08-20 03:42 PM
14. "Mo money mo problems" In response to Reply # 0
Cars paid off.. yay, engine lights on... nay!!! I haaaate dealerships so I’m trying to find a place but I don’t want to spend money running to different places and being inconvenienced.
Garbage disposal stopped working. I kinda remember putting something in there and thinking it might be a bad idea but it wasn’t a lot. I thought about dude who said he put uncooked rice in his disposal.
My confidence is high as hell right now. I have to start budgeting for real tho, I got this raise and been on some “get whatever you liiike”
Linking up with my brotha from anotha tonight. Wish I had more friends like this in Charlotte. He was here but moved away.
**************** TBH the fact that you're even a mod here fits squarely within Jag's narrative of OK-sanctioned aggression, bullying, and toxicity. *shrug*
19. "Misophonia isn't a mental disorder, IMHO" In response to Reply # 18 Thu Jan-09-20 11:57 AM by flipnile
>misophonia too (it's nice to have a name for how much I hate >how much hearing peoples nasty mouf noises pains me)
I've got this, and really think about it:
Most of the noises that drive people crazy are COMPLETELY UNNECESSARY.
No reason to chew food with an open mouth, talk w/ food in said mouth, whistle, tap one's foot at the office, slurp soup, banging on their keyboard, clicking pens, popping gum, etc.
Not one of those things is necessary to what they are doing.
It's always slobs trying to validate their slovenly behaviour by making it seem like YOU are the crazy one for not wanting to hear someone crunching chips while you are trying to read.
legsdiamond Member since May 05th 2011 79594 posts
Thu Jan-09-20 11:58 AM
21. "Ionno fam... if the sounds of the office make you that upset" In response to Reply # 19
It just might be a disorder.
**************** TBH the fact that you're even a mod here fits squarely within Jag's narrative of OK-sanctioned aggression, bullying, and toxicity. *shrug*
25. "One of the biggest mindfucks was people that would clown me..." In response to Reply # 0
...telling me later in life how they respected how I stuck to my guns and did my own thing, no matter how much shit I caught.
I really appreciate the people that have expressed this to me, because it completely changed my perception of difficult experiences in the past. Didn't realize at the time that those were character-building experiences... only wisdom from getting old has shown me that.
Ironically, being weird really helped give me the confidence to think and do for myself. Not having to meet anyone's expectations but my own.
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