I dont think they can be the same kind of friend that your regular friends are. I've worked with my boss for 10 years at 3 different companies and I would say were friends. But theres always a thin line you dont want to cross because you dont want to jeopardize your professional relationship. That being said we definitely have a trust that we wouldn't ever do each other dirty either.
Dj Joey Joe Member since Sep 01st 2007 13770 posts
Fri Sep-06-19 07:36 PM
8. "I Agree, Sometimes You Don't Need Co-Workers All Up In Your Biz" In response to Reply # 6
>personal and working relationships intermingling >is a recipe for disaster
It still depends on the working environment but also depends on the boss, some managers/head personnel are very friendly and sociable while others you can tell they don't don't give fuck about what you do when you aren't working; but you will get a vibe which one they are before forcing something that will get you in the end.
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9. "Yea arms' length for sure." In response to Reply # 5
>I dont think they can be the same kind of friend that your >regular friends are. I've worked with my boss for 10 years at >3 different companies and I would say were friends. But theres >always a thin line you dont want to cross because you dont >want to jeopardize your professional relationship. That being >said we definitely have a trust that we wouldn't ever do each >other dirty either.
I play basketball with the president of my (small) company on Wednesday mornings and we definitely have a friendly enough relationship. Like we can bust balls on the court, make just-beyond small talk off the court, and talk business in and out of the office with a fluidity that goes beyond the general awkwardness that typically comes when speaking with your superiors.
But, I also prolly wouldn't invite the guy out for beers on a Friday nite. Know what I mean. Haha. Arm's length. Cause for one I don't necessarily trust him due to the professional relationship. Things can sour quick.
7. "definitely a weird balancing act" In response to Reply # 0
it sucks when you have a boss that you cant be friendly with. when you have one that you can actually enjoy doing at least business trips with though? cool. just have to remember you work together and keep everything in that perspective.
when i was a manager i always tried to have a good relationship with my reports. in all honestly just treat them with respect and as human beings. not as bodies that make money for the company.
with my current boss i dont try to hang out with him but when we go out on business trips we let loose. i try to make sure we have no animosity towards each other. im good with that.
A boss' objective is to wring as much value out of you for as little money as you're willing to take. There's no model for friendship congruent with that relationship, as it takes exploitation as definitional.
Or, alternately, if you disagree - make them prove it by treating you like a human being who is made free by God to understand your relationship with your labor on your own terms, and terms which can change from day to day because, again, you're a human person. Some days work is an expression of creativity and love. Some days it's a way to pay the bills. Misunderstanding this means your boss doesn't view you as a free person.
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