to be clear I'm talking building an emotional connection with someone else
a co-worker, classmate, etc
no physical cheating, I gotta stress this

I'm talking the "work wife/husband" thing
the texting/e-mailing all day
the lunch dates
the inside jokes
the deep convos
the building up of emotional intimacy and connection
again, they ain't smashing, but everything else is there

Basically Jim and Pam in The Office the first 2 seasons

Remember Pam had a man the whole time

Clearly something is off in the relationship if your partner is off making emotional connections with someone else right?

But we spend more time at work than we do at home

It's only natural that men and women around each other 40+ hours a week, friendships and connections develop right?

I'm struggling with this now

One part of me says the game is the game and women are always choosing
if his game is tighter and one day she comes home on some "I choose him" than that's all she wrote
I'm not on some trying to control women or jealousy shit
I can only be me

Another part of me is pissed at dude's audacity and disrespect
He knows she has a man
but keeps on like it's all good
I'm the type that if a female tells me she has a man then she's dead to me and I'll keep it strictly cordial
no flirting, no talking all day, no nothing
but every dude ain't like me

So it's either
Let it go and let her make her choice (can't control anyone)
or
See dude and make it clear she's spoken for (Did I mention he's married?)

am I reading this right?

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Could go either way really

don’t lie to yourself man

Shit sucks but life is too short.

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or rather than play games...just end it with her.

She'll know why...no need to explain.

If she wants to be with you, she'll adjust...if not...better to rip the band-aid off now...

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Wasn't no turning back at that point.

Your shit may not be as far gone as my shit, though.

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Verbally, not physically.

If I’m married I’m putting in more work if it’s worth it

It really depends if I’m on top of things. It I’m doing my thing, getting it in I can’t be mad because I slipped up.

You can’t be mad at dude tho, he isn’t in a relationship with you. SHE IS.

If this is the different religion, pendulum swinging going to the Army chick you need to move on b.

She trying to tell you without telling you. Don’t go though her phone either. You don’t want to see that shit b.

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I really can't understand how hard it is to lay your feelings out to your spouse. This situation makes you uncomfortable. Regardless if it is rational or not.

You are each other's FIRST priority, not some random warm body who is giving her attention.

I just know that married people crave attention. Spouses take each other's needs for affection, freshness, newness for granted. Then they throw it all away for a vapid relationship that just filled a need.

When I "cheated" on my ex, I remember the day I decided to cheat. I drove to see my ex and surprise him at work for lunch. I wanted to have an old fashioned make out session in the car. He rejected me that day and later that night when we got home. I was crying the whole weekend and the next man who gave me attention got my phone number.

That was the beginning of the end.

I didn't tell my ex how his rejection made me feel inside. After it was all over, my ex said he felt like he ate something bad and didn't want to kiss me with bad breath, LOL. So stupid but it was more an ongoing thing where he labeled me horny and I felt shamed for wanting him. He thought work and saving for our future was more important than sex.

Don't say it is out of your control. Take your woman away for a staycation in a hotel, have some good deep loving orgasm married sex. Wake up and talk about your feelings. Dont' let a court, lawyer or judge determine your future with your wife.



Take away the guess work.

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a coworker, correct? Or it was?

Because aside from their trust issue, it seems the actual one-on-one workplace dynamic is what seems to be troubling him.


>
>I remember the day I decided to
>cheat. I drove to see my ex and surprise him at work for
>lunch. I wanted to have an old fashioned make out session in
>the car. He rejected me that day and later that night when we
>got home. I was crying the whole weekend and the next man who
>gave me attention got my phone number.
>

I know that as we get older, people don't hit on each other, they plant little seeds. I saw the cheating man frequently and he would say all the right things, get very close to me and stand over me in a way that turned me on.

I am not blaming anyone for my actions. But I think we need to have the difficult conversations to make relationships go the long haul.

I wish I told my ex that his rejection was making me want the arms of another man. I wish my ex told me that my frequent requests for sex made him feel that our future wasn't important.

We could have avoided so many problems and might even still be together. We had worked out so many kinks, but open, honest and immediate communication was not there.

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Thanks for sharing, too

A lot of women take it there when rejected for sex.

Was that the only reason or the last straw?

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who says she just has a friend" - Biz Markie

"Dressed up like an evil villain dressed up like a soccer dad"

Like has she broken down to you about having feelings or attraction for this guy or something?? Or does she vigorously deny there's anything to worry about? Speaking of which - has the issue even been confronted? Or is it more of an insecurities running wild type of thing?

Not trying to minimize anyone's feelings either, I promise. But I've had a number of "work bros" throughout my career (where there was zero zero ZERO attraction whatsoever nor any risk of it) and I figured maybe I could offer some insight from a "work sis" perspective lol..

The thing is, when I went down your list of criteria... I would say that a lot of those criteria fit my "work bro" dynamics as well (except for the lunch "date" thing... sometimes you just grab food with people man lol. And now that I think about it, it was almost never one-on-one and always in a small group).

With my last work bro, I actually made a point to become friends with his wifey also. So, outside of work, they're a package deal. And if I check my phone, I may have a ton of text exchanges with him but I also have a significant number with her as well as group chats with the two of them together. If I hang out with them, it's usually through her because she's the social secretary of the two. I've met a bunch of their friends and family and they've met a bunch of mine, etc. It's honestly just the most platonic vibe on the planet, and the thought of anything even remotely suggestive turns my stomach.

But if she was the insecure type (which I don't suspect she is but I don't involve myself in their relationship), I could see such a partner itemizing all of those things you mention and perhaps connecting dots that aren't necessarily connected.

In my most recent case, I think the work bro and I became tight because we were the only 2 black people in technical roles in our unit, which just helped in terms of having a support system/alliance when bs arose as it always tends to for black professionals. Plus, our offices were situated across the hall from one another so there was always opportunity for banter or venting or whatever. He was also one of the strongest with his skillset around, so I eagerly and proudly sought help/mentorship from him many times too. And in the reverse, he needed less from me on anything technical but I often had his back politically in meetings or to leadership or whatever.

So ya. Unless there's been some confession (from at least one party) of feelings or attraction, I don't know that I would read as much into the dynamic. Careers are stressful. I always leave every job with at least a couple super-close friends. For me, alliances are as much about coping as they are about networking. I don't know the age range here either, though, which might be a factor. What industry are we talking about?

They have to get licensed and she just completed the last one
Around a month ago she was constantly mentioning dude and how he wasn't making the grade
The first couple of times I didn't care
but after hearing his name more than 3x my antenna went up

I chose to file that for later and not say anything

More recently right before I left on my trip
I happened to glance over as she was texting one day after work
and out of the corner of my eye saw his initials in the imessage
I could also see that it was a long text thread

I was flying overseas so I again decided to let it go
Then I had the damm dream on the way back

I'm thinking she built a connection with dude based on the rough time we were going through
but if we talked and worked it out
why is the connection still ongoing?

if your antenna first went up about a month ago, and you've departed for and returned from an international trip since then.

I do sympathize with the way this has been bothering you so much you've even dreamed about it That's sad. I think your girl would/should want to know that.

There's only so much a stranger/outsider can say, since we don't know yall. But ya I think you're displaying clear symptoms of need-to-communicate-itis. You are bottling this trust issue up inside you and it is not only making you feel uneasy, but it could be affecting other areas of your relationship/communications too (you say you two have been having a rough patch lately).

I also think it might help to just take some deep breaths over this, and ask yourself even IF she was feeling connected to dude, how deep could such a connection get in the span of a few weeks.

But judging just from my own personal work sis view?? If it was me it would literally just be some funny dude from training that I'm telling my man about *shrug* You mention below that you're going to a hh with them tomorrow, and I think that's PERFECT. I think work friendships become waaay more sustainable when the SOs know everyone.

There's a risk that making the friendship a "thing" could multiply into more and bigger fights down the road, unless you anticipate her quitting the job she JUST got that she's CLEARLY enjoying, making friends at, etc.
So ya. I say think about what's sustainable here. Not just for the two of you, but for you personally. It may not actually be your relationship.

that's what marriage is about.

I'm thinking you're making this post after you discussed it and then she kept on

she needs to know that it bothers you. period. you're allowed to feel how you feel about it

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That would be a bad life choice on HER part.

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on this site are always so telling.

damn yall, lol

Mori putting in work but also revealing that once a good girl goes bad.. she gone.

I know people need attention but some folks need so much it doesn’t matter what you do.

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Let me finish these studies right quick..


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...then I'm cool. I'm sure my girl finds other dudes sexy and wants to fuck them. Just like I want to fuck a bunch of women.

If it's just a coworker that she laughs at his jokes then goes home, then no problem.

If things ever got active (lunch dates, phone calls, texting, social media, etc.) then I'd bounce, period. Decision has already been made.




Don't et anyone shame you into thinking you're "insecure." You are not, just rational.




Also, hollering at other women (you don't even have to get their number) is a great way to keep your game sharp as a dude.

is trustworthy or not.

In this instance, what would be healthiest and most mature is not denial but rather communication.

That's about as much as anyone could credibly advise, not knowing the intricacies of his relationship.



>Don't et anyone shame you into thinking you're "insecure." You
>are not, just rational.

>In this instance, what would be healthiest and most mature is
>not denial but rather communication.

Assume that she is cheating... she's already shown that she's not honest.

I'd recommend that he makes his own mind up, and not to dismiss his own thoughts and feelings about the situation.

based on what he described to us. Only friendship.

It's not like he said he saw texts between his girl and her coworker about meeting up to fuck. He just said they text a lot and grab food sometimes.

Texting a member of the opposite sex is grounds for dismissal now? What kind of sharia workplace law bullshit is this?? lol

Yall are projecting


>Assume that she is cheating... she's already shown that she's
>not honest.
>
>I'd recommend that he makes his own mind up, and not to
>dismiss his own thoughts and feelings about the situation.

However, he knows his SO better than any of us.

They’ve been arguing. Maybe it’s totally his insecurity or maybe there is a pattern?

It’s rare that people have these types of emotional affairs when everything is going good.

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>It’s rare that people have these types of emotional affairs
>when everything is going good.

that's why the SO's are so often surprised cuz it seems to come out nowhere.

maybe the happy times are delusions on one side or the other, but still.

Y'all buy those labels, I was born supreme

If they are happy then they aren’t looking to connect with anyone else

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I see your point, but I don't believe that all of them are looking. sometimes relationships form without any intent. then become something else.

Y'all buy those labels, I was born supreme

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Cheating, infidelity, suspicion, insecurity, jealousy are natural feelings in a relationship. A hot woman or man or someone who is more their "type" can make anyone feel uneasy in a relationship.

But how about we talk about these feelings??? How about we explore why someone wants to cheat? How about we accept that people are human and have emotional needs. Try to bond with her instead of breaking up, if that doesn't work then yes, move on. But don't think this won't come up again in a romantic endeavor.

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>
>But how about we talk about these feelings??? How about we
>explore why someone wants to cheat? How about we accept that
>people are human and have emotional needs. Try to bond with
>her instead of breaking up, if that doesn't work then yes,
>move on. But don't think this won't come up again in a
>romantic endeavor.

Preach

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No idea if dude will be there or not
I do want to talk to her about this
Debating whether to bring it up tonight or wait until after tomorrow

I was gone for 2 weeks and got back a couple of days ago
So everything right now is honeymoon lovey dovey

But on the flight back home
I had a dream that I was on the phone with her
We were both outside, talking normally
and the call started breaking up
me: hello? hello?
her: *calls out dude's name like trying to get his attention*

I wake up

I'm in the plane like WTF? No subconscious Freudian interpretation needed on that one

We've had our rough patches (the Army thing, which is DOA now that she has a banking job)

I can see the scenario plain as day:

She shows up at this new gig, new faces, new scene, new training class
everyone is happy to be there, best behavior, attractive men and women everywhere
Get assigned to groups, everyone intros themselves, all smiles
"OMG, we have such and such in common!"
Cliques form, good vibes all around, numbers are exchanged for the group chat

Meanwhile at home, it's not all sweet
there's been arguments, drama, tears, etc
We love each other, we wanna make it work, we talk clearly and decide to stay together

Weeks go by at work
dude is courteous, professional, etc etc
work texts are exchanged
lunches
etc etc
you know the rest

Have you read the text?

Are you assuming the worst.

Do you know and just don’t want to go there?

Just wondering how sure you are about this work romance.

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You saw Chernobyl?
that's what I feel like right now, the board is blinking red

There's no "gotcha" text
Just feeling something is off

Damn.

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Keep your thoughts and emotions to yourself until you figure things out for yourself. Try not to treat her weird, or act distant. Just observe. Talk to her like normal.

Maybe you're tripping, maybe you're not. Figure it out first before you go and tip your hand and start getting the "you're just insecure!s" thrown at you.

just do it.

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Maybe witnessing the vibe in person will help. Maybe the guy's a total slob? Or maybe he's not even straight?!

Another thing, and sorry if this is overstepping but: the way you talk about the dynamic is so... inevitable sounding.

As if there's just no alternative outcome to her being around men other than you than her instantly becoming more attracted.

You should know that, even IF that was the case, it would expose a lot more about her than you.

Regardless of what's going on at her job, think better about yourself.

I mean, you know your partner better than we ever could.. but tbh your happiness shouldn't depend on her every breath and action. That's such a volatile life. So if you're confident, based on her history or character, that she's the flitty flighty type who can't befriend another guy without fucking him... perhaps such a person is not a good match for you??

Challenge yourself to elevate past emotionally immature tactics. Contrary to what many in this post are recommending, a lot of women find insecure stubborn emotionally-closed-off men who refuse to communicate extremely frustrating and unattractive.

Strive for emotional maturity for YOU. For YOUR mental health and attractiveness. And if you two are truly a good match for the long run, then the communication and emotional maturity will help your relationship too. If not, then it'll help your future relationship(s). Just don't make it about a few lunches and texts. This sounds way deeper than that.

It's wait and see tonight

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If it goes wrong its going to go REALLY wrong.

Not only did you get drunk and step to ol boy she's been confiding in, but if the nigga whoop you then its really gonna be over.

He comforts her AND he can fight? What reason she got to stay?

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All I can think of, lol. That scene made my soul burn with rage.

Clifton absolutely BODIED that scene!

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after years of segmenting our platonic relationship from her actual happy marriage, husband was a nice guy, she started complaining about him. especially at happy hours and out of the office events. i'd always pretended not to hear, or i'd change the topic. soon she started hinting at a separation. one night out, she invited me over to her apt, not the house she shared with her husband. i was also having similar relationship problems at the time. as much as i wanted to go i didn't, but knew after that if we'd have continued we'd be fucking and the friendship would be over. we haven't had a significant conversation since that night...years ago, except social media pleasantries, we also dont work together anymore.

it always starts off harmless, then you add some drinks, then it turns into "it didn't mean anything or it just happened"

Don't talk to her about this...

Communicating your feeling about this will only tell her you're worried about her leaving you....

Do NOT give her the pleasure of knowing that.

Instead, start hittin' the gym heavy and working on things you're passionate about.

Get you some new gear, and step your overall appearance game up.

Holla to other women and display to yourself that you have options too.

Sad fact is, people are only as loyal as their options.

The point is not to win her or prove to her that you are the man. The point is to learn to communicate how something makes you feel in a masculine and honest way.

Every relationship is about growth.


Hopping from person to person only leaves people feeling empty, unfulfilled and disposable. It doesn't matter if he meets his dream woman,he will still have to learn to communicate about a difficult topic.

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He should start self-improvement for HIMSELF, and not to save a relationship or win anyone over, etc.

I recommend that all men self-improve. Having growth and hobbies means he can generate his own happiness, which means that he's not dependent on anyone else for that, which means he's independent in that area.

AT ALL

I'm telling homie to control what he can...which is HIMSELF!

She gonna do what she gonna do regardless.

He needs to start focusing more on self.

Hopping to the next person seems right. After all that is how I found my dream woman. But as you said the fundamental need for communication remains to assert yourself in a clear way to really be the man. One of the strongest things Mahershala's character from S3 of True Detective did was tell his wife in a conversation that something she was doing could actually make him cry.

Taking shots in the dark/that's a bad call
Going straight for your head/ gotta saw it off

>The point is not to win her or prove to her that you are the
>man. The point is to learn to communicate how something makes
>you feel in a masculine and honest way.
>
>Every relationship is about growth.
>
>
>Hopping from person to person only leaves people feeling
>empty, unfulfilled and disposable. It doesn't matter if he
>meets his dream woman,he will still have to learn to
>communicate about a difficult topic.


^ ^ ^This is surgically on-point!

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Just sayin

He gotta see this dude tomorrow and peep the chemistry.

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lol, all of a sudden I read this differently.

Not trying to be rude but this advice basically tells him to give up on this relationship.

So yeah. If he focused on himself and hit the gym and did all the things he wanted to do to make him attractive to more people..

What you think she is going to be doing?

Waiting for him?

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I would also make sure to punch him just so he gets the message.

On the real, forget about this specific dude and focus on what’s going on w you and your lady. There’s always gonna be dudes around. If you and your lady are straight then they won’t matter.

Or just punch the guy at happy hour tomorrow. And punch the guy after that, and the guy after that on into infinity.

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and drop a link for your people

also plz don't do that.

www.engadgethd.com - the other stuff i'm looking at

This was back like...lets see...I moved in 2013...s maybe it started in 2010? 2011?

This was when I was heavily into djing, and my wife got sick of talking about it/hearing about it. I knew a female dj that lived in Atlanta, so we just started texting about the bs of getting gigs/promoters...dj shit. I actually came to the A and hung with her one night. She was djing, I was drinking on her tab, it was cool. Now, I had known her for years...she's my ex sister in law, so I'd known her since she was in high school. I never looked at her as somebody I would smash if given the opportunity..I just always saw her as a peer...somebody I could talk shop with and bounce ideas off of and trade music..somebody who was invested in this (djing) as much as I was. The emotional part came in because, again, this is someone who understood what I was going through, and somebody I could give advice to. Her presence was important, because I was receiving full support from this person...something I wasnt getting at home anymore.

When we moved to Atlanta in 2013, she asked if I could cover one of her gigs and I told her I would. The family was still in Charlotte, so I called wifey and told her that I had fell into a gig. When she asked me how I got it, I told her. Don't know why I thought she'd be okay with that...but she wasnt, lol. Needless to say 6 years later I still hear about it...and how it bothers her that she'll never know the full extent of the relationship between me and her. I told her (wifey) why I did it, and she made me feel guilty for it. I guess she had a right to...she was busy with home stuff and here I am djing 5 nights a week. Anyway...it's prolly just about attention. We all like to have attention from the opposite sex, whether we'd really cross the line or not. Go and meet ol boy...not to be Bad Ass husband or anything, but acknowledgement can go a long way in these tyoes of situations




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I have not been on that side of the equation, but people tend to be shopping around when something isn't right at home. That is clearly a generalization. Do you feel any kind of disconnect between the two of you?

Long ass text threads is sign one.

Women do goofy shit like invite their options around their SO in some form or capacity. Maybe it's to convince themselves they aren't doing anything wrong. I digress. She already mentioning him at home. And she inviting you to the happy hour. Sign two.

They already spend mad time at work together. Sign 3.

You got that feeling in the pit of your stomach. Sign 4. the fact that you're even posting this lets me know you ain't somebody that's willing to fly off the handle on some jealous shit. You ain't crazy fam.

Tell her you don't feel comfortable with it and be willing to walk away from the shit. at that point she can stop bullshitting herself (sign 2) and make a conscious decision to decide if she's gonna lie to you about their relationship or not. From there, if she is on some bullshit, she's gonna make you feel like you're crazy because you won't have any proof until you go through her phone. But at that point you did what you're supposed to do.

Cheating is a gradual process for women generally speaking. If you don't say anything, she's gonna feel comfortable enough to build another relationship IN FRONT OF YOU. Then she'll lie to you to go hang out with him outside of work. Why it's happening is another post, but it's happening so this is my advice on how to deal with it. Best thing you can do is dead the shit now and leave with what you have. The longer you wait, the more she's gonna convince herself that you ain't shit, until you ain't, then you're gonna be on the losing end.


I've been a work husband twice and I wound up fucking both of them. I was also in your shoes 15 years ago. I let a lot of shit slide and I had to go through her phone to find out she lied to me. I went through that so you wouldn't have to

See, the whole “right in front of your face” shit is what gets me.

I’ve been played like that before.

To see if you are paying attention to the details

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I convinced myself I was tripping and allowed her to do all that fuck shit. Same feeling in my gut and all.

Shit was 15 years ago and even reading this shit got me hot lol

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>Cheating is a gradual process for women generally speaking.

While you see the trouble coming in advance, all she sees is her current innocence.

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>I've been a work husband twice and I wound up fucking both of
>them. I was also in your shoes 15 years ago. I let a lot of
>shit slide and I had to go through her phone to find out she
>lied to me. I went through that so you wouldn't have to
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What kind of organizations/industries are yall working in that you can even get away with shitting where you eat like this???

Off the strength of this post I thought about each and every friendship or clique I've ever been a part of or observed in a workplace environment for over a decade. And this is easy to do because I'm still friends/associates with many folks even to today.

In the professional/corporate environments, no one was ever, had ever, or was even rumored to have been fucking. I know of TWO friends who started hooking up with guys they worked with but both couples connected AFTER dudes left the company and both ended up getting married (one divorced a few years later, but still lol).

Even looking back on my bartending days, the VAST MAJORITY of women working at the club were NOT cheating on their bfs or husbands with other coworkers, owners, patrons, etc (the male owners/bartenders/barbacks were another story however). The only two women I can think of who did were just kind of wired that way and always embroiled in some form of sexual or financial scandal, and both were "dating" an owner or bartender who was regularly generating similar drama.


Industry networks, especially at the city level, are small as hell. It would not take much for a person or even a company to develop "a reputation."

AS IF I would risk my livelihood, reputation, or even day-to-day comfort at a job I NEED to hook up with dudes at work. Lol. I've never even met another professional woman who "doesn't" think this way. Like even if I was SUPER desperate, I would literally want to look ANYWHERE ELSE ON THE PLANET than my workplace.

Yall are doing this man a disservice with these garbage-ass takes.

IF his girl is in fact stepping out, then that's her and they should deal with their relationship accordingly. But it's definitely not so normal to start a new corporate job and immediately begin fucking the first man one meets there that EVERY friendly interaction with a woman in a work environment should be interpreted as suggestive.


Please stop projecting your trifling, thirsty, predatory, unprofessional bullshit onto all working women.

Disgusting.

>>What kind of organizations/industries are yall working in that you can even get away with shitting where you eat like this???<<



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