1. "think it depends on why the marriage ended" In response to Reply # 0
have not had a "bad" divorce among my friends most are we arent happy with each other but still amicable that makes a friendship kind of easy now if it was bad or some abuse or cheating happen then that might change some things
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legsdiamond Member since May 05th 2011 79632 posts
Mon Mar-18-19 09:25 AM
2. "Gotta leave with the friend you came in with" In response to Reply # 0
unless if it was some seriously foul ish.
A friend of mine got a divorce. She didn’t him dirty. His sister sided with his wife and he still hasn’t forgiven his sister.
**************** TBH the fact that you're even a mod here fits squarely within Jag's narrative of OK-sanctioned aggression, bullying, and toxicity. *shrug*
3. "yeah that's generally the case if you were friends with one first but..." In response to Reply # 2 Mon Mar-18-19 10:10 AM by ThaTruth
sometimes you meet people as a couple and it gets more complicated.
Or with my guy friends their wives and girlfriends are like sisters to me, when they break up its hard to just cut them off. I have female friends that I am close to and I usually get tight with the guys they date but sometimes it doesn't work out.
One of my home girls dated a guy and me and the guy were cool, they broke up for a while, I tried to stay neutral, now they're back together. If I had picked a side things would be hella awkward lol.
8. "Oh shit, this is timely" In response to Reply # 0
One of my closest friends since junior high school is getting divorced after ten years of marriage. I've actually known his wife for longer, though. We were in kindergarten together; I like her a lot and she's close with my wife. My first reaction when he told me was that it was incredibly sad, and then immediately after, "this is going to be a huge pain in the ass for me, socially speaking."
I'd pick sides if he indicated that's what he wants. But at the moment, neither of them is saying anything substantive about what actually happened. Just a lot of "we grew apart" and stuff like that. And that's come along with "we want to stay friends" so we're kind of obliged to just ... take their word for it? That's meant no picking sides, which is mostly much easier - but we're also extremely lazy socially so it's taken (literally) twice as much effort to maintain two friendships as it used to require to see them as a couple. Selfishly, they didn't take into account my unwillingness to go out more than once a week when they decided to make a major life decision.
In any case, it's mostly working. They both came to my wife's birthday, which was kind of an achievement.
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