"What’s the best way to deal with a person that outshines you"
In the workplace?
I work in sales and have been at my job for a while. I also work part time and have kids and shit. But there is another rep that works full time and really tech savvy and people tend to gravitate to her over me. It makes me upset at times and I’m trying to figure out how to just focus on myself and not worry about what other people are doing. My money is right so I have no idea why I feel this way sometimes. Maybe because I know that she loves to outshine everyone. No one else seems to care tho. Lol ... "A Beautiful Struggle" https://m.facebook.com/jamelabullock Www.reverbnation.com/jamela
3. "True. And I do more than half of what she does " In response to Reply # 1
But I hate being there and a customer comes in and I’m like how can I help you and they say we are here to see her. So I’m like cool. Then the next customer comes in and I’m like how can I help u and they say I’m here to see her so I’m like cool. So I start pulling up my list of be backs to call. Then another person comes in and I’m like how can I help and they say are you her? 😕. I’m not mad at her. I really think she is dope. It just makes me wonder why am I here? ... "A Beautiful Struggle" https://m.facebook.com/jamelabullock Www.reverbnation.com/jamela
4. "I tried and I can. But I also see she likes to outshine folks" In response to Reply # 2
And she has an advantage. Number one she is full time. She is younger and fresher to the game and she knows how to do shit I can’t do. Everyone relies on her for info and she has an inside hustle. I can’t beat that. But my face. My face everyone it’s my turn to go up and the person says I only want to deal with her crushes me. I’ve been there fifty eleven years. So I guess that’s why. Maybe it’s time to move on or maybe it’s time to take notes. Or both. ... "A Beautiful Struggle" https://m.facebook.com/jamelabullock Www.reverbnation.com/jamela
23. "maybe she DOESNT love to outshine everyone" In response to Reply # 0
My last job, I came in about 6 months after the last new employee, A. A is super mart and quick on her feet and I admire her about that.
The "lead" was older and on her way out the door. A was destined to replace her as "lead."
Mind you, I put lead in quotations bc its not a real position, that person is just the 'go-to' for other departments and usually represents the department in interdepartmental meetings.
I don't consider myself super smart, but, I am a hard worker.
After the "lead" retires, maybe 6 months after I arrive. I kind of floated to the top. Whole time, A and I have a cool relationship, we joke, we talk about our kids, etc.
After I become "lead", A no longer speaks to me. I leave, become a consultant and hired back to same department as a consultant, first thing A does is file complaints that I am over-stepping my authority as a consultant...mind you, I haven't even really began.
Moral of the story, you have to get out of your head. She may not be the person or have the intent you believe. If your job is not threatened by your co-worker, just stay the course, keep doing you.
Bonus: I've been gone maybe like 6 months, A still isn't "lead."
25. "There's some real go getter over achiever types at my job" In response to Reply # 0 Tue Jan-08-19 01:34 PM by sectachrome86
Sometimes they make me feel inadequate but most of the time I just say good for you. I don't want to do all that and I'm fine with it. As long as the people that matter keep telling me I'm doing a good job I don't give a shit what other people do. My brand is being the anti "look at me" person. Some people notice that and respect me more because of it. The people that don't can get fucked. Just do you.
from your post it seems like everything is ok. you're not under the threat of losing your job, you still have a job and you're able to pay bills...sounds like everything is good but you're worried about what that other person is doing and its affecting you.
Educate yourself. Ask yourself how to be the best you. If you tried to do what that other person is doing you will find yourself unhappy and at risk for failure because you will be living their life and not your own.