Printer-friendly copy Email this topic to a friend
Lobby General Discussion topic #13304883

Subject: "What’s the best way to deal with a person that outshines you" Previous topic | Next topic
godleeluv
Member since Jun 11th 2013
5779 posts
Sat Jan-05-19 01:53 PM

Click to send email to this author Click to send private message to this authorClick to view this author's profileClick to add this author to your buddy list
"What’s the best way to deal with a person that outshines you"


  

          

In the workplace?

I work in sales and have been at my job for a while. I also work part time and have kids and shit. But there is another rep that works full time and really tech savvy and people tend to gravitate to her over me. It makes me upset at times and I’m trying to figure out how to just focus on myself and not worry about what other people are doing. My money is right so I have no idea why I feel this way sometimes. Maybe because I know that she loves to outshine everyone. No one else seems to care tho. Lol
... "A Beautiful Struggle"
https://m.facebook.com/jamelabullock
Www.reverbnation.com/jamela

MELa
Musically.Entertaining.Lyrically.Alluring.

  

Printer-friendly copy | Reply | Reply with quote | Top


Topic Outline
Subject Author Message Date ID
she does it FT and you do it PT. different levels of commitment.
Jan 05th 2019
1
True. And I do more than half of what she does
Jan 05th 2019
3
When you can't beat them, form an alliance with them.
Jan 05th 2019
2
I tried and I can. But I also see she likes to outshine folks
Jan 05th 2019
4
      this about sums it up.
Jan 05th 2019
6
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Tonya_Harding
Jan 05th 2019
5
https://i.gifer.com/49X1.gif
Jan 08th 2019
24
Beat them. Joining them is overrated
Jan 05th 2019
7
Step your game up or admit defeat.
Jan 06th 2019
8
Lol @ the post sig combo
Jan 06th 2019
9
I took that shit personally too. Lol
Jan 06th 2019
10
!!!
Jan 06th 2019
11
      That shit hurt.
Jan 06th 2019
16
you cant sabotage her or frame her for some shit?
Jan 06th 2019
12
Naw it’s not that serious
Jan 06th 2019
14
study her technique...
Jan 06th 2019
13
Been doing that recently
Jan 06th 2019
15
      Learn all you can from her...
Jan 08th 2019
27
ego is a helluva drug
Jan 06th 2019
17
Agreed.
Jan 06th 2019
18
Support them, work with them and learn
Jan 06th 2019
19
That sounds perfect
Jan 06th 2019
20
Don't tie your self worth to a job/person/place
Jan 07th 2019
21
Maybe time for a new job?
Jan 07th 2019
22
maybe she DOESNT love to outshine everyone
Jan 08th 2019
23
There's some real go getter over achiever types at my job
Jan 08th 2019
25
RE: There's some real go getter over achiever types at my job
Jan 08th 2019
29
I worked at a small print shop in Philly
Jan 08th 2019
26
are you a hater?
Jan 08th 2019
28
Someone has to be better. Once you own it, the more you can get better
Jan 08th 2019
30

kingjerm78
Member since Jul 05th 2007
24663 posts
Sat Jan-05-19 01:59 PM

Click to send email to this author Click to send private message to this authorClick to view this author's profileClick to add this author to your buddy list
1. "she does it FT and you do it PT. different levels of commitment. "
In response to Reply # 0


  

          

--------------------------------

one half of the most dynamic tag team on the net...nappyafro's FROCAST!

http://www.frocast.com
www.nappyafro.com
store.nappyafro.com

  

Printer-friendly copy | Reply | Reply with quote | Top

    
godleeluv
Member since Jun 11th 2013
5779 posts
Sat Jan-05-19 07:00 PM

Click to send email to this author Click to send private message to this authorClick to view this author's profileClick to add this author to your buddy list
3. "True. And I do more than half of what she does "
In response to Reply # 1


  

          

But I hate being there and a customer comes in and I’m like how can I help you and they say we are here to see her. So I’m like cool. Then the next customer comes in and I’m like how can I help u and they say I’m here to see her so I’m like cool. So I start pulling up my list of be backs to call. Then another person comes in and I’m like how can I help and they say are you her? 😕. I’m not mad at her. I really think she is dope. It just makes me wonder why am I here?
... "A Beautiful Struggle"
https://m.facebook.com/jamelabullock
Www.reverbnation.com/jamela

MELa
Musically.Entertaining.Lyrically.Alluring.

  

Printer-friendly copy | Reply | Reply with quote | Top

Buddy_Gilapagos
Charter member
45412 posts
Sat Jan-05-19 03:01 PM

Click to send email to this author Click to send private message to this authorClick to view this author's profileClick to add this author to your buddy list
2. "When you can't beat them, form an alliance with them. "
In response to Reply # 0


  

          


**********
"Everyone has a plan until you punch them in the face. Then they don't have a plan anymore." (c) Mike Tyson

"what's a leader if he isn't reluctant"

  

Printer-friendly copy | Reply | Reply with quote | Top

    
godleeluv
Member since Jun 11th 2013
5779 posts
Sat Jan-05-19 07:03 PM

Click to send email to this author Click to send private message to this authorClick to view this author's profileClick to add this author to your buddy list
4. "I tried and I can. But I also see she likes to outshine folks"
In response to Reply # 2


  

          

And she has an advantage. Number one she is full time. She is younger and fresher to the game and she knows how to do shit I can’t do. Everyone relies on her for info and she has an inside hustle. I can’t beat that. But my face. My face everyone it’s my turn to go up and the person says I only want to deal with her crushes me. I’ve been there fifty eleven years. So I guess that’s why. Maybe it’s time to move on or maybe it’s time to take notes. Or both.
... "A Beautiful Struggle"
https://m.facebook.com/jamelabullock
Www.reverbnation.com/jamela

MELa
Musically.Entertaining.Lyrically.Alluring.

  

Printer-friendly copy | Reply | Reply with quote | Top

        
tariqhu
Charter member
15489 posts
Sat Jan-05-19 08:09 PM

Click to send email to this author Click to send private message to this authorClick to view this author's profileClick to add this author to your buddy listClick to send message via AOL IM
6. "this about sums it up."
In response to Reply # 4


          

she's newer. still proving herself. you careless than she does.

time for you to get a new gig and get some new motivation.

Y'all buy those labels, I was born supreme

  

Printer-friendly copy | Reply | Reply with quote | Top

Mynoriti
Charter member
35757 posts
Sat Jan-05-19 07:56 PM

Click to send email to this author Click to send private message to this authorClick to view this author's profileClick to add this author to your buddy list
5. "https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Tonya_Harding"
In response to Reply # 0


  

          

--------
http://ambitiondeficitdisorder.tumblr.com/

  

Printer-friendly copy | Reply | Reply with quote | Top

    
PG
Charter member
42348 posts
Tue Jan-08-19 01:25 PM

Click to send email to this author Click to send private message to this authorClick to view this author's profileClick to add this author to your buddy list
24. "https://i.gifer.com/49X1.gif"
In response to Reply # 5


  

          

https://i.gifer.com/49X1.gif

good lord this poast got grim quick lol.

  

Printer-friendly copy | Reply | Reply with quote | Top

BrooklynWHAT
Member since Jun 15th 2007
79983 posts
Sat Jan-05-19 09:35 PM

Click to send email to this author Click to send private message to this authorClick to view this author's profileClick to add this author to your buddy list
7. "Beat them. Joining them is overrated"
In response to Reply # 0


  

          

<--- Big Baller World Order

  

Printer-friendly copy | Reply | Reply with quote | Top

legsdiamond
Member since May 05th 2011
67573 posts
Sun Jan-06-19 08:41 AM

Click to send email to this author Click to send private message to this authorClick to view this author's profileClick to add this author to your buddy list
8. "Step your game up or admit defeat. "
In response to Reply # 0


          

****************
TBH the fact that you're even a mod here fits squarely within Jag's narrative of OK-sanctioned aggression, bullying, and toxicity. *shrug*

  

Printer-friendly copy | Reply | Reply with quote | Top

    
Cenario
Member since Aug 24th 2005
56980 posts
Sun Jan-06-19 10:31 AM

Click to send email to this author Click to send private message to this authorClick to view this author's profileClick to add this author to your buddy list
9. "Lol @ the post sig combo"
In response to Reply # 8


  

          

-The Knicks’ coaching search still includes a lone frontrunner, Kurt Rambis, whose qualifications for the position include a strong relationship with Jackson and a willingness to take the job.

  

Printer-friendly copy | Reply | Reply with quote | Top

        
godleeluv
Member since Jun 11th 2013
5779 posts
Sun Jan-06-19 11:26 AM

Click to send email to this author Click to send private message to this authorClick to view this author's profileClick to add this author to your buddy list
10. "I took that shit personally too. Lol"
In response to Reply # 9


  

          


... "A Beautiful Struggle"
https://m.facebook.com/jamelabullock
Www.reverbnation.com/jamela

MELa
Musically.Entertaining.Lyrically.Alluring.

  

Printer-friendly copy | Reply | Reply with quote | Top

    
SooperEgo
Charter member
11329 posts
Sun Jan-06-19 01:08 PM

Click to send email to this author Click to send private message to this authorClick to view this author's profileClick to add this author to your buddy list
11. "!!!"
In response to Reply # 8


          

  

Printer-friendly copy | Reply | Reply with quote | Top

        
godleeluv
Member since Jun 11th 2013
5779 posts
Sun Jan-06-19 02:30 PM

Click to send email to this author Click to send private message to this authorClick to view this author's profileClick to add this author to your buddy list
16. "That shit hurt. "
In response to Reply # 11


  

          


... "A Beautiful Struggle"
https://m.facebook.com/jamelabullock
Www.reverbnation.com/jamela

MELa
Musically.Entertaining.Lyrically.Alluring.

  

Printer-friendly copy | Reply | Reply with quote | Top

Reeq
Member since Mar 11th 2013
10994 posts
Sun Jan-06-19 01:27 PM

Click to send private message to this authorClick to view this author's profileClick to add this author to your buddy list
12. "you cant sabotage her or frame her for some shit?"
In response to Reply # 0


  

          

you better get your head in the damn game.

this your 1st time dealing with competition in the workplace?

------

  

Printer-friendly copy | Reply | Reply with quote | Top

    
godleeluv
Member since Jun 11th 2013
5779 posts
Sun Jan-06-19 02:29 PM

Click to send email to this author Click to send private message to this authorClick to view this author's profileClick to add this author to your buddy list
14. "Naw it’s not that serious"
In response to Reply # 12


  

          

And no. There is competition monthly. Each month we begin at zero and work our way to the top. However customers that usually come to me will work with her instead now. Unless she isn’t there. Lol. Unloyal asses. 🥺
... "A Beautiful Struggle"
https://m.facebook.com/jamelabullock
Www.reverbnation.com/jamela

MELa
Musically.Entertaining.Lyrically.Alluring.

  

Printer-friendly copy | Reply | Reply with quote | Top

Trinity444
Charter member
41174 posts
Sun Jan-06-19 01:55 PM

Click to send private message to this authorClick to view this author's profileClick to add this author to your buddy list
13. "study her technique..."
In response to Reply # 0


  

          

  

Printer-friendly copy | Reply | Reply with quote | Top

    
godleeluv
Member since Jun 11th 2013
5779 posts
Sun Jan-06-19 02:30 PM

Click to send email to this author Click to send private message to this authorClick to view this author's profileClick to add this author to your buddy list
15. "Been doing that recently "
In response to Reply # 13


  

          

The girl is good.
... "A Beautiful Struggle"
https://m.facebook.com/jamelabullock
Www.reverbnation.com/jamela

MELa
Musically.Entertaining.Lyrically.Alluring.

  

Printer-friendly copy | Reply | Reply with quote | Top

        
TR808
Member since Oct 24th 2012
1963 posts
Tue Jan-08-19 05:10 PM

Click to send email to this author Click to send private message to this authorClick to view this author's profileClick to add this author to your buddy list
27. "Learn all you can from her..."
In response to Reply # 15


  

          

Become her best buddy (at least at work).

Eventually you will get your chance to shine. If that dont work you can always go Cobra Kai and SWEEP THE LEG!!!

You take the blue pill, the story ends. You wake up in your bed and believe whatever you want to believe. You take the red pill, you stay in Wonderland, and I show you how deep the rabbit hole goes.

  

Printer-friendly copy | Reply | Reply with quote | Top

tomjohn29
Member since Oct 18th 2004
16476 posts
Sun Jan-06-19 02:36 PM

Click to send email to this author Click to send private message to this authorClick to view this author's profileClick to add this author to your buddy listClick to send message via AOL IM
17. "ego is a helluva drug"
In response to Reply # 0


  

          

hard thing about it most times...the person is doing what they do because thats who they are

______________________________________

Navem nu, cuando sol
Tutu nu, vondo nos nu
Vita em, no continous non
Nos nu ekta nos sepe ta, amen

When the sun shades the ship
We sweat and life is not safe
To swim or to touch not
When we unite we hedge amen

  

Printer-friendly copy | Reply | Reply with quote | Top

    
godleeluv
Member since Jun 11th 2013
5779 posts
Sun Jan-06-19 03:47 PM

Click to send email to this author Click to send private message to this authorClick to view this author's profileClick to add this author to your buddy list
18. "Agreed. "
In response to Reply # 17


  

          

She likes to shine. Ima let her shine.

Can’t be a hater.
... "A Beautiful Struggle"
https://m.facebook.com/jamelabullock
Www.reverbnation.com/jamela

MELa
Musically.Entertaining.Lyrically.Alluring.

  

Printer-friendly copy | Reply | Reply with quote | Top

justin_scott
Charter member
19829 posts
Sun Jan-06-19 03:54 PM

Click to send private message to this authorClick to view this author's profileClick to add this author to your buddy list
19. "Support them, work with them and learn"
In response to Reply # 0


          

.

************************************************************

  

Printer-friendly copy | Reply | Reply with quote | Top

    
godleeluv
Member since Jun 11th 2013
5779 posts
Sun Jan-06-19 06:33 PM

Click to send email to this author Click to send private message to this authorClick to view this author's profileClick to add this author to your buddy list
20. "That sounds perfect"
In response to Reply # 19


  

          


... "A Beautiful Struggle"
https://m.facebook.com/jamelabullock
Www.reverbnation.com/jamela

MELa
Musically.Entertaining.Lyrically.Alluring.

  

Printer-friendly copy | Reply | Reply with quote | Top

AFRICAN
Charter member
11808 posts
Mon Jan-07-19 03:40 AM

Click to send email to this author Click to send private message to this authorClick to view this author's profileClick to add this author to your buddy list
21. "Don't tie your self worth to a job/person/place"
In response to Reply # 0


  

          

It's never worth it.

http://perspectivesudans.blogspot.com/
instagram:@3rdworldview
Blessed be the Lord /who believe any mess they read up on the message board

  

Printer-friendly copy | Reply | Reply with quote | Top

flipnile
Member since Nov 05th 2003
12784 posts
Mon Jan-07-19 10:54 AM

Click to send email to this author Click to send private message to this authorClick to view this author's profileClick to add this author to your buddy list
22. "Maybe time for a new job?"
In response to Reply # 0


          

  

Printer-friendly copy | Reply | Reply with quote | Top

darrylclark
Charter member
16196 posts
Tue Jan-08-19 01:06 PM

Click to send email to this author Click to send private message to this authorClick to view this author's profileClick to add this author to your buddy list
23. "maybe she DOESNT love to outshine everyone"
In response to Reply # 0


  

          

My last job, I came in about 6 months after the last new employee, A. A is super mart and quick on her feet and I admire her about that.

The "lead" was older and on her way out the door. A was destined to replace her as "lead."

Mind you, I put lead in quotations bc its not a real position, that person is just the 'go-to' for other departments and usually represents the department in interdepartmental meetings.

I don't consider myself super smart, but, I am a hard worker.

After the "lead" retires, maybe 6 months after I arrive. I kind of floated to the top. Whole time, A and I have a cool relationship, we joke, we talk about our kids, etc.

After I become "lead", A no longer speaks to me. I leave, become a consultant and hired back to same department as a consultant, first thing A does is file complaints that I am over-stepping my authority as a consultant...mind you, I haven't even really began.

Moral of the story, you have to get out of your head. She may not be the person or have the intent you believe. If your job is not threatened by your co-worker, just stay the course, keep doing you.

Bonus: I've been gone maybe like 6 months, A still isn't "lead."

***************************************

<---------------Naima and Nia Simone

  

Printer-friendly copy | Reply | Reply with quote | Top

sectachrome86
Member since Dec 22nd 2007
2576 posts
Tue Jan-08-19 01:33 PM

Click to send email to this author Click to send private message to this authorClick to view this author's profileClick to add this author to your buddy list
25. "There's some real go getter over achiever types at my job"
In response to Reply # 0
Tue Jan-08-19 01:34 PM by sectachrome86

          

Sometimes they make me feel inadequate but most of the time I just say good for you. I don't want to do all that and I'm fine with it. As long as the people that matter keep telling me I'm doing a good job I don't give a shit what other people do. My brand is being the anti "look at me" person. Some people notice that and respect me more because of it. The people that don't can get fucked. Just do you.

-------------------------------------------------
http://www.soundcloud.com/sectachrome

  

Printer-friendly copy | Reply | Reply with quote | Top

    
BlakStaar
Member since May 29th 2002
1261 posts
Tue Jan-08-19 05:25 PM

Click to send email to this author Click to send private message to this authorClick to view this author's profileClick to add this author to your buddy list
29. "RE: There's some real go getter over achiever types at my job"
In response to Reply # 25


  

          

This. 100 %.

I'm not interested in the rat race. As long as I'm doing what I'm supposed to be doing and management is happy, I'm good.

--
"Music is not to be possessed; it's to be shared.” - James Mtume

"Just stay loose, keep it raw, and bang ya drums out sometimes." - Madlib

  

Printer-friendly copy | Reply | Reply with quote | Top

legsdiamond
Member since May 05th 2011
67573 posts
Tue Jan-08-19 02:07 PM

Click to send email to this author Click to send private message to this authorClick to view this author's profileClick to add this author to your buddy list
26. "I worked at a small print shop in Philly"
In response to Reply # 0


          

I was used to a faster pace so dudes were mad when I was getting shit done.

Needless to say they moved on to different gigs and I took over running the shop.

Also got raises every few months because I had that place popping.

****************
TBH the fact that you're even a mod here fits squarely within Jag's narrative of OK-sanctioned aggression, bullying, and toxicity. *shrug*

  

Printer-friendly copy | Reply | Reply with quote | Top

double negative
Member since Dec 14th 2007
21438 posts
Tue Jan-08-19 05:24 PM

Click to send email to this author Click to send private message to this authorClick to view this author's profileClick to add this author to your buddy list
28. "are you a hater?"
In response to Reply # 0


  

          

I mean this in a real way.

from your post it seems like everything is ok. you're not under the threat of losing your job, you still have a job and you're able to pay bills...sounds like everything is good but you're worried about what that other person is doing and its affecting you.

Educate yourself. Ask yourself how to be the best you. If you tried to do what that other person is doing you will find yourself unhappy and at risk for failure because you will be living their life and not your own.

Tap into that growth mindset.

***********************************************************
https://soundcloud.com/swageyph/yph-die-with-me

  

Printer-friendly copy | Reply | Reply with quote | Top

Heinz
Member since Dec 26th 2003
20108 posts
Tue Jan-08-19 05:32 PM

Click to send private message to this authorClick to view this author's profileClick to add this author to your buddy list
30. "Someone has to be better. Once you own it, the more you can get better"
In response to Reply # 0


  

          

If you are constantly worrying about her outshining you now you will never get past it in the way you need to better yourself

----------

IG @h_n_z

  

Printer-friendly copy | Reply | Reply with quote | Top

Lobby General Discussion topic #13304883 Previous topic | Next topic
Powered by DCForum+ Version 1.25
Copyright © DCScripts.com