Just overheard “sorry to bother you” from around the corner And it was a bit off putting I stopped apologizing at work about two months ago. It’s not easy. -apologies on the lack of response -sorry about the delay Etc.
What are some work habits that you gave up or are giving up.
------ “There is no fate that cannot be surmounted by scorn.” -Albert Camus
6. "I don't think I like this. It absolves responsibility and accountability..." In response to Reply # 2
People should apologize for avoidable errors & mistakes that they created or that were created on behalf of an organization that they represent.
I know that it's not the phone reps fault that FiOS has shitty overpriced offerings....but as a customer, it's kind of refreshing to have a representative apologize.
legsdiamond Member since May 05th 2011 79545 posts
Mon Jan-07-19 01:20 PM
8. "Those folks are paid to apologize and hear you bitch and moan" In response to Reply # 6
I think meat means when you are at work.
Last Friday I sent an email on some “sorry I didn’t get around to blah, blah, blah”
When I could and should have just said when I will get around to something that wasn’t even my responsibility to kickstart in the first place.
Unless I’m truly sorry I ain’t apologizing anymore at work.
**************** TBH the fact that you're even a mod here fits squarely within Jag's narrative of OK-sanctioned aggression, bullying, and toxicity. *shrug*
11. "That's the thing - the majority of the time the apologies actually aren'..." In response to Reply # 6
for avoidable errors or mistakes. They are for things completely outside of the control of the employee/company. I also used to see them overusing apologies internally with other staff in cases when not really appropriate.
legsdiamond Member since May 05th 2011 79545 posts
Mon Jan-07-19 01:23 PM
9. "That sounds backasswards bruh" In response to Reply # 7
You won’t apologize when you have a real fuck up but you will apologize for something that had little to no impact?
That sounds... weird.
I used to apologize for the small shit but what for? Not anymore.
**************** TBH the fact that you're even a mod here fits squarely within Jag's narrative of OK-sanctioned aggression, bullying, and toxicity. *shrug*
12. "No it's not. Small stuff is more or less meaningless, so the" In response to Reply # 9 Mon Jan-07-19 01:38 PM by Teknontheou
"I'm sorry" is like a verbal tic. Like saying saying "pardon me" or "how are you". It's just a filler-phrase that no one thinks about a split second later.
When you apologize for real fuck-ups, you get it cemented in peoples' heads that you're someone who makes mistakes. But when you leave that phrase out, even if you did fuck up, people are less likely to put you in that mental bin.
13. "THIS. All of this. " In response to Reply # 12
>"I'm sorry" is like a verbal tic. Like saying saying "pardon >me" or "how are you". It's just a filler-phrase that no one >thinks about a split second later. > >When you apologize for real fuck-ups, you get it cemented in >peoples' heads that you're someone who makes mistakes. But >when you leave that phrase out, even if you did fuck up, >people are less likely to put you in that mental bin.
There are plenty of ways to take full responsibility without saying the words "I'm sorry". I have also absolutely seen people use it like a verbal tic.
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