"My 10yr old cousin had xvideos in his safari history on his iphone" Wed Oct-17-18 10:44 PM by SeV
(Edited nephew cause he really my cousins kid Just me and my cousins were raised like brothers so i call him my nephew)
To be specific he had Hentai/robot/cartoon porn on deck
Some shyt called FNAF
So how do i approach this with him?
I don't want to tell his mom aka his granny. whose raising him. At least not b4 o talk to him 1st. Cause all she goin to do is beat his ass. his real mom is M.I.A. and his daddy (my cousin) in jail right now but hasnt really been involved in his life other than showing up to school events and taking pics for his IG
Anyway lil dude is a good kid
I just don't kno how to deal with this shyt
If it was regular porn i could be like ok maybe he needs that talk
I don't even kno where to start with this weird shyt
10 seems so damn young to be discovering this shyt
The easy access to this type of shyt is terrifying
I remember stumbling across someones stash dumped in the woods by my crib when i was that age
But that was your typical porn mag shyt
What yal using to monitor what yal kids is accessing on their phones and ipads?
Im def goin to have to tell my auntie eventually and come up with a plan to better monitor his internet access or take away his iphone all together and get him a cricket
Anyway i don't want to traumatize him and have him thinking sutten is wrong with hisself
But i do want him to know that this shyt aint normal for his age
5. "I've dealt with this with my daughter." In response to Reply # 0
found out she was looking at porn around that age. she was initially doing regular cartoons on youtube, which lead to betty boop, which lead to some other shit.
I basically told her she wasn't in trouble. also that I'm not trying to stop you from being curious. explained to her that she'll have plenty of time later in life to explore things, but that her time on the computer should be for school work. so don't waste this time in your life.
it wasn't an overnight success lol. she would still look and try to hide/delete history, etc. but each time I caught it, it allowed me to have talks with her. eventually she chilled.
started putting limits on screen times and just being over her shoulder more. I'm not really a fan of automated systems to block things. It's part lazy, but automation stifles conversation. when this stuff happens, discussions need to follow. I wouldn't know what her viewing habits were or how they changed if my wife or I didn't see it.
its not the end of the world. they're no diff than us at that age. access is definitely different. its really a time/place issue.
10. "I'd suggest steering away from the shaming " In response to Reply # 0 Thu Oct-18-18 08:58 AM by Cocobrotha2
i.e. "letting him know this isn't normal for a 10 yr old".
In all likelihood, he stumbled into the porn rather than searching for it directly. People make porn out of all kinds of characters so a kid searching for their favorite cartoon might accidentally find a video of their favorite characters participating in a gangbang.
I don't have a child that age but my thinking is that now that the kid has been exposed to porn, if he wasn't already curious about sex, he likely is now. If that's the case, it's better to be a reliable, mature source of information than to shame them into finding their answers elsewhere (like on the internet or from equally ignorant friends their own age). They're still going to be curious, you just want them to go to the right people with their curiosity.
*edit* NVMD on the parents thing... it's up to you have that convo. The kid may not be down too far the rabbit hole of porn so talking about it now may not be too difficult.
21. "my approach when i found my son watching porn at 10:" In response to Reply # 0
i talked with him about how i understood he was curious about sex and that it was natural to be curious...
but that porn isn't sex. it's entertainment. and its for adults who already have been sexually active... and if he continued to absorb so much of it, that it could potentially prevent him from having healthy sexual relationships with women...that it is teaching him to see women as objects of pleasure instead of equal partners...that it takes love out of the equation..etc
i tried to help him see the potential damage he was doing to himself and his future relationships...while at the same time acknowledging that i can't force him to stop since i'm not around him 24/7...so i told him that i trusted him to stop on his own...etc
granted, that won't work with every kid, but now that he's 20, i do know that it worked with him