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16. "Thanks...but I'm good." In response to Reply # 6
I be feeling bad now bc I can see the hurt in people when I told them, but i'm over it lol
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3. "Reasons for their divorces are so stupid" In response to Reply # 0
Rarely is it about cheating. Usually money, the woman feels unloved, the man just isn't "happy" .
They usually end up dating people who are just like their exes or trying to rekindle their youth making the same relationship mistakes with online dating.
Divorced men move on too fast. Divorced women are too bitter.
Those couples who make it more than 10 years or into the 40's are the real MVPs!
What they expect them folks to do? Stay and be unhappy, let the kids see them miserable the entire time?
Shiiit, if its that bad and you tried to work it out and it's just not happening the best thing you can do for both parties involved is to leave and hopefully both people end up happy in the future.
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26. "Exactly! My friend divorced her husband only " In response to Reply # 11
to end up dating a bunch of online losers. Granted her ex husband was overprotective, but he was paid, fine black man with a great job and career.
She had this fantasy about what kind of man she should be with. Years later, she even went back and sexed her ex husband, got child support and bought her own place.
Now divorced, she still complains about men. She was the problem, not the marriage. She asked for the divorce, the husband was ready to ride through the challenges.
I told her I would have loved to have a husband like hers. She is pretty to most men, so she could get away with a lot of bullshit.
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31. "Dysfunctional, Abusive, Deceitful or Drugs" In response to Reply # 9 Tue Oct-02-18 11:27 AM by Mori
But unhappy is not a divorce reason. How do you suddenly blame your partner for making you unhappy? This is the same damn person you met when you spent thousands of dollars and signed a legal agreement. Now less than ten years later you aren't happy?
I talk to so many divorced people and they really don't know themselves. Most married a person because they felt left behind the crowd, wanted to feel like they won a trophy or they had no idea what to do next.
They also feared being single sooo badly that they signed up with whoever showed interest long term commitment.
legsdiamond Member since May 05th 2011 79563 posts
Tue Oct-02-18 11:38 AM
34. "My boys wife asked for a divorce " In response to Reply # 31
then tried to remain friends with him.
He was like “nah, I got enough friends”
She thought nothing was going to change when she got married. She was always kicking it with her girlfriends and acting like she was still single.
Now she is a single mother... got pregnant shortly after she divorced.
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37. "As a single mom, if I do NOT understand " In response to Reply # 34
how women leave good men to be with someone else who sucks.
Unless the man can't have kids, has some other weird issues that we don't know about. Men make the mistake of taking their wives for granted for some cheap ass.
Then there are the divorced folks who people mistake the single feelings for married feelings. Single feelings are fun, spontaneous and lots of unknowns about the relationship. That is exciting for a little while.
Married is more certain, dependability, working together and really knowing and accepting your life partner on a deep level. That is not exciting and takes a lot of work, but in the long run a better pay of.
Either way, divorces are indicative of two people who don't want to put their best effort forward to work it out.
53. "How do you not like the person you are married to? " In response to Reply # 51
You fucking married them! At some point, not liking is inevitable. They are human beings who change and evolve and suck and go through all kinds of shit. That doesn't mean that you divorce.
You don't "stick it out". You go deeper, explore, look at the reasons why things evolve.
Getting along with people isn't hard if you understand yourself and the human condition. People get along with siblings, best friends and their kids without divorce. What makes someone you love and share your body with so different?
66. "it works when you still like your spouse." In response to Reply # 64
if there are nagging or huge issues, you can begin dislike the person you love. signing that certificate doesn't have to be a life sentence if folks are unhappy with the situation.
68. "RIght, thats why don't get the sentiment that marriage is HARD work..." In response to Reply # 66
>if there are nagging or huge issues, you can begin dislike >the person you love. signing that certificate doesn't have to >be a life sentence if folks are unhappy with the situation.
Resolve the shit...if you can't? then part ways. ...why struggle and make shit hard and talk about how much WORK marriage requires or how HARD it is to make it work? Marriage takes attention to detail..yes...but that's focus...not work, not struggle... IMO...
74. "Its work when you love someone and want to be with them but you have" In response to Reply # 68
recurring/deep issues that keep coming up. issues that ya'll may not agree on or see eye to eye on. But you're in love with the person and enjoy being with the person so you dont want to pack it up just bc there is an issue.
Its like saying earning a degree is hard work. There is a reason why you decided to go to college. You invested in it. You want the benefits of it. When you encounter a difficult situation, you don't pack it up and quit.
For most folks marriage is hard work. And just bc you aint working hard, doesn't mean you have a good marriage either.
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77. "I follow you. Your explanation/def. of "hard work" makes sense" In response to Reply # 74
I especially like that you broke down exactly what it means to you.
>recurring/deep issues that keep coming up. issues that ya'll >may not agree on or see eye to eye on. But you're in love with >the person and enjoy being with the person so you dont want to >pack it up just bc there is an issue. > >Its like saying earning a degree is hard work. There is a >reason why you decided to go to college. You invested in it. >You want the benefits of it. When you encounter a difficult >situation, you don't pack it up and quit.
Perfect analogy. Thanks.
>For most folks marriage is hard work. And just bc you aint >working hard, doesn't mean you have a good marriage either. True indeed!
81. "First time in Okp history an analogy worked?" In response to Reply # 77
Lol
Props to you tho if your marriage is truly happy and doesnt often feel like hard work.
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-The Knicks’ coaching search still includes a lone frontrunner, Kurt Rambis, whose qualifications for the position include a strong relationship with Jackson and a willingness to take the job.
43. "This has NEVER worked" In response to Reply # 34
>then tried to remain friends with him.
If it happens, it happens and cool. But any divorced couple who has insisted they're DEFINITELY going to stay friends afterwards . . . it's not going to work. When it does happen, it's because the couple usually took some distance from each other afterwards and eventually were able to be friendly again. But nobody can force it.
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25. "Most divorces are petty as fuck" In response to Reply # 12
Being happy is not a perpetual state of being. Making it work can happen with anyone if both people step up to the plate and work through their differences.
The true test is if either of the divorcees can move on and have other healthy relationships. The one who can't is usually the one who caused the divorce.
55. "Only married people know about married life? " In response to Reply # 52
I have been in 10 year relationships, engaged, dealt with my child's dad. I never signed a legal document because I haven't met the man who I am ready to make permanent. But when I do, I will NEVER divorce.
13. "I got a friend (of my friends) who is like this." In response to Reply # 0
Dude is trying to fuck any woman who will say hi to him. Anything that anyone suggests -- he's down. Hey let's go to this bar -- yes. This concert -- yes. Do this drug -- yes. There's times when there's like 6-7 of us guys together and someone will be like "Ya'll wanna hit up such and such bar..." and every single person will be like "nah." and he's like "well i'm in!" He's overcompensating like a muhfucker and it makes me not want to be around him a whole lot.
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19. "sounds like bad decisions waiting to happen." In response to Reply # 14
-The Knicks’ coaching search still includes a lone frontrunner, Kurt Rambis, whose qualifications for the position include a strong relationship with Jackson and a willingness to take the job.
28. "How is the time "lost"?" In response to Reply # 14
After a certain age, don't men get bored of random club/bar pussy? Like is that time really lost when you are fucking with people who don't know you, spending money on women who you can't invest in?
There is something I don't understand about preferring to be single with strangers that going deep with someone who you love and cares about you.
45. "Most men get bored of it, eventually" In response to Reply # 28
>After a certain age, don't men get bored of random club/bar >pussy? Like is that time really lost when you are fucking with >people who don't know you, spending money on women who you >can't invest in? > >There is something I don't understand about preferring to be >single with strangers that going deep with someone who you >love and cares about you. >
But you can't get bored of it if you never experienced it (ignoring those that never wanted it).... and alot of guys ( like myself) didn't really get it in when most people were because we were boo'd up through our 20s.
I made up for it in my early to mid 30's and I'm happy I got it out of my system before I eventually did get married. Now there's absolutely no FOMO... I have no idea where the hot place is in the city on Friday night because I got more exciting plans with the family Saturday morning.
67. "there are so many times where "lost" time is accrued " In response to Reply # 28
I know in my line of work (Law/Engineering/Math) a lot of guys are not interested in women until mid 30's I have a lot of male friends who are just now looking up from their work and trying to have a social life at 30-35 they have money they have their career they have time they are horny its simple
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18. "lol i'm glad this ain't me." In response to Reply # 13
I got too much change in my life going on right now, i'm good with any stability i can take. I aint got the time or energy to be running around like a fool.
-The Knicks’ coaching search still includes a lone frontrunner, Kurt Rambis, whose qualifications for the position include a strong relationship with Jackson and a willingness to take the job.
21. "He gotta learn how to be single again when everyone else ain't" In response to Reply # 13
Sometimes you gotta do shit by yourself. The older you get the more most of your friends are going to either be in relationships or married.
Dude just wants to be out there probably so he doesn't feel alone or to make up time he figured he lost while married. Gotta find yourself though, and you ain't finding yourself in no club, especially when you there all the damn time.
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22. "this is good stuff right here." In response to Reply # 21
-The Knicks’ coaching search still includes a lone frontrunner, Kurt Rambis, whose qualifications for the position include a strong relationship with Jackson and a willingness to take the job.
40. "Men and Going Solo by Eric Klinenberg" In response to Reply # 39
I have the audio book and he talks about the benefits of being alone. I think it is good up until a point. Many people like to be alone because they can't handle human beings inconsistencies.
Being single is not the end of the world. It actually feels good to spend time with yourself. I love living alone and doing things alone. I still enjoy love, sex, and companionship. I felt a great sense of relief when I stopped looking for love
27. "I shudder at the thought of being divorced" In response to Reply # 0
It will be 16 years for me this November. I couldn't even imagine getting back in the game, but if I did, I would totally consider the online thing. I gots to have certain things because I'm so set in my ways. I feel like online is a way of getting the uncertainty out the way early.
legsdiamond Member since May 05th 2011 79563 posts
Tue Oct-02-18 11:42 AM
35. "Only thing I’m doing online is searching for booty" In response to Reply # 27
If it ain’t organic it ain’t happening.
My brother is killing it online.
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62. "marriage is complex" In response to Reply # 0
you really only have to succeed at a small list, maybe 5-10 things (shared values, respect, compromise, sexual compatibility, finances) but those things are all huge
we've hung in there because our parents are 30-40 years in, so we figure it will get better with growth and dedication
75. "throw communication in there. all that stuff goes down the drain with" In response to Reply # 62
poor communication.
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