yeah. I'm not having any luck so far with online dating. Men are weird. Profile pictures a hot mess lol. I'm scrolling through pictures but so far nothing interesting. I hate that my first instinct is looks. and I forgot I'm in the south, a lot of gerald's, Rufus, Claude's and other country names, lol. I'm I being high maintenance?
I have many fantasies of this guy "falling out the sky"
there's some guys with profiles like that but I don't care for the appearance (forgive me). A lot of bald men...why so many? lol pants unbuttoned shirts open kango's and shades
what's wrong with y'all Rdhull? lol
I may have to up to within 4444 miles of Charlotte
12. "are your expectations realistic, Trin?" In response to Reply # 10
I'm not saying settle...but you can't be lookin in the 50 year old age range in the South and think dudes gonna be lookin like Eric Benet in a fitted suit or something, lol.
...I'm from the era when A.I. was the answer, now they think ai is the answer - Marlon Craft
legsdiamond Member since May 05th 2011 79594 posts
Mon Sep-25-17 11:51 AM
14. "what she is prolly looking for isn't on a dating site.. " In response to Reply # 12
better bet is going to the gym or to churches..
lots and lots of church.
**************** TBH the fact that you're even a mod here fits squarely within Jag's narrative of OK-sanctioned aggression, bullying, and toxicity. *shrug*
legsdiamond Member since May 05th 2011 79594 posts
Mon Sep-25-17 12:08 PM
17. "real talk, when I was single for a minute I lost all my game" In response to Reply # 15
I was that dude but I was out of the game for so long I had no confidence.
Shit prolly hasn't changed that much tho..
see someone attractive, try to holla or get their attention and see if they are available.
don't over think it.
**************** TBH the fact that you're even a mod here fits squarely within Jag's narrative of OK-sanctioned aggression, bullying, and toxicity. *shrug*
52. "lol pants unbuttoned, kangols etc..u on a kuntry for kuntry site?" In response to Reply # 10
>there's some guys with profiles like that but I don't care >for the appearance (forgive me). A lot of bald men...why so >many? lol >pants unbuttoned >shirts open >kango's and shades > >what's wrong with y'all Rdhull? lol > >I may have to up to within 4444 miles of Charlotte > > > > > >
legsdiamond Member since May 05th 2011 79594 posts
Mon Sep-25-17 11:50 AM
13. "haha.. sounds about right for dating online within that age range" In response to Reply # 0
**************** TBH the fact that you're even a mod here fits squarely within Jag's narrative of OK-sanctioned aggression, bullying, and toxicity. *shrug*
18. "Online Dating = Real People" In response to Reply # 0 Mon Sep-25-17 12:13 PM by Mori
I think some people imagine that the online portal is a mysterious gateway to zyborg fantasy people.
Nah, regla shmegla folk with pimples, bad teeth, receding hairlines, jelly roles, health issues, kids, divorces, office jobs and some occasional sex here and there.
I went online for one year. I dated one guy who is very cool. I really like him but he is going through a serious death in the family. I want a serious relationship. He doesn't know what he wants. I haven't pressed my wants. But he was the most real, easy to talk to and I could be my normal self with him.
He is the ONLY person I have wanted to meet with, drink with, have sex with and spend time with out of all the hundreds of people I've messaged.
Most of these men, (I want black men only), are either not educated, sex weirdos or just straight up lie.
102. "You want black men only?" In response to Reply # 18
I love to hear this. Go for it sister. You know the real ones are worth it all when they fall in love. My wife, who is homeschooling, just put a poster of American black achievements on a wall. I keep thinking that some pretty sister was the real motivation for a lot of these dudes to work harder/smarter.
Taking shots in the dark/that's a bad call Going straight for your head/ gotta saw it off
legsdiamond Member since May 05th 2011 79594 posts
Mon Sep-25-17 12:19 PM
20. "my wife's friend was using Tinder when she was in town and she was" In response to Reply # 0
getting it in for a minute then shit went left field so she chilled
One thing she showed my wife is one dude she really liked was cool and they were kicking it and then he texted
"I'm seeing someone, don't contact me anymore"
just like that.
I think it's cool for fucking but relationships? ionno.. that's luck of the draw I guess. Maybe you have to pay a premium to get those folks?
**************** TBH the fact that you're even a mod here fits squarely within Jag's narrative of OK-sanctioned aggression, bullying, and toxicity. *shrug*
legsdiamond Member since May 05th 2011 79594 posts
Mon Sep-25-17 01:07 PM
23. "bruh, half this place is NYC, OHIO, PA transplants" In response to Reply # 21
we down here in big numbers but half of em prolly married or running from their ex's.
**************** TBH the fact that you're even a mod here fits squarely within Jag's narrative of OK-sanctioned aggression, bullying, and toxicity. *shrug*
legsdiamond Member since May 05th 2011 79594 posts
Mon Sep-25-17 01:34 PM
30. "I told Trin about the Martini Bar Sydney's but she said it was wack" In response to Reply # 27
other old head spots are OLD HEAD spots tho..lol. Morehead Tavern has an older professional crowd. Rapper Big Pooh from LB is going to be there Oct. 6th. I'm going with my wife for my birthday
I told my wife I would bring everyone I knew to that spot for now on cause it got that nice mix of old heads, hip hop and women with jobs.
**************** TBH the fact that you're even a mod here fits squarely within Jag's narrative of OK-sanctioned aggression, bullying, and toxicity. *shrug*
legsdiamond Member since May 05th 2011 79594 posts
Mon Sep-25-17 01:08 PM
25. "aren't most of these sites for smashing on the first date?" In response to Reply # 22
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45. "I don't know, haven't used a dating site since blackplanet" In response to Reply # 25
In like 2000.
I'm very biased tho... I'm tall-as-fuck and loud so all I really gotta do is go outside to meet women. Online dating (for me, at least) is MUCH more effort than IRL.
legsdiamond Member since May 05th 2011 79594 posts
Mon Sep-25-17 01:31 PM
28. "my brother still uses it from time to time" In response to Reply # 26
and he stays with a bad one..
Every time he comes to Charlotte he has a date. Hell, he just contacted me, he will be in Charlotte this weekend cause his son is being recruited by Davidson College.
Trin? Let me know.. I gotta see a photo first tho.
**************** TBH the fact that you're even a mod here fits squarely within Jag's narrative of OK-sanctioned aggression, bullying, and toxicity. *shrug*
legsdiamond Member since May 05th 2011 79594 posts
Mon Sep-25-17 02:24 PM
34. "you shoot your shot or nah? " In response to Reply # 33
**************** TBH the fact that you're even a mod here fits squarely within Jag's narrative of OK-sanctioned aggression, bullying, and toxicity. *shrug*
legsdiamond Member since May 05th 2011 79594 posts
Mon Sep-25-17 03:16 PM
38. "Waaaake up!!! - Fishburn" In response to Reply # 36
**************** TBH the fact that you're even a mod here fits squarely within Jag's narrative of OK-sanctioned aggression, bullying, and toxicity. *shrug*
**************** TBH the fact that you're even a mod here fits squarely within Jag's narrative of OK-sanctioned aggression, bullying, and toxicity. *shrug*
legsdiamond Member since May 05th 2011 79594 posts
Tue Sep-26-17 12:05 PM
47. "she needs to keep both feet on the ground" In response to Reply # 46
**************** TBH the fact that you're even a mod here fits squarely within Jag's narrative of OK-sanctioned aggression, bullying, and toxicity. *shrug*
legsdiamond Member since May 05th 2011 79594 posts
Tue Sep-26-17 12:30 PM
49. "Is he a lawyer? A knight? A surgeon? A pilot? " In response to Reply # 48
whatever he is... I know he will be everything I dreamed of last night.
TAKE ME RUFUS!!!
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legsdiamond Member since May 05th 2011 79594 posts
Tue Sep-26-17 12:44 PM
53. "haha.. if you love it, I LOVE it." In response to Reply # 51 Tue Sep-26-17 12:46 PM by legsdiamond
it's online dating, you gotta go into that shit with your battle gear not a bow and arrow.
These people be trippin once you meet then irl... or so I heard.
You doing a paid site or nah?
**************** TBH the fact that you're even a mod here fits squarely within Jag's narrative of OK-sanctioned aggression, bullying, and toxicity. *shrug*
60. "actually, quality and demographics are linked to platforms, so..." In response to Reply # 0
for example
the type of men you will find on tinder
are different from the type of men you will find on okcupid
are different from the type of men you will find on bumble
are different from the type of men you will find on hinge
are different from the type of men you will find on match.com
are different from the type of men you will find on eharmony
seriously, take a look into the different platforms
when I was playing the field I used each platform for different experiences
like, if I just wanted company and a date (ie. someone maybe interesting to have a drink with, maybe dinner with no expectations (but if things happen....)) I would go with Tinder
if I wanted to hang with professionals who were "on the level" or above I would go with hinge
if I wanted to find someone off the beaten path I would go with okcupid
79. "trust me, please..." In response to Reply # 78
I be on here talking like we're really family. i desired help with my writing my profile I'm a serious woman. I desire what is pure and I couldn't figure out how to word that I could screen out the bullshit and still attractive the real...
67. "ah, well, actually then eharmony OR...." In response to Reply # 63
a real ass matchmaker
my bestfriend met the love of his life through an old school matchmaker
but, its totally possible to find the real deal through internet dating, matter of fact several of my friends have met their spouses through a variety of online dating platforms
legsdiamond Member since May 05th 2011 79594 posts
Wed Sep-27-17 10:15 AM
87. "you aren't that new.. stop it" In response to Reply # 80
**************** TBH the fact that you're even a mod here fits squarely within Jag's narrative of OK-sanctioned aggression, bullying, and toxicity. *shrug*
76. "problem, online dating of any kind doesn't work anymore" In response to Reply # 60 Tue Sep-26-17 05:24 PM by Flash80
if it ever did at all.
endless evenings of zero-chemistry dates, and coming outta pocket for in the process. maybe one or two second dates will emerge. and it's a blessing and a curse looking up someone up beforehand sometimes.
dudes majorly lying about height.
girls using pic filters to hide 30 lbs.
and then you have lame folks who wanna be pen pals. female friend of mine said she went back and forth with a dude on bumble that equated to like 50 text msgs... they never even ended up talking on the phone, let alone meeting.
88. "I went on 1 date with a medical student - we didnt have sex on the 1st d..." In response to Reply # 0
he then texted me the next day with: "Hey.... I usually have sex in the first date to see if i'm compatible with the person who I will start dating. we had a good time but I dont think this will workout."
he proceeded to block me on all social media and his phone.
the date was soo much fun tho. oh well.. his loss. I wasnt feeling him like that off of 1 date to have sex.
89. "I havent tried online dating tho... im too lazy for that shit?? idk" In response to Reply # 0
iv seen some of my friends doing the swiping and scrolling way to much work i just rather have friends introduce me to their single friends or I just meet people out and about
with me tho, I dont actively seek - it sorta just happens I guess cus when you are busy, its when shit pops up on ya then time management sucks because you are busy and then people get frustrated with ya because you dont give them enough time or the time they would want from you
just keep busy, try offline dating? lol
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legsdiamond Member since May 05th 2011 79594 posts
Wed Sep-27-17 10:28 AM
90. "bsically, when you look for love and love love.. " In response to Reply # 89
you usually end up trying way too hard and blocking blessings.
she is too scared to holla in real life tho...
**************** TBH the fact that you're even a mod here fits squarely within Jag's narrative of OK-sanctioned aggression, bullying, and toxicity. *shrug*
legsdiamond Member since May 05th 2011 79594 posts
Wed Sep-27-17 11:26 AM
99. "man, you been talking about all these dudes you see and fantasize" In response to Reply # 96
but you never shoot your shot.
at least that's how you tell it on here.
**************** TBH the fact that you're even a mod here fits squarely within Jag's narrative of OK-sanctioned aggression, bullying, and toxicity. *shrug*
93. "i see it differently.. " In response to Reply # 89
going out looking requires work.. gotta get dress drive find a spot spend money...
online...I can be selective do it when I wanna
don't get it twisted tho. I'm not pressed just feel like it's time to be active. I'm not sitting home like, "gotta find a man". I'm not content with living the rest of my life alone but, I'm prepared for it.
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