"Update on the 5 AM gym debacle" Wed Aug-16-17 09:55 AM by atruhead
in the last post I was told I have issues, Im a bad partner and that there would be retaliation (which says a lot about how people view women, but I digress)
As fate would have it, we're adults who can work together. The alarm goes off at 6 now, she goes to the gym after work some days or around 8 AM on weekends. I've agreed to join her gym and go together early on my off days (something she's been asking about for a while)
I can only think of one other time in 3 years of marriage that something small annoyed me enough for there to be an issue, some boxes couldnt fit in a closet and we needed to get rid of them
but most of all that post confirmed for me this isnt a safe space. 99% of my marriage I havent discussed on here and that's why
I didnt have the last post locked, but whoever is in control can feel free to handle this the same way if it gets out of control
legsdiamond Member since May 05th 2011 79711 posts
Wed Aug-16-17 10:13 AM
4. "speaking of which, did you drop ole girl like OKP suggested? " In response to Reply # 3
**************** TBH the fact that you're even a mod here fits squarely within Jag's narrative of OK-sanctioned aggression, bullying, and toxicity. *shrug*
legsdiamond Member since May 05th 2011 79711 posts
Wed Aug-16-17 10:32 AM
12. "Nice... I was worried you were going to block your blessings" In response to Reply # 9
**************** TBH the fact that you're even a mod here fits squarely within Jag's narrative of OK-sanctioned aggression, bullying, and toxicity. *shrug*
legsdiamond Member since May 05th 2011 79711 posts
Wed Aug-16-17 10:15 AM
5. "You just now realized OKP isn't a safe space for marriage advice?" In response to Reply # 0
Unless it's death bed type shot there will be jokes.
Especially with something as trivial as a clock alarm
Congrats tho
**************** TBH the fact that you're even a mod here fits squarely within Jag's narrative of OK-sanctioned aggression, bullying, and toxicity. *shrug*
7. "you used a jungle analogy about faceless internet trolling" In response to Reply # 6
>>but most of all that post confirmed for me this isnt a safe >>space. > >Zebras need a safe space. Lions are safe wherever they are. > >Be a lion, bro.
legsdiamond Member since May 05th 2011 79711 posts
Wed Aug-16-17 10:31 AM
11. "No one even trolled him... folks just had different opinions" In response to Reply # 6
It's so weird when someone seeks advice and gets upset or calls it trolling when someone doesn't give the answer they want.
**************** TBH the fact that you're even a mod here fits squarely within Jag's narrative of OK-sanctioned aggression, bullying, and toxicity. *shrug*
legsdiamond Member since May 05th 2011 79711 posts
Wed Aug-16-17 10:42 AM
19. "Yes, you typed in all caps and called people retarded" In response to Reply # 16
Most folks just joked you because they didn't see it as putting your foot down
but it was litehearted. No one went in on your marriage.
**************** TBH the fact that you're even a mod here fits squarely within Jag's narrative of OK-sanctioned aggression, bullying, and toxicity. *shrug*
**************** TBH the fact that you're even a mod here fits squarely within Jag's narrative of OK-sanctioned aggression, bullying, and toxicity. *shrug*
legsdiamond Member since May 05th 2011 79711 posts
Wed Aug-16-17 10:39 AM
17. "Man, seems like when I need that shit he doesn't do it for 3 weeks" In response to Reply # 15
and you can't start a similar type thread cause they lock it.
CW ain't as safe as it used to be tho
I seen folks use that shit against people
**************** TBH the fact that you're even a mod here fits squarely within Jag's narrative of OK-sanctioned aggression, bullying, and toxicity. *shrug*
legsdiamond Member since May 05th 2011 79711 posts
Wed Aug-16-17 10:44 AM
21. "Yeah, that was foul" In response to Reply # 20
Also seen people pull up old CW's... maybe I will do that.
**************** TBH the fact that you're even a mod here fits squarely within Jag's narrative of OK-sanctioned aggression, bullying, and toxicity. *shrug*
28. "you are not my friend or family" In response to Reply # 27
you're just a person taking liberties typing words to me
my bad traits include being moody, easily annoyed, slightly jaded and cynical.
no one who knows me would use the word you're using, if you're using it because of something I said about a rapper (your main gripe) that would make you way too invested
29. "Oh look. You aren't petty at all." In response to Reply # 28
My main gripe is that you're petty. It always has been. What you mentioned, just happens to be the subject that you are constantly being petty about LOL Please learn the difference.
BTW I know some of friends or used to be friends or whatever. They have all described you as petty but put it in a nicer way. But keep being petty, what do I care at this point. You are the one with marriage problems. Not me.
33. "learned this the hard way a few years back..." In response to Reply # 0
>but most of all that post confirmed for me this isnt a safe >space.
..there was even a time when I'd just post shit sometimes just to have it intentionally/passive agressively leak to that individual for kicks I couldn't care less at this point...(hi!..*waves*) smh
but yeah....glad you guys were able to work through that patch...keep on.
34. "OKP was much less "safe" years back tho..." In response to Reply # 33
I remember folks emailing posts to people's jobs, Real life beefs leaking onto the boards (and vice-versa), folks personal business getting put on blast here, etc.
Now? The worst we have is name-calling, passive-aggressive snarky-ness and general shit-talking. And folks acting like this is the worst place on the Internet, smh. Just OD'd on the hyperbole here.
36. "Oh yeah man. Most definitely..but..." In response to Reply # 34
Once a line has been crossed I treat it like there's no going back. Things aren't as overt now because of sheer numbers I think...but yeah... I'd never fully open up here...
legsdiamond Member since May 05th 2011 79711 posts
Thu Aug-17-17 02:08 PM
38. "When I hear the stories of smashed laptops" In response to Reply # 34
folks getting fired by OKP's and dudes getting bitch smacked...
Now that's crazy
**************** TBH the fact that you're even a mod here fits squarely within Jag's narrative of OK-sanctioned aggression, bullying, and toxicity. *shrug*
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