For me:

1. No matter how bad things might get a work, if you can hold on to your job, big regime changes often sweep through every 6 - 8 years and you can get a clean slate to work with after that.

2. Related to #1, as a guy, taking L's like a man often wins the respect of everyone around you, even from the person who doled the L out to you, and you'll often be rewarded later as a result.

3. Learning scale fingering positions on piano unlocks alot of the keyboard, both for reading and for improvisation. Suddenly, "hard keys" don't seem so hard, anymore.

4. Slow, steady gains in the gym are where it's at. That means if you can only do one more rep from last week, even at a low weight, with good form, that's the whole game.

baby clothes...
it only lends them....


"Get ready....for your blessing....."

I think the last one was washing meats

Before I continue my relationship is fine, we're fine, things are good. But a younger me. That dude would be struggling right now.

We're moving to a new place, much bigger, so we're looking at new furniture to expand the house. Hence the dreaded Ikea trip. We haven't been to Ikea in a couple of years at this point, because the last time we went it lead to a passive aggressive cold war. Neither one of us wanted to really make concessions on a host of things, so we ended up not doing what either of us wanted. It worked in the long run, but that last trip, man.

And one of the things that popped up during this trip was about cleaning and clutter. My wife swears up and down that I am the messier person and she is the cleaner, when that's so far from the truth it would make my eyes bleed if I gave it serious thought. But I don't. And that's something we talked about at Ikea, "places to store things". She will take a months worth of mail, drop it in a box and say she cleaned.

I type all of this as I'm cleaning the house, after I had to go through a months worth of mail to find the water bill. A pettier person, a younger person, an aggrieved person would maybe take pictures and sort things out. I think 10 years ago I would've been that person who's feelings were hurt and trying to prove a point. Me today though, I paid the water bill, put that junk right back how she had it and moved on with my day.

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“There is no fate that cannot be surmounted by scorn.” -Albert Camus

Yup.

My wife hates when I ask wher where stuff is but she is always "cleaning" which means she threw shit in a big ass box.

Every time we get an order from Amazon she saves the box and fills it with a whole bunch of shit.

I have to break down boxes as soon as we get them.

And she swears she spends all day cleaning but it's basically moving a bunch of clutter back and forth from room to room.

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TBH the fact that you're even a mod here fits squarely within Jag's narrative of OK-sanctioned aggression, bullying, and toxicity. *shrug*

She'll look at me funny because I'll leave a cup in the living room, when in her mind it should be in the sink.
But if you store dirty dishes in the sink, you gotta move them all to clean the dishes. So sink or living room, it's not where it's supposed to be: rinsed and in the dishwasher.
But hey.

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“There is no fate that cannot be surmounted by scorn.” -Albert Camus

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PbnITF3wkWk

https://www.instagram.com/christiancgarrido/

Hussein ibn Malik "if he escaped on a horse he might be realest nigga ever, EVER..2013 Nat Turner with the burner"
MaxPtah "Django is real homie.."
PoppaGeorge "If you're a child of the 70's, Ye looks like a p

and it realistically dawned on me that I'm in the 'grandpa' range...meaning I can realistically become a granddad within the next 10yrs.........and I'm not ok with that...at all

--I want to create/own/develop an 'urban-centric' Sports Network or Radio station

--The security guard at my gig is a dude we used to bully when we were little...funny because I remember sharpening my 'chest cave-in' and shoulder punches on him.... now he bout 6'4 350

--The Ravens draft isn't as bad as I initially thought

--The Fresh Prince of Belair actually died ....and the whole show is him after death....(I heard this on a podcast)

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Coolin...

>--The Fresh Prince of Belair actually died ....and the whole
>show is him after death....(I heard this on a podcast)

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Coolin...

>and it realistically dawned on me that I'm in the 'grandpa'
>range...meaning I can realistically become a granddad within
>the next 10yrs.........and I'm not ok with that...at all
>
Let him know you ain't ok with it. I let mine know at least once a week. I ain't ready to be no grandfather because I'm looking forward to keeping my money or spending it on me for awhile now since child support responsibilities will be done for in two weeks.


>--The security guard at my gig is a dude we used to bully when
>we were little...funny because I remember sharpening my 'chest
>cave-in' and shoulder punches on him.... now he bout 6'4 350
>
Ever ask him if he remembers you and the shit you did to him? LOL


>--The Ravens draft isn't as bad as I initially thought
Not at all!

I ain't ready to be no grandfather because I'm
>looking forward to keeping my money or spending it on me for
>awhile now since child support responsibilities will be done
>for in two weeks.
>
>

Can't Wait!! (C) Bart Scott



>>--The security guard at my gig is a dude we used to bully
>when
>>we were little...funny because I remember sharpening my
>'chest
>>cave-in' and shoulder punches on him.... now he bout 6'4 350
>>
>Ever ask him if he remembers you and the shit you did to him?
>LOL

Yeah..kinda...I had a suspicion for a few weeks like 'where do I know yo from'...then I asked em if he grew up out such n such and gotta sister named Tasha...and yo was like yeah...he aint recognize me till I gave em my childhood nickname...but yeah...we ain't bring up the bullying part....he prolly have a flashback soon lol

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Coolin...

I'm not sure why I thought relocating would be easy. like, Id come down here, making the same money, meet new people and find work easily. I am truly humbled by this experience. Yet, I've never been a quitter...

people?

don't get her started.

haha

the people are weird or maybe it's me. Charlotte is a city for younger folks and they're running companies, with no idea of what they're doing...

We have jobs but not GREAT jobs.

and I think after you turn 40 it's hard to make new friends.

I have a few here but they are a little different. Everyone has a nickname, 2 ex wives and might be married but separated.

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TBH the fact that you're even a mod here fits squarely within Jag's narrative of OK-sanctioned aggression, bullying, and toxicity. *shrug*

>and I think after you turn 40 it's hard to make new friends.
>
>Everyone has a nickname, 2 ex wives and might be married but separated.
>

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TBH the fact that you're even a mod here fits squarely within Jag's narrative of OK-sanctioned aggression, bullying, and toxicity. *shrug*

I read Steve Harvey's book "jump" about getting to abundance (very Christian to the point of basically saying "trust God and Jesus Christ" about taking risks/"jumps") and I did my usual regimen of listening to some TD Jakes sermons...

So, even though I heard these kind of statements of Steve and TD Jakes before, for some reason the way I put these statements together today hit me a little deeper than previously.


"A person will only invest in areas that he or she believes is worthwhile."

(whether that area is a certain career direction, health fitness, relationships, etc.)

Steve said in his book "a man will only change for a woman who is the one for him" and I kind of connected that to the "only invest in areas that are worthwhile" thing I got from TD Jakes (far into his "brought by a thought" sermon that is on youtube).

So, reading Steve's "jump" book recently made that TD Jakes statement I had heard several times before hit me a stronger way today.

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TBH the fact that you're even a mod here fits squarely within Jag's narrative of OK-sanctioned aggression, bullying, and toxicity. *shrug*

I need to live in NYC and be prosperous to get a church woman - and I'm very far from both of those at the moment.


No I don't want church women where I'm at currently

lost weight, blood sugar levels normal as hell, eating right tatses good, etc

When I was in college I switched from whole to 1% milk (in my breakfast cereal) and 5 lbs. melted away in 1 week. I thought the scale was wrong and I got on another scale and it said the same thing. I was blown away.

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TBH the fact that you're even a mod here fits squarely within Jag's narrative of OK-sanctioned aggression, bullying, and toxicity. *shrug*

1. I had one (and a half) big regime changes like you describe, and I am one of the only people who survived it. Namely because I am not a dick and am generally nice and helpful to my peers.

2. Life in general if you stay doing what you do and do it consistently, you will rise to the top not because you necessarily become that much better, but because everyone else just seems to disappear and fall by the way side.




>For me:
>
>1. No matter how bad things might get a work, if you can hold
>on to your job, big regime changes often sweep through every 6
>- 8 years and you can get a clean slate to work with after
>that.
>
>2. Related to #1, as a guy, taking L's like a man often wins
>the respect of everyone around you, even from the person who
>doled the L out to you, and you'll often be rewarded later as
>a result.
>
>3. Learning scale fingering positions on piano unlocks alot
>of the keyboard, both for reading and for improvisation.
>Suddenly, "hard keys" don't seem so hard, anymore.
>
>4. Slow, steady gains in the gym are where it's at. That
>means if you can only do one more rep from last week, even at
>a low weight, with good form, that's the whole game.


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"Everyone has a plan until you punch them in the face. Then they don't have a plan anymore." (c) Mike Tyson

"what's a leader if he isn't reluctant"