When I make any kind of contact wit a person, even passing them in the hall or street I make eye contact. But for some reason people be on this SCARED to look you in your eye mess.

What's up with that?

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in public

but its hard for me to maintain eye contact while im having a conversation


i always wonder if it comes from years of working in a call center and spending alot of time talking on the phone

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Also, for black people, there might be some conditioning involved. Staring at white folks back in the day could get you killed.

Some people are autistic.

Some people have an anxiety disorder or social phobia.

Some people simply have their mind on any number of things. What to make for dinner, making mental notes to check their email about that job, figuring out the budget in a tight month, etc.

Some people come from a place where eye contact with strangers can easily lead to conflict.

There's a long ass list of reasonable assumptions reasonable people should be making before they get to "scared".

I'm sure your response will be "I'm not talking about all that I'm talking about people who are SCARED"

To that I ask: Exactly how do you deduce whether or not "scared" is the reason someone doesn't make eye contact?

>Some people are autistic.
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>Some people have an anxiety disorder or social phobia.
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>Some people simply have their mind on any number of things.
>What to make for dinner, making mental notes to check their
>email about that job, figuring out the budget in a tight
>month, etc.
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>Some people come from a place where eye contact with strangers
>can easily lead to conflict.
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>There's a long ass list of reasonable assumptions reasonable
>people should be making before they get to "scared".
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>I'm sure your response will be "I'm not talking about all that
>I'm talking about people who are SCARED"
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>To that I ask: Exactly how do you deduce whether or not
>"scared" is the reason someone doesn't make eye contact?

^^ YOU'RE SCARED!


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esp in a large city - people are just driving their bodies while withdrawn in thought from point A to point B

engaging in eye contact breaks thought because its an invitation to discussion

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>esp in a large city - people are just driving their bodies
>while withdrawn in thought from point A to point B


and looking at the wrong person in a big city turns into: "FUCKYOUSTARIN'AT?!?!?!?"

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>engaging in eye contact breaks thought because its an
>invitation to discussion

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apply that to a number of motivations and situations, but as for an overarching reason, that's what it seems like to me.

In a generation of swine, the one-eyed pig is king.
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People gaze into my eyes longingly alllll the time.
They want this.


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I am not sure it something that comes naturally.

I think from an evolutionary perspective eye contact was a signal of either wanting to fight or fugg.




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"what's a leader if he isn't reluctant"

>I am not sure it something that comes naturally.
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>I think from an evolutionary perspective eye contact was a
>signal of either wanting to fight or fugg.
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WHAT... LOOL

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"what's a leader if he isn't reluctant"

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Weak people can't take eye contact
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There are lots of cultures around the world where children are taught not to make eye contact with teachers/adults out of deference (for example).

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you don't have a right to engage me. Let me go my way and you go yours.

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If a guy on the other side of the train is looking me dead in the eye for an extended period of time, I'm going in my bag on his ass.

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>If a guy on the other side of the train is looking me dead in
>the eye for an extended period of time, I'm going in my bag on
>his ass.
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What kind of Savage behavior is this?



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I look The Man *dead* in his eye when I ask for something. Or when somebody is trying to run game. Body language goes a long way in the corporate world.




That's different than some cat on the train.

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>I look The Man *dead* in his eye when I ask for something. Or
>when somebody is trying to run game. Body language goes a long
>way in the corporate world.
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Absolutely True


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>That's different than some cat on the train.
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Maybe.


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It's hilarious when people sidestep me or do the "if-I-don't-look-he-isn't-there" thing, because they think I'm panhandling. Assholes.

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BuddyG alluded to it above. Theres a balance. Too much and it can get confused with maddogging, flirting, weirdo/creep, or what the fuck does this person want lol

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thats about it

but I live in the south, when I visit somewhere like NYC not so much

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I thought it was a generational thing until I saw people of all backgrounds doing it. We all adults so conduct yourself like one.

It's 2017 so they think:
You out to rob them
You are going to steal their purse, car, smartphone, and watch.
You up to some guerrilla fuckery.

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That might send the signal that youz a bitch, and if someone happens to be a bully/jack boy/whatever it's a wrap

I love making eye contact and saying hello to random white folk in passing, just to see how they react. Did it to some white dude last night and said hey and he let out that loud ass gluten-free HI !!!!

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>...and he let out that loud
>ass gluten-free HI !!!!

LOL!

and I agree that healthy eye contact can be a learned behavior, and isn't necessarily innate. or rather, that a lack of healthy eye contact, doesn't necessarily indicate anything other than that behavior hasn't been learned

but while healthy eye contact is valuable, all eye contact ain't created equal. there is certainly eye contact that is assertive or aggressive

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>When I make any kind of contact wit a person, even passing
>them in the hall or street I make eye contact. But for some
>reason people be on this SCARED to look you in your eye mess.
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>What's up with that?
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>Eat, Pray! Live, Pray!

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There are many reasons which have already been pointed out. The duration of eye contact and the conveyed messages or meanings behind it could be problematic. Too much eye contact can feel threatening and feel invasive/intrusive.

I usually glance at people and acknowledge them to be polite when passing, but that is all. I'm usually deep in thought and don't want to get 'involved' in any way.

especially if we're talking complete strangers

likely just don't wanna be bothered. some could be from insecurity. in the office, they're prolly just not paying attention to you and focused on what they're doing.

if its a chick, she gets enough hey girl, smile sometimes comments to make it a hassle to eye contact with a dude.

I tend to give a headnod or nothing, depending on the environment.

Y'all buy those labels, I was born supreme

likely just don't wanna be bothered. some could be from insecurity. in the office, they're prolly just not paying attention to you and focused on what they're doing.

if its a chick, she gets enough hey girl, smile sometimes comments to make it a hassle to eye contact with a dude.

I tend to give a headnod or nothing, depending on the environment.

Y'all buy those labels, I was born supreme

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But it seems that we do because some folks felt the need to point out that NOT ALL PEOPLE ARE SCAAAAARED.


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Had you thought about the subject in the slightest you would have passed on the post.

Like, you can pretend that this was some "Captain Obvious" shit all you want but it's pretty clear that you didn't consider your question much at all.

You act like you don't know how to expand a conversion and still stay focused.

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This evident in the fact that you have two opposing responses to everyone pointing out the myriad possibilities for people who don't eye contact.

1. This "Captain Obvious" nonsense, as though you were already aware. You're dismissing these responses because they're too obvious.

2. ...... but then you say "Only Dumb questions are the ones not asked by dumb people", which implies that you didn't really know and then go on to say "You act like you don't know how to expand a conversion and still stay focused."

You can't complain about the fact that people expanded the conversation in a way that clearly illustrated that "scared" is just about the least reasonable possibility, pissing and moaning about "captain obvious" and then act like you asked an honest question. The two are mutually exclusive.

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Do you have problems looking people in the eye?
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Can you answer that question with clarity and not one of your usually generic and vague catch-alls?

Go sit down and enjoy your shadow.

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criticism which appears to be why you felt the need to to point out that you already knew that not all people were scared of eye contact, and that we should have implicitly have understood what you did or didn't know.

As I've said before, I just answered the topic in accordance with how it was worded. I wasn't thinking about what you did or didn't already know. My statement that it's not always that people are scared of eye contact was a generalized and objective one, and did not pertain directly to you at all.

OH WAIT

You mean "caping', as in riding to the rescue, not "capping", as in making fun of you for posting a stupid premise and getting pissy because nobody fed into the stupid premise.

I'm not sure how asking one solitary question is "caping", much less "caping hard" for the other poster.

I don't know why I'm wasting my day off from work engaging with you.

And for the record I have no problem making eye contact with people.

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No additional thoughts, ideas, or opinions.

In fact you haven't added to the discussion in any way other than to whine about people explaining the plethora of more probable reasons.

You say I'm boxed/limited/trapped in one opinion.

So I'll bite: explain what that one opinion is and offer a counter perspective.

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You say I'm "boxed" and "limited" in my opinion but recoil when challenged to actually justify those ridiculous statements with some kind of explanation and context?

I'm shocked, rev.

It's so telling that conversation gets very difficult for you when it's not relegated to bullshit clichés.

I agree. Not everyone that doesn't make eye contact is sacred. I asked why are people scared. I didn't say all people are scared.

Can you follow that?

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How do you determine the difference between scared and one of the several other more probable reasons?

Looking uncomfortable could mean anything. I'm asking how you determine that they're "scared" over one of the other options.

Just like it's your opinion that they are not scared. It's just one of many possibilities.

I see you like to argue for no reason. So here hold this argument coin.

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It doesn't make sense to answer the question "why do you hold this opinion" with "it's my opinion" when you're the one asking "why" in the first place.

I asked you softball questions. It's weird that you find basic inquiries into the logic that leads to the opinion you chose to discuss as "argumentative".

They know how to move within the context of the post. You should get out of the box.


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Saying "because that's my opinion" doesn't explain the basis for your opinion.

It's telling that instead of answering that very simple question and engaging the conversation with sincere thought and ideas you simply deflect.

That's long been your go-to move when you don't really have the ability to articulate a substantial thought. The only one in a box here is the guy who can't explain how he deduces that people who don't look him in the eye do so out of fear.

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to the question of how you arrive at the conclusion that they're scared.

LMAO@you trying to frame this as my inability to comprehend reasoning you haven't even expressed.

That should suffice.


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"Body language" doesn't explain anything.

"Body language" can be interpreted in many ways and I've found that people have a tendency to default to a few core interpretations and ignore other possibilities.

You've centered on fear and for all you're talk about me being in a "box" you don't seem to have any substantial reasoning to deduce fear as the reason people won't look you in the eye.

If that doesn't work for you then check your hand and see what it says


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One of those "feel it in my bones, the core of my soul, deep in my spirit" things.

Got it.

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