2. "I'm too cynical for new friends." In response to Reply # 0
most of my friends are either people I knew in HS/College or from 'around'. I meet people, but I'm not too quick to call them friends. I've found out that meeting people tends to bring a lot of unwanted conversation at this age. People bitching about their marriages, jobs, kids, etc. I'm generally a friendly dude, but I don't really get too close to 'new' people. Every now and then I meet somebody with similar interests and we might meet up and hang for a drink or a show or whatever, but I'm not the 'call and catch up' type.
3. "after a certain age/milestone everyone just splits" In response to Reply # 0
kids/marriage: say goodbye to friends I lost all my friends that way we're still "friends" but hanging out/building/choppin it up is an event that requires planning/logistics/babysitter/checkin in aka ain't nobody got time for that
Next month MIA is gonna be off the chain with music week/ultra/WMC maybe a good chance to meet like-minded music heads
4. "Yep. I'm the single/no kids guy in my crew." In response to Reply # 3
>kids/marriage: say goodbye to friends >I lost all my friends that way
and I don't get invited to anything ( other than when they have some shit and want you to contribute; trunk parties, etc). I understand it, but yeah. It's almost like you're an outsider. Especially if your boy was stupid enough to tell his wife about all the silly shit you guys used to do in your 20's.
>we're still "friends" but hanging out/building/choppin it up >is an event that requires >planning/logistics/babysitter/checkin in >aka ain't nobody got time for that
exactly. You gotta spend two weeks putting together a 4 hour outing.
5. "You have to pick up new hobbys as an adult" In response to Reply # 0
Your school friends talk less and less the older you get and then start their own families and lives.
Your marriage/relationship friends are fine, but it can't be your only identity
Your work friends can go either way but you don't want to solely rely on that.
The best thing I did in my 30's was try out new hobbies until I found one I love. Join a rec sports league, or some kind of club. Take a class etc...
I started doing improv comedy 5 years ago and basically all of my non work/relationship friends come from there at this point. The thing with doing something like that is everyone is signing up for those things for the same reason for the most part. It's a lot of adults looking for a new thing to do outside of their norm and meeting new people.
It's awkward as shit to meet people as you get older, a thing like that throws you in a situation where you all have to meet each other and talk to each other.
> >The thing with doing something like that is everyone is >signing up for those things for the same reason for the most >part. It's a lot of adults looking for a new thing to do >outside of their norm and meeting new people. > >It's awkward as shit to meet people as you get older, a thing >like that throws you in a situation where you all have to meet >each other and talk to each other.
-- the untold want by life and land ne'er granted now voyager sail thou forth to seek and find
17. "I do the gym 5 days a week.... iv made a few gym friends here and there" In response to Reply # 5
but nothing to actually plan an outing type thing just people that I see all the time that I have befriended and that I can ask for a spot... but the everyone is wife'd up/boo'd up
___________________ Nas >>> your favorite rapper's favorite rapper
>I need to branch out from the mutual friends >that I have in my marriage.
Most of the friends I have here I met through other friends. But my girl & I spend a lot of time together and we do a lot of stuff. It might be cool to have a group of friends to myself but if not, I'd be alright.
>Where are the south florida OKP's at? >lets meet up man
Miami is too far. The drive isn't that bad but driving back with a hangover is pure hell!
legsdiamond Member since May 05th 2011 79629 posts
Wed Feb-22-17 10:01 AM
9. "I have new friends but hanging out is hard as hell" In response to Reply # 0
getting free time at the same time is damn near impossible.
**************** TBH the fact that you're even a mod here fits squarely within Jag's narrative of OK-sanctioned aggression, bullying, and toxicity. *shrug*
21. "i think this is the hardest part... scheduling is a bitch" In response to Reply # 9
like you have to try and get everyone together on the same page like a month in advance n shit ___________________ Nas >>> your favorite rapper's favorite rapper
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