1. "Yeah, more so than I ever thought" In response to Reply # 0
I have it so good that now I fear losing what I have more than I think about going up from here.
I remember in school getting bad grades and things looking bleak. And then in college being astounded that I should be asking for $40k for my first job. I'm lucky as shit.
i got friends that look at my financial & career status and think "isn't that cute...good for him"
and i also got friends that look at me like i'm the shit. they point to me like i'm the example, like i'm setting the bar.
-The Knicks’ coaching search still includes a lone frontrunner, Kurt Rambis, whose qualifications for the position include a strong relationship with Jackson and a willingness to take the job.
3. "somewhat, i suppose. I never thought i'd be a homeowner or in a position" In response to Reply # 0
to buy. Never was even a goal of mine. But it was important to my wife and here we are. I'm satisfied.
I guess the only other thing i'd want is to be able to tell my wife that she can quit her job or work part time or do something less stressful but we probably could do that now if we sacrificed some things we like lol
-The Knicks’ coaching search still includes a lone frontrunner, Kurt Rambis, whose qualifications for the position include a strong relationship with Jackson and a willingness to take the job.
12. "RE: somewhat, i suppose. I never thought i'd be a homeowner or in a posi..." In response to Reply # 3
>to buy. Never was even a goal of mine. But it was important >to my wife and here we are. I'm satisfied. > >I guess the only other thing i'd want is to be able to tell my >wife that she can quit her job or work part time or do >something less stressful but we probably could do that now if >we sacrificed some things we like lol
this is me. grew up in apartments. home ownership was foreign to me. didn't even think about it much. then it just kinda happened.
my wife didn't work for years after our first kid. we did pretty ok. not sure if I could do it now even though I make more money.
29. "Yeah I always was in apt building" In response to Reply # 12
Avg, nothing terrible nothing fancy.
No shoveling mowing nothing. Something was wrong, call maintenance. dump your trash any day you want lol. No recycling. I coulda been Content
-The Knicks’ coaching search still includes a lone frontrunner, Kurt Rambis, whose qualifications for the position include a strong relationship with Jackson and a willingness to take the job.
5. "turned 35 last month. so far happy but definitely still hungry AF" In response to Reply # 0 Wed Jan-13-16 01:52 PM by double negative
i never thought I would have gotten this far
but
I am here, still alive and actually thriving. and I'm happy, on a deep level. For the most part my needs are completely met and my desires are pretty small...I picked up a salad spinner last night and that shit had me geeked.
At this point I want the big shit like a nice apartment or house and a car for fun.
I'm about low key stunting...understated luxury. Good shit that doesnt scream THIS IS THE GOOD SHIT
...I picked up a >salad spinner last night and that shit had me geeked.
this shit kills me! I bought a damn apple slicer and was happy as shit. back in the day, I would've been like this some bougie crap, while secretly wanting to buy it. lol
> >At this point I want the big shit like a nice apartment or >house and a car for fun. > >I'm about low key stunting...understated luxury. Good shit >that doesnt scream THIS IS THE GOOD SHIT
I like when folks about me about certain things when they don't have names all over. > >
legsdiamond Member since May 05th 2011 79616 posts
Wed Jan-13-16 02:25 PM
7. "when i go home to visit i definitely feel like i made it" In response to Reply # 0
I grew up poor as shit...
we didn't own our home or a car. Went from classy to ashy when the Steel Mills closed.
my wife was worried how we would get by when she was pregnant and said she wanted to make sure our kid has more than we had.
we own our home, we are married and still madly in love... I feel like we are already ahead of the game.
but the money could still be better. Part of the problem is growing up watching poor money management and not breaking that cycle.
**************** TBH the fact that you're even a mod here fits squarely within Jag's narrative of OK-sanctioned aggression, bullying, and toxicity. *shrug*
14. "perspective really is key" In response to Reply # 7
>I grew up poor as shit...
being home or around the fam/friends that didn't move forward vs being around folks that have land and take multiple vacations.
> >we didn't own our home or a car. Went from classy to ashy when >the Steel Mills closed. > >my wife was worried how we would get by when she was pregnant >and said she wanted to make sure our kid has more than we had. > > >we own our home, we are married and still madly in love... I >feel like we are already ahead of the game.
yup, yall good > >but the money could still be better. Part of the problem is >growing up watching poor money management and not breaking >that cycle.
I still kinda suck at this. didn't do 401k til later in life. had a rack of credit from college and beyond. not to mentions car notes an student loans. I'm getting from under this mess though and my score is the highest its ever been. > >
legsdiamond Member since May 05th 2011 79616 posts
Wed Jan-13-16 03:37 PM
25. "my score just nosedived recently... lol" In response to Reply # 14 Wed Jan-13-16 03:41 PM by legsdiamond
it's crazy because we are both college grads, she has a master's but we haven't been able to find 2 good jobs in the same city. its always 1 good job and 1 almost good job or 2 good jobs but the commute to one of them eats into the budget.
then we had 2 cars paid off. Got a nice chunk of cash and 1 car died so now we have a car payment, then the other car died so we have 2 car payments... then we found out we were having a baby.
but I'm still blessed. especially when hear other people in the struggle.
and my redit taking a hit isnt funny, but I have to laugh it off cause I don't really need to make any big purchases anytime soon and there isn't much I can do about it besides work on it until it goes back up.
**************** TBH the fact that you're even a mod here fits squarely within Jag's narrative of OK-sanctioned aggression, bullying, and toxicity. *shrug*
31. "man, cars will pick the right time" In response to Reply # 25
to fuck up some cash flow. I've only got one note now for my wife's car, but I worried about mine as it inches closer to 200k. hopefully, I'll the resources if mine starts acting up.
for the credit, I refied my house with quicken and got loan from lending tree to kill the credit cards. had no idea that my score would go up like that. now I just gotta keep paying this loan for another couple years and I'll be really on my way.
congrats on the baby. I was in the same boat. married a year. oh a baby? shit, what is we gonna do lol. had two crappy cars. my job at the time was steady, but paid no money. she was working at a restaurant.
just had to bide my time and finally got a big break into the next gig.
legsdiamond Member since May 05th 2011 79616 posts
Wed Jan-13-16 06:40 PM
40. "yeah, i'm going to refinance soon" In response to Reply # 31
**************** TBH the fact that you're even a mod here fits squarely within Jag's narrative of OK-sanctioned aggression, bullying, and toxicity. *shrug*
11. "career lifestyle yes. financially no." In response to Reply # 0
the key to happiness is not being rich; it's doing something arduous and creating something of value and then being able to reflect on the fruits of your labor
22. "a few things i am working on....." In response to Reply # 18 Wed Jan-13-16 03:29 PM by dapitts08
(1) really putting a rock solid system of processes in place for my business. from client onboarding to project completion/wrap up. a system that isn't just in my head but on paper. one that if i decide i want to outsource some parts of my business, i can easily onboard new staff.
(2) actually selling my services. my entire business has been built on client referrals. i have never really sought out new business.
(3) picking the ideal client profile and sticking with it. not be afraid to say no to clients that you know are not going to be a good fit.
(4) making a habit of creating side projects. side projects give me the creative freedom to build something that i want and is not influenced by client decisions. they become the fuel needed when i am disgusted by how a client has completely screwed up my design lol plus more times than not side projects can grow into profitable ventures
(5) figure out an online product that is evergreen (or as close to it as possible) that generates additional income with minimal maintenance
those are just a few ... but the key for me was really figuring out what area of design i wanted to focus on....when i decided that i wanted to concentrate strictly on web stuff then i had a focus and barometer for my decisions.
edit: and yep...i am trying to get to where you are....making more money but spending less time doing it so i can explore other things
the key to happiness is not being rich; it's doing something arduous and creating something of value and then being able to reflect on the fruits of your labor
32. "#2 is pretty damn good." In response to Reply # 22
that's hard to do without much selling on your own. seems like once you do start selling, it gonna take you forward pretty quick and lead to more referrals as well.
legsdiamond Member since May 05th 2011 79616 posts
Wed Jan-13-16 03:46 PM
27. "this is where im trying to get to..." In response to Reply # 18
I was up for a gig at wake forest but I didn't get it. Shit woulda changed our life. Still upset about it but the one saving grace is I didn't want to move to Winston Salem.
There are a lot of new businesses in Charlotte and I need to find my niche and grind this out.
**************** TBH the fact that you're even a mod here fits squarely within Jag's narrative of OK-sanctioned aggression, bullying, and toxicity. *shrug*
19. "how far do you actually want to move up?" In response to Reply # 16
would the moves be for money or some other motivation?
I don't know that I want to move up right now since it would mean managing people. I could do it, but people management would take me away from doing the work that I enjoy.
24. "Because I am not actually doing something I love " In response to Reply # 19
I don't necessarily want to move up more. But I do want more money. And my lifestyle has sort of locked me into not leaving to do something that I speculate I would love.
>would the moves be for money or some other motivation? > >I don't know that I want to move up right now since it would >mean managing people. I could do it, but people management >would take me away from doing the work that I enjoy.
********** "Everyone has a plan until you punch them in the face. Then they don't have a plan anymore." (c) Mike Tyson
33. "this is so frustrating" In response to Reply # 24
And my lifestyle has sort of locked me into not >leaving to do something that I speculate I would love. > > leaves you feeling stuck. I wanted to be in the music business (not the creative side), but decided I couldn't do it since the money was too inconsistent. I'd love to be involved, but nope. just keep regular jobs, but eventually found something I like doing that's cool to me.
23. "this is me all day." In response to Reply # 16
>But the truth is I just made it into the bottom rung of a >brand new big ass ladder that I have little idea how to >steadily move up.
the change for me is that over the past few months i have stumbled on some folks who are modeling for me how to make that move up...which is the catalyst for where i want to go.
the key to happiness is not being rich; it's doing something arduous and creating something of value and then being able to reflect on the fruits of your labor
34. "Nope. Not even close...." In response to Reply # 0
But I'm content, not struggling and have a lot of work to do. I'm grateful for that. The days aren't a drag and I don't have to push my way thru. I wake up these days ready to go and excited for the most part.
I feel like I'm just getting started to be honest.
44. "yessir...that i shall.." In response to Reply # 43
good luck with the certification.. Were you in that recent post about the pros of getting project management under your belt? if not might be worth checking it out
45. "nah, I missed that." In response to Reply # 44
will check it out. thx.
I've always unwilling to do certs. I've gotten this far with 1 old ass cert and a marketing degree. so I've never really felt a need to certify. seems like a waste of money. my comp might foot the bill, so it couldn't hurt.
and at this point, I need to do something to keep up with my teammates.
37. "I know I made improvements" In response to Reply # 0
From a financial standpoint, but would not say that I officially "made it" until I take care of some other business. As long as I continue to make strides towards self improvement, then that gives me hope that I will reach to the point of "making it".
I've made it to the mountaintop more than once. Each time I just set my sights on a new mountain. I'm doing that now.
But to answer - Careerwise am doing exactly what I set out to to do about 9 years ago. I am where I figured I'd be. However, I didn't expect I'd be on my way to LA. But here I'm is.
50. "finally feel like there is not one person holding me back" In response to Reply # 0
except myself that internal conflict has not allowed me to make it like i may want to but i think ive made my life where another person can take it away
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