A family member (or friend) you haven't spoken to in a long time (who you have no negative history with) is in the hospital and you KNOW that if you call them, the first thing they gonna say is:
"Oh so i guess i have to be in the hospital to hear from you!"
1. "nothing matters and we are all going to die. call them. " In response to Reply # 0 Mon Oct-05-15 11:32 AM by double negative
a friend lost his mother recently. they fought, she called him something along the lines of a "f*ggot asshole" so he never called he when she went to the hospital. she died very quickly after without resolving anything and hes all fucked up it.
legsdiamond Member since May 05th 2011 79506 posts
Mon Oct-05-15 11:35 AM
4. "I call... some people are wired funny" In response to Reply # 0
and always have some shit to say when you call...
but that isn't my problem.
**************** TBH the fact that you're even a mod here fits squarely within Jag's narrative of OK-sanctioned aggression, bullying, and toxicity. *shrug*
5. "my default reply is "phones work both ways"" In response to Reply # 0
i recently went to a wedding where the first thing the person who invited me said to me was "hello stranger" i haven't heard from them since...... not even to say thank you for the gift i gave
17. "i used to say that to my grandmother (RIP)." In response to Reply # 5
i now understand that she didn't want to speak w/me as much as she wanted ME to call HER. b/c by calling her i'd signal to her that she holds some importance in my life as evidenced by my willingness to take time out of my (assumedly busy) schedule to call her.
b/c if she just wanted to talk to me she would've called. if she wanted to know what's going w/me she can get that info from my mother. that's not what she meant when she complained that i never called. i didn't get it then but i get it now. and i'm trying to be better about this issue w/my remaining relatives. but i'm still not great about it. lol
However, it would depend who the person is as well as our relationship with each other. I will take the lecture from an older relative, but would say something g snarky back to someone within my peer group.
Communication is a 2 way street. The person should be appreciative that he or she got a phone call from anyone, whether it is due to a dire situation or not.
legsdiamond Member since May 05th 2011 79506 posts
Mon Oct-05-15 12:52 PM
15. "I'm the exact opposite, the older i get, the easier it is to shrug comme..." In response to Reply # 14
and jabs from people.
I grew up in a family that was judgey and filled with shit talkers. If they don't talk shit o,ecrack a joke I wonder if they are mad at me or going through something.
my best friends mom was giving a speech and said... "if I don't joke with you or less with you, it's cause I don't mess with you"
**************** TBH the fact that you're even a mod here fits squarely within Jag's narrative of OK-sanctioned aggression, bullying, and toxicity. *shrug*
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