1. "nothing matters and we are all going to die. call them. " In response to Reply # 0 Mon Oct-05-15 11:32 AM by double negative
a friend lost his mother recently. they fought, she called him something along the lines of a "f*ggot asshole" so he never called he when she went to the hospital. she died very quickly after without resolving anything and hes all fucked up it.
17. "i used to say that to my grandmother (RIP)." In response to Reply # 5
i now understand that she didn't want to speak w/me as much as she wanted ME to call HER. b/c by calling her i'd signal to her that she holds some importance in my life as evidenced by my willingness to take time out of my (assumedly busy) schedule to call her.
b/c if she just wanted to talk to me she would've called. if she wanted to know what's going w/me she can get that info from my mother. that's not what she meant when she complained that i never called. i didn't get it then but i get it now. and i'm trying to be better about this issue w/my remaining relatives. but i'm still not great about it. lol
However, it would depend who the person is as well as our relationship with each other. I will take the lecture from an older relative, but would say something g snarky back to someone within my peer group.
Communication is a 2 way street. The person should be appreciative that he or she got a phone call from anyone, whether it is due to a dire situation or not.