"Worst Break-up: How'd you get over?" Tue Sep-01-15 01:22 PM by JellyBean
Tell me about your worst break-up.
Who ended it? Why did it end? Was it your fault? Did you cry? Did they? Any threats? Her people come looking for you? Were his sisters/cousins ready to jump you in the club?
Did you have a rebound relationship/sex? Are you over them yet?
Let's make this last 3 hours count!
"Holier than thou never sits well with me."(c)janey
"OKP spends way too much time looking for ways to be offended." ~legsdiamond
3. "RE: Worst Break-up: How'd you get over?" In response to Reply # 0
>Tell me about your worst break-up. > >Who ended it? I did
>Why did it end? Was it your fault? I was immature and was unable to work through my emotions like an adult
>Did you cry? Did they? I cried like a baby for months...I think he cried I'm not sure
>Any threats? Her people come looking for you? Were his >sisters/cousins ready to jump you in the club? he threatened me....nothing ever happened > >Did you have a rebound relationship/sex? I had a rebound relationship, and from that came a child.
>Are you over them yet? I still question that sometimes. I love him, we were friends first and foremost and I think that is why I'll never not love him...I'm not IN love with him anymore tho.
>Let's make this last 3 hours count! >
"Holier than thou never sits well with me."(c)janey
"OKP spends way too much time looking for ways to be offended." ~legsdiamond
Admitted to cheating with no details. Cried a bit, deep down she was too fast for me I knew. She was a ho and I couldn't handle that she had been with so many and she was too honest. It's like befriending a dude that sets up people to be robbed. All the time he's talking to you about how good he is at it and how he sets up folks who think are friends. At some point it's like can you stop talking like this to me out of respect or when are you going to point the gun at me? So I had made a friend but never crossed that line with her, because she was good and I didn't want to drag her into this mess. That was about two years before breakup. Guess who I called same month after breakup? Guess who was finer? Guess whose been married happily and broke off their rear view mirror? Yeah, yeah, yeah I'm a bullet dodger.
Taking shots in the dark/that's a bad call Going straight for your head/ gotta saw it off
5. "RE: Worst Break-up: How'd you get over?" In response to Reply # 0
>Tell me about your worst break-up. > >Who ended it?
Me >Why did it end?
She was trying to cheat on me.
Was it your fault?
Can't say if it was my fault or not... I don't really know.
>Did you cry?
I did after the fact... I was really hurt by it cause I thought I really cared about her at least at the time.
Did they?
Nope. And she was pretty evil after the fact.
>Any threats?
Nah.
Her people come looking for you?
Nah I was real cool with her brother. I called her a bitch and all types of shit... Me and him talked about it afterwards and he understood what I was going thru and why I was being so harsh.
Were his sisters/cousins ready to jump you in the club?
She tried to turn her rapper cousins on me but they didn't bite.
>Did you have a rebound relationship/sex?
Plenty. I was fucking everything looking my way...
>Are you over them yet?
For sure.
>Let's make this last 3 hours count! >
I'm for truth no matter who tells it. I'm for justice no matter who it's for or against. - el Hajj Malik el Shabazz
His fault. He was really messed up and not interested in getting it together. So he ran back to an old love who turned out not to be as great as his memories. Then he tried to come back to me but I soon broke up with him.
>Did you cry? Did they?
I cried first. I think I went through all the emotions while still in the relationship. By the time I was good with everything, he started crying. All. The. Time.
>Any threats? Her people come looking for you? Were his sisters/cousins >ready to jump you in the club?
No? Maybe? I know that I left him crying on the floor a lot... I'd say they were warnings (to leave me alone), not threats.
8. "Its trite but time heals all" In response to Reply # 0
i had a bunch written out but I decided not to revisit that steaming crater form my life.
lets just say that the break up wasnt bad but the year long shit tornado that led up to it deeply affected me emotionally for some years after the fact.
we are cool now and whats funny is that she dated a friend after we broke up
whats even funnier than that is that after they broke up after a 4 year thing, i had a bro down and asked if he ever went through any filthy shit with her and it turns out that I guess I was the one who lived through her bad time period.
ugh. fucking people.
that shit has made me very very very careful to engage with people.
legsdiamond Member since May 05th 2011 79616 posts
Tue Sep-01-15 03:01 PM
10. "RE: Worst Break-up: How'd you get over?" In response to Reply # 0
>Tell me about your worst break-up. > >Who ended it? I did >Why did it end?
she stepped out on a nigga
Was it your fault?
no, but I damn sure didn't even try to see the signs.
>Did you cry? on the inside. i didn't cry but a nigga was hurt
Did they? yup
>Any threats? Her people come looking for you? Were his >sisters/cousins ready to jump you in the club?
Fuck no > > >Did you have a rebound relationship/sex? hell yes... and I looked around and smashed her a few more times. After every bust I would be mad at myself for it but the Sex was awesome.
>Are you over them yet?
I guess... I was single and reconnected but once again, after the Sex was over I was ready to leave. She had the best head game ever but all i,met thinking about is how she got to be so good at it.
best thing about her is if it wasn't for her I would have never met my wife. for that l, I have thanked her and I'm sure it pisses her off >
**************** TBH the fact that you're even a mod here fits squarely within Jag's narrative of OK-sanctioned aggression, bullying, and toxicity. *shrug*
>best thing about her is if it wasn't for her I would have >never met my wife. for that l, I have thanked her and I'm sure >it pisses her off
Nice move.
"From the bottom of my heart.....you have given me a gift that I continue to treasure each and every day. From whence this beautiful light was born.....there are no words for my gratitude. They say that everything happens for a reason....and I am reminded every day why we met...so that the greatest joy on earth would eventually be mine".
The possibilities are endless. You can faceitiously walk the line between genuine gratitude and rubbing it in her frigging face. Perfect.
she got me good, can't front... those VA women got game.
**************** TBH the fact that you're even a mod here fits squarely within Jag's narrative of OK-sanctioned aggression, bullying, and toxicity. *shrug*
14. "I can't even remember his name. " In response to Reply # 0
I cried over it for weeks. Really just kicking myself for getting with and wasting my time with a loser. It's never really about the person, just about fears about being alone and really mourning the time I wasted that I could have spent with other guys and beating myself up for being dumb. None of the guys I've dated in recent years have been shit. I've stopped latching on to losers. There was no family drama. I did keep talking to him bc I was amazed out how he went from would you be willing to get married in a catholic wedding to we were not even dating in 3 days and I wanted to get to the bottom of it. The reality was he was a womanizing sociopath. I just believed that bs that women need to lower standards and be more accepting of guys who are in progress or whatever. I'm over that. There wasn't much to get over with when it came to him. I didn't enjoy sex with him and we had nothing in common.
15. "RE: Worst Break-up: How'd you get over?" In response to Reply # 0
>Tell me about your worst break-up. Sure...
>Who ended it? That is difficult to say, I guess you can say technically she did but we both knew it was over.
>Why did it end? Was it your fault? complacency, non-communication, cheating. I think I could take most of the blame. >Did you cry? Did they? we both cried, listening to "Wild Horses" - Alicia Keys I have no idea why THAT song or even why we had a soundtrack to the breakup but it is what I remember whenever I hear that song.
>Any threats? Her people come looking for you? Were his >sisters/cousins ready to jump you in the club? Nope, in fact I can't even remember how she moved out. > >Did you have a rebound relationship/sex? Yes, not purposely but I didn't stop it from happening.
>Are you over them yet? Yes, but I think there is still love in my heart for them. > >Let's make this last 3 hours count! >
TheAlbionist Member since Jul 04th 2011 3306 posts
Wed Sep-02-15 05:19 AM
16. "RE: Worst Break-up: How'd you get over?" In response to Reply # 0
>Who ended it?
She did.
>Why did it end? Was it your fault?
We were boyfriend/girlfriend throughout school up until she went to University.. about 7 years in all, I think. She was there a year, I moved up to London to join her... 3 weeks later we'd split up.
>Did you cry? Did they?
I think the Thames water level went up a couple of cm.
>Any threats? Her people come looking for you? Were his >sisters/cousins ready to jump you in the club?
Naaah.
> > >Did you have a rebound relationship/sex?
Yes. Lots. Occasionally with each other too. Neither of us wanted to leave our flat so we ended up co-habiting for another 5 years (separate rooms and there were 5 people living there so we didn't have to hang out much, but it was weird, yes)
>Are you over them yet?
Yep. I can name the exact date and time I was fixed too. 4 hours into an acid trip, 15 hours out of a jail cell and 20 minutes into a Björk gig. Bachelorette was playing and my best friend was next to me.
17. "RE: Worst Break-up: How'd you get over?" In response to Reply # 16
>>Did you have a rebound relationship/sex? > >Yes. Lots. Occasionally with each other too. Neither of us >wanted to leave our flat so we ended up co-habiting for >another 5 years (separate rooms and there were 5 people living >there so we didn't have to hang out much, but it was weird, >yes) > This seems like it would be so confusing lol
"Holier than thou never sits well with me."(c)janey
"OKP spends way too much time looking for ways to be offended." ~legsdiamond
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