44. "if the dad was dead then probably" In response to Reply # 2
but I love kids and they love me so I'd probably get attached to the kid. I wouldn't wanna meet the kid though until I felt we were moving in the direction of being exclusive and serious
4. "date exclusively...no but id kick it with her when she had time" In response to Reply # 0
but seriously dating no id have to keep it casual until we both knew this is what we wanted not trying to play dad in a situation that doesnt even get off the ground
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9. "waymint, you got 4 kids by 4 different baby momma's and you got the" In response to Reply # 0
audacity to be upset because someone decided step up and take the role you've abandoned.
Muhphuckas kills me in the black community.
She free to date but she can't have no one around yo child ass muhphuckas. But you won't get yo child so that she can be out and about dating, always too busy to be a parent ass. So now she s'pose to just work, come home, be mom and that's life.
Phuck that. I'll date a single momma with no problem.
Muhphuckas can't stand when THEY break up with someone and then the other person moves on to a much safer and stable relationship. I'm team #CICI on this one. She ain't said sh*t about ol' boy in recent months, she found peace and solace in a new relationship and it's tearing Future's (trapped in the past)ass up. I guess what they say is true--If you want revenge on someone just keep living---that's all you have to do.
18. "no i would not. " In response to Reply # 15 Thu Jul-23-15 11:49 AM by NikaMandela
but i was just wondering why the question was gender specific. "because i'm a man..." you're going to leave out 50% of replies from the opposite gender bc you're a man...? lol
after my last situation, I'm not too keen on men with kids period...9 months or 9 years old. i love kids but the other parent can complicate things, especially if the other parent is female and has the man by the nuts. and if they're the kind of parent i'd want for my child, they probably won't have enough time for me.
ok that was just my baggage talking but my answer is no, lol.
I'm just saying its a turnoff to me when its clear that a father is out living his life and the mother is the one bogged down with a baby. I'm not dating that dude. the type of dude i'd want would be up in the mama's face trying to be there as much as possible. but that type of dude does not have time for me so there we go.
46. "To make matters more difficult for you, the dude who isn't in his kids" In response to Reply # 27 Thu Jul-23-15 04:12 PM by micMajestic
>I'm just saying its a turnoff to me when its clear that a >father is out living his life and the mother is the one bogged >down with a baby. I'm not dating that dude. the type of dude >i'd want would be up in the mama's face trying to be there as >much as possible. but that type of dude does not have time for >me so there we go.
life as much probably doesn't have nearly as big of a gut as the one that is. He might even workout daily. lol this post is much different for women.
33. "I guess a lot of it has to do with what you've experienced and your" In response to Reply # 32
frame of reference....
Your frame of reference is indeed valid....not knocking it.
But my personal frame of reference is that of my nephew's mom actively keeping my brother away from his child from the day he was born and doing everything she could to KEEP him out of their lives simply because of a grudge SHE held.
So yeah...two frames of reference coloring our opinions on the hypothetical question Kwesi posed....
I'd venture that a man that was ACTIVELY and PURPOSEFULLY avoiding interacting with their child that's less than a year old.....likely wouldn't even tell you or anyone they're trying to date that they even HAD a child though...
36. "it definitely depends on the situation but still" In response to Reply # 33
if a woman is keeping a man from his child, i can't say that suddenly makes him datable. if he's not torn up about not being able to see his child, he's probably not the guy for me. and if he is torn up about it, it will probably affect our relationship.
and its not just about my experiences; my opinion is based on the strong feelings i have about family and children. i think the most important decision we make for our children is who we choose as their mother or father and if you're in a situation like this, you've failed your child in this regard. if you're not taking the steps to correct that mistake, then we clearly don't have the same values.
legsdiamond Member since May 05th 2011 79586 posts
Thu Jul-23-15 05:05 PM
47. "Sounds like there is never a good reason to date someone with a young ch..." In response to Reply # 36
and I have to agree.
**************** TBH the fact that you're even a mod here fits squarely within Jag's narrative of OK-sanctioned aggression, bullying, and toxicity. *shrug*
55. "Whaaat? She should be satisfied to leave the child daddy less??" In response to Reply # 13
>Fuck you look like dating with an infant.
That's prime time. The kid would never know new guy isn't the dad. She could use the extra financial help and help with the baby. White ppl do it all the time. Any decent mom should be looking.
legsdiamond Member since May 05th 2011 79586 posts
Thu Jul-23-15 12:14 PM
20. "no.. I dated an older woman from Wilkinsburg with 2 kids..." In response to Reply # 0
and when we were getting off the bus she said if her baby daddy saw me carrying his kid he would shoot me...
I put the kid down and that relationship ended
too messy
**************** TBH the fact that you're even a mod here fits squarely within Jag's narrative of OK-sanctioned aggression, bullying, and toxicity. *shrug*
>and when we were getting off the bus she said if her baby >daddy saw me carrying his kid he would shoot me... > >I put the kid down and that relationship ended > >too messy
35. "RE: Fellas: Would you date a single mom with a child less than a year ol..." In response to Reply # 0
Depends on what you mean by date but you certainly shouldn't be getting serious and doing things that the dad is supposed to do. I don't think the guy is doing the right thing that's dating Ciara and she is wrong too.
I'm for truth no matter who tells it. I'm for justice no matter who it's for or against. - el Hajj Malik el Shabazz
legsdiamond Member since May 05th 2011 79586 posts
Thu Jul-23-15 05:09 PM
48. "My boy asked me to double date with his gf, the girl was 6 month pregger..." In response to Reply # 0
She was fine as shit but fuuuuck nooo...
But a good 2 or 3 of my niggas was like "man, it aint like she can get pregnant my nigga..."
**************** TBH the fact that you're even a mod here fits squarely within Jag's narrative of OK-sanctioned aggression, bullying, and toxicity. *shrug*
56. "had a similar situation 20 years ago" In response to Reply # 48
Me and my boy were seniors in highshool. He had this girl he was seeing and she had a pregnant friend. So we double dated, but I couldn't look at her that way though she was fine. But needless to say he and that other girl talked for a couple months and were through while me and the pregnant girl became good friends and I'm the godfather of her son who's in college. But we did have one summer in the late 90s where we were having casual sex with each other cuz neither of us were seeing anybody. lol
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