1. "i got a part time job" In response to Reply # 0
and i actually have to work harder there than i do at my full time job. white collar vs. service industry. it felt good to work hard tho. and it opened my social life up. very few people get a new crew at 30, but i kinda did. --------------------------------------- it's true what they say...people are strange, when you're strangers.
9. "stopped chiefin..hit the gym..career wise finally played the game" In response to Reply # 0 Tue May-19-15 02:18 PM by ambient1
to a certain extent...still workin on that...but it paid off $ wise -stopped worrying about findin 'her' -learned more about my parents...helped me put more things into perspective -prayed more...got into the bible more -kept being me
i did start chiefin again tho...hasn't slowed me down at all
17. "I JUST hit 30. But tried to make a lot of changes leading to it." In response to Reply # 0
-Saving money in even more ways. I got to a point that I felt I worked and had enough money to always have the best hotel, or to upgrade to the biggest TV just because I wanted it. Now, it's much more about priorities, even though I don't have to worry about kids or anything else
-Working out way more, and much more healthy diet. And not solely working out for "mirror muscles" but for long term benefits
-Ignoring certain things. Especially on social media, even on OKP. Some things aren't worth a response at all, and can drain you mentally.
-No video games unless it's social. I realized I really don't have ANY free time to do anything random. Even if I'm watching TV, I can fold clothes or something productive.
21. "Just prior to my 30s, I moved to a new city that better fit my needs" In response to Reply # 0
Some of those "needs" were wants, but whatever lol, I moved to be happy with my career options and social life. That wise decision, and the job that eventually came with it, changed the game for me and set me onto a positive trajectory in my 30s.
Other things that have improved my life: -Learning how to apply every breath I take toward achieving a goal
-Accepting that being in a relationship isn't everything, and that it certainly isn't a viable strategy for happiness
-Divesting people who don't contribute anything positive to my life (or better yet, not giving them any play in the first place)
-Spending more time on things and with people that matter
-Saving and investing money
-Seeking out new and exciting experiences rather than things
24. "Became responsible " In response to Reply # 0
I paid off all those bills and bad credit items that I just let sit there and let damage my financial future. Started saving and spending wisely.
Therapy: I wasn't in a happy place in my mid 20's and let that spiral in to a deep depression after a bad break up. I ignored it up until I hit 30 and then started going to therapy to help straighten out my life.
Became more selfish, I basically started following my goals and not being such a big push over for other people.
Cut loose people who weren't making a positive impact in my life.
sometimes u gotta leave ur inner nigger in the bank vault. - desus
27. "I wish I started being health conscious earlier in my 30s. " In response to Reply # 0
Unless you were raised to do it, a smart person reaches a person where they realize that they have to start being more conscious of what they eat and how they live. Many of us start to late which makes it harder.
********** "Everyone has a plan until you punch them in the face. Then they don't have a plan anymore." (c) Mike Tyson
"One of the most important things in life is what Judge Learned Hand described as 'that ever-gnawing inner doubt as to whether you're
28. "Enlisted in the Navy, got married, and left my hometown" In response to Reply # 0
My 20's are a blur of clubs, parties, and broads I was burnt out at 28 and with nothing to show for it at 30 I was like fuck this shit, and enlisted being surrounded by a bunch of just out of HS kids put everything in perspective I grinded, saved money, and got out got married while I was in, and while it ultimately didn't work out, it gave me something to strive for other than my selfish pleasures and leaving my comfort zone was crucial. Living on the other side of the country plus 2 deployments showed me who my real friends were. When I was the man about town I had tons of "friends" but when I came back after the Navy I could count them on one hand.
35. "this was before the recession" In response to Reply # 0 Thu May-21-15 09:38 AM by afropuff
i got a life coach, and we talked about organizing my life into quadrants of what i wanted to work on, then had weekly check-ins to make sure i was achieving goals. i needed someone to check in with like having a personal trainer. after i got tired of paying, i joined a self-help group that met in Starbucks, that was off the Oprah.com message boards, i think it was called "Take Time for Your Life" (this was like 2005).
So the areas i was working on were Social Life, Career, and to a lesser degree financial and fitness. The biggest thing I improved was my social life. I joined social groups off of Craigslist, kind of meetup.com type groups. I met a few crazies but also made several good friends. Also had lot of new experiences such as going hiking, learning ballroom dance, wine tastings and trying different cuisines.
Back at that time of life living in New York with no friends, all of these were valuable exeriences to me.
ETA: i was also in therapy to get in touch w my emotions and straighten out my mental state