I guess mothers day isn't really about gifts anyway.

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Where is the peace when we are in the back of ambulances? Where is the peace then?
They don't want to call for peace then.

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Oh yeah

But I haven't gotten anything else since then. Now that I see giving is one sided or half assed he wont be getting anymore gifts from me. I didn't get him anything for Christmas, valentines, wont get him anything for fathers day or his birthday. And I wont say happy anything either.. No happy fathers day or birthday or merry Christmas.

That's not how we do.

However it wont be this way in my next relationship.

It has never been this way in any of my previous relationships.

But I haven't gotten anything else since then. Now that I see giving is one sided or half assed he wont be getting anymore gifts from me. I didn't get him anything for Christmas, valentines, wont get him anything for fathers day or his birthday. And I wont say happy anything either.. No happy fathers day or birthday or merry Christmas.

That's not how we do.

However it wont be this way in my next relationship.

It has never been this way in any of my previous relationships.

>But I haven't gotten anything else since then. Now that I see
>giving is one sided or half assed he wont be getting anymore
>gifts from me. I didn't get him anything for Christmas,
>valentines, wont get him anything for fathers day or his
>birthday. And I wont say happy anything either.. No happy
>fathers day or birthday or merry Christmas.
>
>That's not how we do.
>
>However it wont be this way in my next relationship.
>
>It has never been this way in any of my previous
>relationships.

Lol. I'm just going thru a transition where I have to have better. I am changing. If he changes then cool, if not then cool...but I'm going to elevate. And based off what we have been thru I don't think he will change. But I also feel the need to be fair. This isn't something to play with. We have a child that has seen his mommy and daddy everyday of his life almost.

I have to be sure I do things in the right time and season and with the right motivation and intention.

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TBH the fact that you're even a mod here fits squarely within Jag's narrative of OK-sanctioned aggression, bullying, and toxicity. *shrug*

The issues in this relationship are nothing like the issues of the past. Which intrigued me for a while. But shit got serious when we got pregnant. That had never happened before to either of us. And after 5 years we are still in the baby stages of our relationship.

My problem has been not understanding that I hold the key to my own happiness. It's hard to face the fact that people will do something quicker and more consistently if they feel they have to.

I don't like making anyone feel like they have to do anything. I always give choices. And I'm very low maintence because I independent.

And you will know MY JACKET IS GOLD when I lay my vengeance upon thee.

Good things he does


Well first off he is here splitting bills n shit. Which is much more than id get from child support.

And he doesn't visibly cheat. Meaning if he is cheating I can't tell.

And because I could tell I know I can't.


So that plays a factor

This man knocked me up. And wants us to be a fam. He isn't cheating, fathers the child...but I don't feel happy in the relationship. Because he doesn't have a goal that I can understand. He doesn't communicate well and we seem to always be on different pages.

But I want to be on the same page but I don't agree with me having to make the sacrifice to get us on the same page.

So what then?

give someone who isn't my mother a gift...but I gave up that fight years ago

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The only reason my girl is able to celebrate mother's day is because I gave her a baby. That should be gift enough.

it doesn't even matter lol

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Which is why I adjusted my thought that gifts were exchanged on mothers and fathers day. My mom and dad do give gifts so that's what I'm used to. But hr could at least communicate that he doesn't feel the need to do mothers day gifts.

What I mean by creative would be helping my son make a mothers day card for me. Or having my so. Give me a kiss or a flower or something.

Maybe he will do that when my son gets older. He is about to turn three. I am a mother and moms work very hard.

Last year he didn't even say happy mothers day to me.

Was he in a better spot then? Did you see any of this coming? Seems like you set yourself up for the okey doke.

Streets won't let me chill.

My MOTHER and she just said the exact same thing to me.

When Okp and my Mum say the same thing, it must be true.