I don't believe they're necessary. I think it's fine if a few ppl aren't adherent considering the overwhelming majority ARE adherent. The few who reject them are and will be fine.
4. "i dont even know what believing/not believing in them would mean" In response to Reply # 0
gender roles vary by generation, region, race, religion etc. so much that im not sure its even possible to believe in a universal set of roles. as far as relationships go, whatever works for that couple works for them
just another social construct bound to ebb and flow like the tides. yes, they "exist", but more in the way that 56k modems exist. eventually you change and do something better/different.
15. "i dont "believe in" them, but i like them for myself" In response to Reply # 0 Mon Apr-27-15 10:04 AM by NikaMandela
they feel very natural to me so of course I'm with them. but i know there are lots of women who aren't as traditionally feminine as me and lots of men who aren't very masculine and whatever systems they build their lives around aren't any better or worse than mine.
-DJ R-Tistic- Member since Nov 06th 2008 51986 posts
Mon Apr-27-15 10:29 AM
20. "In 2015, the shit is so tricky to me." In response to Reply # 0
I think a lot of us tend to be confused, because on surface, plenty men feel like feminism = no gender roles. But I still think it's completely separate, and can work on both sides. It's really all about the couple involved.
I'd like to teach a future son how to throw a spiral, proper bathroom etiquette, how to dress, what have you. But at the same time, I'm perfectly suited to cook him a meal or wash clothes or whatever. To even out the workload, it would be good to have a mate who took on certain things, but sometimes it seems to me as if a good bit of the heavy lifting is considered to fall into the man's bucket. For example, I'd rather not be in charge of finances or planning absolutely everything because I'd get burned out. Sometimes I question if these gender roles and "letting you be the man" are just an excuse for some women to take their hands off the wheel.