So on my last day at my old job I had an experience that, while not as extreme, was just as eye opening as that time I saw, firsthand, how vicious some men can be when "street hollering".

Yesterday, I was putting some stuff up on the sales floor, and one of my female coworkers walks by me, and I make a comment about how she seems kind of pissed off. She turns to me and launches into a little mini-rant about how her manager keeps gawking at and commenting on all the cute girls that walk in to the store. To which I reply, "Just do the same shit around him, every time you see a cute guy just say, 'Damn look at his ass, I wonder how big his dick is'." Because as we all know, that'll make dude super uncomfortable.

Even though that was "resolved" it did make me wonder about these type of dynamics. In the department I worked in it was nothing but hetero men so those type of comments were regular. We bond over women's butts and Game of Thrones. The ogling was never really all that big for me, because I wasn't really checking for the white chicks that frequent the store, though I do flirt with the black girls that shop there whenever I can. So even then I wasn't so much opposed to it, as much as I just wasn't seeing my type, so I'm just as guilty of creating a certain sexist climate in the store. Now that I'm leaving a girl is taking my position, but I'm pretty sure she's a lesbian so she might fit right in, who knows.


So I need to ask the women here, you all do talk about cute guys you see, correct? But have you ever worked at a place where that became a little sub-culture of the job? And if so do you think it ever grew to be something that made your male coworkers uncomfortable? If I'm being honest I've only had a woman make a comment about me one time that made me feel kinda weird, other than that, yeah, leer away, and for all of the hetero man's fear of gay men, despite the upper management being almost all gay, they never once made me feel uncomfortable. So is this really just a problem that only straight men create? Or is it just one that we do in greater numbers?

women really have no chill about that shit

<--- Big Baller World Order

I have no doubt that they talk...but how does that work outside of the locker room?

"All the world's a stage,
And all the men and women merely players:
They have their exits and their entrances;
And one man in his time plays many parts..." -The Bard

and because they're women they can get away w/ saying a lot of off the wall descriptive shit that'd get a man fired.

<--- Big Baller World Order

us when they talk that way, not realizing most dudes don't really do that Hollywood movie locker room talk like that.

https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=IlD08Rh6xa8

>So on my last day at my old job I had an experience that,
>while not as extreme, was just as eye opening as that time I
>saw, firsthand, how vicious some men can be when "street
>hollering".
>
>Yesterday, I was putting some stuff up on the sales floor, and
>one of my female coworkers walks by me, and I make a comment
>about how she seems kind of pissed off. She turns to me and
>launches into a little mini-rant about how her manager keeps
>gawking at and commenting on all the cute girls that walk in
>to the store. To which I reply, "Just do the same shit around
>him, every time you see a cute guy just say, 'Damn look at his
>ass, I wonder how big his dick is'." Because as we all know,
>that'll make dude super uncomfortable.
>
>Even though that was "resolved"


C'mon bruh...

Obviously it wasn't resolved, that's why I put quotation marks around the word, then I went on to discuss how I contribute to that culture and ask women their perspectives on the matter.

try harder dumbass.

"All the world's a stage,
And all the men and women merely players:
They have their exits and their entrances;
And one man in his time plays many parts..." -The Bard

hopefully, she lost all faith in you after that conversation.

She's a grown fucking woman. I don't control how she responds to situations, and I'm not in control of how she manages sexual harassment. I treated her the same way I'd tread a man. Why don't you get off your little internet high horse and stop pretending like you came in here to actually talk like an adult, your phony outrage has been noted.

"All the world's a stage,
And all the men and women merely players:
They have their exits and their entrances;
And one man in his time plays many parts..." -The Bard

Go fuck yourself man.


*Edit: Since you know, misspelling a word actually matters more than trying to construct an argument based on not actually taking the time to consider the actual meaning of a sentence.

"All the world's a stage,
And all the men and women merely players:
They have their exits and their entrances;
And one man in his time plays many parts..." -The Bard

saying shit.

By the way, I misspelled a word. You have trouble comprehending how punctuation affects the meaning of a word. See the difference dipshit?


"All the world's a stage,
And all the men and women merely players:
They have their exits and their entrances;
And one man in his time plays many parts..." -The Bard

this back and forth only provides a place for you to keep calling me petty names like dipshit, and numbnuts, and fucktard.

i think it's interesting how you deal when you 'think' someone is antagonizing you.

you type silly names.

funny stuff you're doing.

"All the world's a stage,
And all the men and women merely players:
They have their exits and their entrances;
And one man in his time plays many parts..." -The Bard

you spend time not respecting other fictional characters in your life?

magneto pisses you off something fierce, too?

your bullshit. I don't know you, but I know you exist, and that's enough for me. Anyone who does this type of bullshit online is a piece of shit, and I've got no problem telling them, the them behind the computer that even though I don't know them personally, that I dislike them. If you do this type of shit, what else do I need to know about you?

And that doesn't have to mean shit to you, but on the off chance that we ever cross paths I hope I get to tell you to go fuck yourself because you deserve it.

"All the world's a stage,
And all the men and women merely players:
They have their exits and their entrances;
And one man in his time plays many parts..." -The Bard

hilarious.

"All the world's a stage,
And all the men and women merely players:
They have their exits and their entrances;
And one man in his time plays many parts..." -The Bard

to do with my life other than the fact that we're both wasting time right now, and really I'm doing laundry anyway, the fuck do I care if some jackass wants to go back and forth online for an hour.


"All the world's a stage,
And all the men and women merely players:
They have their exits and their entrances;
And one man in his time plays many parts..." -The Bard

I'm right. You are kind of stupid.

"All the world's a stage,
And all the men and women merely players:
They have their exits and their entrances;
And one man in his time plays many parts..." -The Bard

his behavior?

he was making her uncomfortable as a way to get through to him.


"All the world's a stage,
And all the men and women merely players:
They have their exits and their entrances;
And one man in his time plays many parts..." -The Bard

If you aren't aware of how insecurity regarding female sexuality and penis size lay on the male psyche then this conversation is pointless.

"All the world's a stage,
And all the men and women merely players:
They have their exits and their entrances;
And one man in his time plays many parts..." -The Bard

you're suggesting that the guy has a small penis, and when his coworker brings up a customer's penis size, it'll make him uncomfortable? and that'll make him understand that deep-seeded and generational misogynistic behavior?

a woman talking about a customer's dick would make you uncomfortable?

i think that's odd.

i'd imagine that's a conversation im trying to have.

it leads to talking about my dick.

which leads to talking about fucking.

and then im in the clear to make advances at her, cause she bought up dicks in the first place.

am i missing something?

>you're suggesting that the guy has a small penis, and when
>his coworker brings up a customer's penis size, that'll make
>him understand that deep-seeded and generational misogynistic
>behavior?

I didn't suggest anything about that guy's anatomy. I suggested something about male psychology...that should have been obvious.

Whether or not he's an anatomical giant is fucking irrelevant.

And no it might not make him understand misogyny, but it will call attention his behavior if she's mimicking him.


>a woman talking about a customer's dick would make you
>uncomfortable?
>
>i think that's odd.

I never said that either. Man, you need to stop your little leaps of logic. You're really bad at them.

I'd say that was a nice try at trying to attack me, but it wasn't. Because you're a fucking moron.

>i'd imagine that's a conversation im trying to have.
>
>it leads to talking about my dick.
>
>which leads to talking about fucking.
>
>and then im in the clear to make advances at her, cause she
>bought up dicks in the first place.
>
>am i missing something?

Yeah, a few million brain cells. You sound like the type of asshole that she's complaining about, and if her talking about some other dude in front of you makes you think she's interested in you than you sound like a milhouse ass nigga who's a few awkward lines from getting shut the fuck down.

In conclusion, you're a shitty troll and I hope you die in an oil fire.


"All the world's a stage,
And all the men and women merely players:
They have their exits and their entrances;
And one man in his time plays many parts..." -The Bard

you're leaving the woman wide open.

she has no need or business to bring up dicks to her coworker.

it's inappropriate (especially at work). and leaves the floor open to all sorts of shit.

if she has a problem with that shit, she needs to go to HR.

get it?

1) She didn't come to me repeatedly about this shit. She didn't say this was stopping her from doing her work day after day after day. She was talking shit about another employee. If this was the 2nd, 3rd, 4th time, yeah go to HR...but that wouldn't be the case because...

2) She's a grown fucking woman with a lot of confidence, if it ever got to be that serious, I don't think she would need my help to go to HR the 2nd, 3rd, 4th time it happened. If I thought she was timid I wouldn't have said the word "dick" around her.

I think you're reading too much into the set up for the post.

Sorry I called you all that shit, but you were being antagonistic...so I'm not that sorry. You come in guns blazing with 1 sentence responses that don't even explain your interpretation or opinions, just snark, and then you pick a fight. Fuck you. Next time why not try using more than 5 fucking words and contribute an opinion with some substance and it won't get to this point.


"All the world's a stage,
And all the men and women merely players:
They have their exits and their entrances;
And one man in his time plays many parts..." -The Bard

1) frequency of the occurrence should have no weight.

2) if she's really that 'grown', she didn't need any of your suggestions, and was probably just venting.

but then there's the male mind that has to solve everything. i get it. really i do.

>1) frequency of the occurrence should have no weight.

Right, and the first time you speed you should get a ticket.

FOH you fucking boyscout. He wasn't describing a fucking orgy genius. Once again, she's capable of discerning the severity of a situation even if you aren't.

>2) if she's really that 'grown', she didn't need any of your
>suggestions, and was probably just venting.
>
>but then there's the male mind that has to solve everything. i
>get it. really i do.

Since she's really grown she can talk to whoever the fuck she wants to, ask them questions, listen to their suggestions, and decide to either not do it or do it.

That was a really shitty attempt to make me look like a chauvinist. I didn't sit her down and make her tell me a god damn thing. I asked her a question, she talked, I responded, she laughed, and went back over to dude. The fuck is wrong with you? Seriously?


"All the world's a stage,
And all the men and women merely players:
They have their exits and their entrances;
And one man in his time plays many parts..." -The Bard

look like?

why do you think i care about the way you're perceived?

clearly, i look like the antagonizing asshole, and you should respond accordingly.

instead you flip your shit and start banging tables and calling names.

it fucks your whole stance of an argument up.

everybody know the first person that resorts to name calling aint shit.

why does it come so quick and easy for you?

I'm doing it because fuck you. That's why. I'm not actually angry, I'm not banging on tables. I'm responding to every little bullshit thing you've said AND I'm calling you names. I'm doing the former because you've been categorically wrong this entire time, and I'm doing the latter because fuck you. Seriously, I don't like to waste my time with people who aren't going to actually engage in thoughtful discussion, but if you want to be an asshole I can be an asshole too. So fuck you.

Next time don't be an asshole and I'll just shut down your bullshit arguments without the name calling, but you want to troll then let's fucking troll.

Also, lmao at your logic..."Well he called me a name so he lost." No, you lost because nothing you said was correct.


"All the world's a stage,
And all the men and women merely players:
They have their exits and their entrances;
And one man in his time plays many parts..." -The Bard

I would be mad too when I look back on it.

but since I've already pulled chicks from that job, and I'm secure enough in my masculinity to give ol' girl that suggestion...why would I be mad?

What about that should make me mad?


"All the world's a stage,
And all the men and women merely players:
They have their exits and their entrances;
And one man in his time plays many parts..." -The Bard

so you must be mad about something.

I disagreed with your advice and chuckled and you went in.

DZ did the same and you called him all types of names.

I don't care how many girls you pulled or your masculinity... I just think you went about it wrong.

and I've got no problem talking shit to them, especially when they don't actually take the time to really consider what someone has said before launching into their bullshit. Simple as that.

"All the world's a stage,
And all the men and women merely players:
They have their exits and their entrances;
And one man in his time plays many parts..." -The Bard

and the end of this I really hope you understand that with me, you did precisely what you just described.

you launched into your bullshit immediately.

get it?

I hate that i had to type that out.

did he expect a pat on the back?

The other dude is too. I went in because you thought I was patting myself on the back when I wasn't. Basically the fact that you went at me over something you incorrectly assumed. Hence the sarcasm quotes thing. I could give a fuck what you think about my advice because I wasn't asking your opinions on that situation in the first place.

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dudes just gawk and be thirsty...and try their hand on the low


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Coolin...

about how cute SHE is...

Disrespectful, terrifying, intimidating, stupid, annoying as HOW WE gawk, oogle, and try to holler at women in public. Nothing.

and they have no problem joking about sex, length, etc..

Bosses wife says all types of crazy shit, but it's all jokes.

No aggressive, demeaning shit.

why, exactly, do you think that she'll make the guy uncomfortable when she brings up the custtomer's dicks?

from what I understand about people, he would welcome the subject with her.

you made a statement in the post like 'we all know how guys feel about dick talk'. I think you're wrong about that.

you think the guy is shy?

Who gives a shit how it ended? She thought the whole "turn about is fair play" angle was a good idea. Do you need me to send her a text so we can discuss why she thought that a pigish guy would be bothered by her mimicking his behavior?

Maybe that shit doesn't make sense to you, it really doesn't have to though since you know, the situation played out the way it did.

Also the point is if you mimic someone's behavior in an exaggerated way, if they aren't a complete moron they'll take notice. I don't know why you have that confused with the idea of her inviting him to talk about his own dick or to continue being lewd.

these people are at work.

there are proper protocols in place to deal with this.

.

...I'm from the era when A.I. was the answer, now they think ai is the answer - Marlon Craft

#HeyBoo

>Yesterday, I was putting some stuff up on the sales floor, and
>one of my female coworkers walks by me, and I make a comment
>about how she seems kind of pissed off. She turns to me and
>launches into a little mini-rant about how her manager keeps
>gawking at and commenting on all the cute girls that walk in
>to the store.

Wow. She should make a complaint about that or report it. Depending on the dynamics of the situation, complaining/reporting
may present its own can of worms. But still. If I were the manager's boss, I'd want to know about that. The manager's behavior is not the most positive way to present the face of the store (for customers or employees).

>So I need to ask the women here, you all do talk about cute
>guys you see, correct?

Yes. With my friends. Not with co-workers. And not at work.

I feel like talking about how un/attractive people are at work undermines their ability to do their job.

It seems unfair to talk about people behind their backs and then interact with them while/as they've been constantly physically evaluated, without their knowledge. It hurts a person's reputation...belittles them.

All of a sudden the person's work is viewed through the lens of a set of rules that apply to the person in unfair ways, especially because the "game" happens in secret. Usually the point of those kinds of things is to go hard or go home. No one "polices" themselves, in other words.

>But have you ever worked at a place where that became a little sub-culture of the job?

No. Not that I'm aware of.

>So is this really just a problem that only straight men create?

Some men don't treat women with the same respect they afford men.

So. I think it's a problem straight men create to the extent that straight men are attracted to women BUT that men, gay or straight, may relate to women in jerky ways that have nothing to do with a man's sexual orientation/preference.

But I don't really think hetero male to female sexual harassment is about sex or sexual attraction, either.