I regret a couple of things I done and I know my life would be different (better/worse is another story) if I had chosen door number 2 instead of 1. But holding on to guilt or regret is serious as cancer and will likely kill you faster so I just KIM
TheAlbionist Member since Jul 04th 2011 3306 posts
Mon Apr-13-15 11:05 AM
5. "My sarcasm-meter is apparently failing." In response to Reply # 4 Mon Apr-13-15 11:06 AM by TheAlbionist
But I suspect this was sarcasm.
Honestly, I can't think of a single event from my life that I'd change... I've failed exams, lost women, missed chances, lost jobs, missed flights, I've spent nights in cells, I've taken girls to the 'clinic'... I can't think of any single event that I'd go back and change given the capability.
Maybe in the 10 mins following the mistake I wish there was a Ctrl+Z available... but 5 years? Nah. It's just not a concept that makes sense to me. What would I gain from feeling shitty about something I can't change?
TheAlbionist Member since Jul 04th 2011 3306 posts
Mon Apr-13-15 11:57 AM
8. "No deferring of ownership here." In response to Reply # 6
Regret implies dwelling on an action you wish you could change to me... guilt implies some sort of moral failing you feel ashamed of... I'm certainly not saying the things I've failed at weren't my failures - they were and most hurt at the time to some extent - what i'm saying is all the failures, successes and reactions when viewed in retrospect almost always left me in a 'better' or at least 'wiser' position... how can I regret a failure if it led to me choosing a more enjoyable future?
The one I held onto longest was fucking up exams at 18 and not being able to go to my first choice University. I ended up not going at all and getting a job. If I compare myself to friends that went though, I earn more and have vastly more security... I'm incredibly glad I 'fucked up' now despite being the son my parents thought had the most gif, because it forced me down a road less traveled.
Tbh, most of my failures are just stories to tell now. I've had so much more enjoyment telling my stories than I ever lost experiencing them.
17. "Every minute of every day" In response to Reply # 0 Mon Apr-13-15 04:24 PM by BootyGreen
I was supposed to have graduated college (undergrad) in May 2000. Messed around, failed a few classes, applied for financial aid too late my last semester there, and ended up owing a grip to the school. Fast fwd 15 years later, I'm a 37 year old without a bachelor's, when I should have had a PhD by now. I desperately want to go back and finish but my school won't release my transcripts until I pay them the money I owe them in full. One mistake will f#ck you up for the rest of your life. Please tell your kids to graduate from college on time unless they want to be broke and destitute. Does this classify as guilt lol?
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