While I appreciate the transparency, at least buppies and real niggas (think Plies) alike acknowledge that there is a protocol to getting sex from a woman.
Boho dudes where I live ask for ass like regular dudes ask for a number, which means that there are women who are cool with this, right?
Men don't just make hail Mary passes repeatedly unless they're getting results, right?
10. "I assume any man who is interested in me would smash" In response to Reply # 2
But a man just asking for sex before a relationship is established , or before a woman says that she would be down to smash w/o a commitment, is like a woman asking a man she barely knows to be her boyfriend.
72. "A "no thanks" is all I say" In response to Reply # 41 Mon Apr-13-15 04:13 PM by caramelapplebttms
These are men I don't know, and my preferences don't matter to them otherwise they would have tried to find out. No need to jaw-jack.
Edit to add: There's a lot in between only having relationship sex and accepting penis offers from off the street. Where I'm personally at with this isn't the point of the post.
74. "so then let's clarify this statement right here:" In response to Reply # 72
>Edit to add: There's a lot in between only having relationship >sex and accepting penis offers from off the street. Where I'm >personally at with this isn't the point of the post.
Are you speaking on men you're dating or are we talking about a stone cold stranger on the street approaching you and asking to fuck?
>These are men I don't know, and my preferences don't matter >to them otherwise they would have tried to find out. No need >to jaw-jack. >
if we're talking a dating scenario: you know what you are looking for: an explicitly stated commitment but you yourself do not explicitly state this the person you are seeing makes their intentions known and it's a 180 from your own desires why does this upset you?
15. "'Cause maybe you want the job too?" In response to Reply # 11
I'm not the type to really ask for dates at all, if we end up having lunch and dinner and hanging out all the time then we'll figure out what that means but I don't look down on dudes who are pretty up front about what they want.
As long as they aren't aggressive about it, ie. girl you met at the club comes home cause she's too drunk to get herself home or her friends left and she was having a good time but then you INSIST if she came back to your place she has to fuck you in return. I don't buy that and think it's pretty gross.
But if a dude is way less anxious than I am, knows he doesn't want a relationship but he does want to fuck, I can't really blame him for just getting that out of the way. It's uncouth or whatever but everybody's got their own path.
16. "naw...I don't want any ol' job or coochie" In response to Reply # 11
All this protocol stuff you talking is smoke screens.
You put more emphasis on "Boho Dudes" (which is just ignorant, in itself), than the rape schitt you're talking about.
You talking about gump niggas cat calling, "What That Mouth Do?"
I'm thinking you talking about making a dude jump through hoops and filibuster and look at your Winter Conference Slide show...then he might could get some ass.
Psssshaw, thank god for Grown Up Women With Big Girl Brains & Vaginas
23. "Everyone is different, I get that" In response to Reply # 0
But don't act like there isn't a way to find out what someone is on before you lead with sex.
People of all genders are down for sex-only relationships, and that's cool if they've communicated about it first.
When I said asking for sex like some men as for phone numbers, I meant that. Like, with no prior indication of where the woman is coming from, and without knowing her very well.
I have only seen bead-and-shell wearing negroes do this, thus, the question.
legsdiamond Member since May 05th 2011 79586 posts
Mon Apr-13-15 08:34 AM
32. "RE: Everyone is different, I get that" In response to Reply # 23
>But don't act like there isn't a way to find out what someone >is on before you lead with sex. > >People of all genders are down for sex-only relationships, and >that's cool if they've communicated about it first.
these dudes are communicating it first.. so why are you mad about it?
"You can take an African out of Africa, but you can't take Africa out of the African" Afro-Americana/Afro-Caribbana/Afro-Latino unite. We are ALL Black!
27. "Ok, two serious questions" In response to Reply # 24
>Whatchu you call *protocol is the bullshit red tape. >Dem is lil girl games. I disagree.
>Ninjaz is thru wasting time and gettin' STRAIGHT to the point >and ain't nothin' wrong wit dat.
I don't think it's wrong. I was commenting on something I noticed.
Questions for you- Are you this direct yourself? If so, are you this direct with all women you want to sleep with, or are there other factors involved?
57. "RE: them and rastas...lol I don't mind " In response to Reply # 25
Uh.....no.
____ Some will tell you that they love you but they've got an ulterior motive - Oh what a shame They will tell you that they need you but they've got an ulterior motive - Personal gain
obviously this whole post is based on gross generalizations
but I will say that during a specific portion of my life Rasta dudes stayed being rather 'upfront' with me and on two separate occasions I was also offered the opportunity to "house" their seeds
50. "lmao @ all of this." In response to Reply # 39
>even if she said no that dude didn't waste any words, money >or muscle getting to the point. > > >He didn't have to pay for any dates or listen to her stories >about Nubian head wraps and the number 7.
43. "How many men in here are asking women to smash" In response to Reply # 0
Within 5 minutes of meeting them, not knowing anything else about them besides how they look?
How many men in here would have sex with a woman they just met if she asked? I recall a post where many of you wouldn't because you figure you are probably being set up, she's crazy, etc. Lol.
Different post, different answers now. So many of y'all are a damn joke all the way around.
-DJ R-Tistic- Member since Nov 06th 2008 51986 posts
Mon Apr-13-15 11:53 AM
45. "I'm lost...and not sure how this relates" In response to Reply # 43
>How many men in here would have sex with a woman they just met >if she asked? I recall a post where many of you wouldn't >because you figure you are probably being set up, she's crazy, >etc. Lol.
Since this is about protocol...I feel like most guys would surely sleep with someone they just met, depending on how it went down. We may think it's a setup if it's tooooo random, and feels way too damn perfect. Like, we're at a bar at 10:30, and the finest girl we've seen in months is staring HARD, and she walks over, and within 30 seconds is like "look, fuck all the small talk, I haven't had any in a while...I want you RIGHT NOW. Come...come now. No, not your house, come to mine." That could be super suspect, yet, most of us would still gamble and roll with it if we're hella single.
PoppaGeorge Member since Nov 07th 2004 10384 posts
Mon Apr-13-15 11:53 AM
44. "boho niggas late to the party then" In response to Reply # 0
We used to have this dude in our crew in college circa '93 named Tone. Tone used to walk up on chicks like "hmmm... you look like you can fuck. What's up?".
The shit worked so much it was ridiculous. After witnessing it so many times, we started doing it ourselves with varying results. For me it was about 50/50. I didn't realize that there were chicks out there just plain open to a cat that just came at 'em like "yo brownskin... you look like a freak, let's fuck" and 30 minutes later a bruh would be all up in the ass.
I guess boho niggas finally caught on. Herbs, incense, oils, and "queen" talk wasn't working fast enough.
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-DJ R-Tistic- Member since Nov 06th 2008 51986 posts
Mon Apr-13-15 01:26 PM
59. "It could be about women being attracted to confidence" In response to Reply # 44
Or, them just feeling like "he GOTTA have good sex if he's that arrogant and blatant about it." I'm never ever ever that bold, but when I am, it.....works!
When I first moved out, I remember my boy having some chicks over. I knew which one I wanted ASAP, and she didn't really seem like she was into me or "not into me"...but either way, I was being cocky. Ten minutes after they got there, I gave them the usual "tour" of the house. When we got to my bedroom, I barely cracked the door open, and I looked directly at the one I wanted and said "this is my bedroom...if you're lucky enough, you'll be in there tonight" and she was like "what????" in shock. But two hours later, she was in there.
PoppaGeorge Member since Nov 07th 2004 10384 posts
Mon Apr-13-15 03:40 PM
62. "and they wonder why dudes street holler and whatnot..." In response to Reply # 59
>When we got to my bedroom, I >barely cracked the door open, and I looked directly at the one >I wanted and said "this is my bedroom...if you're lucky >enough, you'll be in there tonight" and she was like >"what????" in shock. But two hours later, she was in there.
All the hollering and angry typing about the street holler and dudes just flat asking for the pussy doesn't negate the fact that it DOES work for some people. I think it really depends on where you live, but if a cat finds that the shit works for him, why get mad at dude for it? Why not get mad at the chicks that WILL accept the street holler or blatant "let's fuck" lines 'cause they're part of the problem.
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forcing myself to actually respond to you is like bathing in ebola virus. - Binlahab
Like there is stupid, and then there is you, and then there is dead. - VAsBestBBW
-DJ R-Tistic- Member since Nov 06th 2008 51986 posts
Mon Apr-13-15 03:47 PM
63. "I mean I understand how some of it can be disrespectful. It's really a" In response to Reply # 62
two sided problem. You can't blame all women because some of them do respond to ignorance. And men still gotta realize that a lot of what we do is out of pocket and disrespectful, regardless of who falls for it.
The whole dick pic thing is surely one issue where it might only work 0.5% of the time, but because math means 0.5% > 0.0%...dudes are still going to try it. But I wouldn't say that 0.5% of women are to blame for the fact that guys still do it.
PoppaGeorge Member since Nov 07th 2004 10384 posts
Mon Apr-13-15 03:51 PM
64. "it's prolly a good thing cameraphones didn't exist when I was single" In response to Reply # 63
>The whole dick pic thing is surely one issue where it might >only work 0.5% of the time, but because math means 0.5% > >0.0%...dudes are still going to try it. But I wouldn't say >that 0.5% of women are to blame for the fact that guys still >do it.
'cause I prolly woulda been one of them dudes that abused the fuck outta it.
... don't mean that I never did it in emails in the 90's tho... My webcam + yahoo/excite/aff personals ads = dick pic in yo inbox.
... and it worked a lot more often than it didn't.
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forcing myself to actually respond to you is like bathing in ebola virus. - Binlahab
Like there is stupid, and then there is you, and then there is dead. - VAsBestBBW
60. "yo them jamaican dudes aggressive as fuck..." In response to Reply # 0
like thru the door they grabbing. went to this club called archer's posed to be an african spot but them yardies be posted up. my one friend suggested we 3 go. she's a big, big girl these dudes be *on* that. grand opening. grand closing. they damn near ate me and my other girlfriend alive. like, can i get up please? i do not want to be here sitting with you. hands all on ya. *shutters*
82. "A shot on goal is never a bad play" In response to Reply # 0
I recall this being done on television, possibly the idiot-infest "Man Show" where one of the host asked 100 women cold to have sex with him. Three out of 100 said yes.
So I guess if you can deal with rejection and just want to do volume, it's not a bad strategy. In the time it takes to seduce a woman traditionally, just think how many you could have asked outright.
And you will know MY JACKET IS GOLD when I lay my vengeance upon thee.
Ain't he a middle-class dude from Fort Myers who bummed outta college football only to resume getting body slammed in another venue years later? #TeamColorMoney
And you will know MY JACKET IS GOLD when I lay my vengeance upon thee.
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