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Case_One
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"Real Talk, I haven't cried over my Grandmother's passing. "
Fri Apr-03-15 01:19 PM by Case_One

          

And I don't want some random emotions to come bubbling over out of the blue and what not. Yes, I'm trained to deal with death. Yeah, I was prepared for here passing. But people that know me or are my Facebook friends know that I was very close to my granny. Still, I haven't shed one tear and I'm hoping that I have not compartmentalized my emotions with a lock that will break one day.

It's crazy to know how things work and still have to be on the lookout.

Truth be told, I have been more pissed about how the funeral arrangements were handled then anything. The service was on this Wed 4/1. The whole thing was not managed with the level of excellence and detail that I expected. Sounds selfish, but yeah, it is. Why? Because a year before she died, my Gandma asked me to put together her funeral service form A to Z (every jot and tittle), but my aunt didn't want to us talking about it at the time. My Grandma also, asked me to do the Eulogy, but my Aunt and Sister elected to have the pastor of the church do the service, the same pastor that never came to see my grandmother in over 10 yrs and she didn't like him anyway. Plus the program was jacked up. But that's only in my eyes, because I know how these things should play put in the front and behind the scenes.

I guess I'm just feeling some kind of way about the fact that Grands wished were not honored, that I didn't get to send her off with the proper and personal touch sermon that the she deserved. The pastor did ok, but it was a generic sermon with a sprinkling of current detail in it.


I guess I'm tripp'in. Yup. I'm gonna go read a book... SMH






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peace to you, Rev.
Apr 03rd 2015
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The Passion of the Chris always does.
Apr 03rd 2015
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      Naw Gospel of John is the real deal JC movie
Apr 03rd 2015
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           I'm going to look for this.
Apr 03rd 2015
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                here's a better link the other is dead
Apr 03rd 2015
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put her to rest in your own way.
Apr 03rd 2015
2
The funny thing it that I did in my mind.
Apr 03rd 2015
3
don't refute your blessings, reb'n...
Apr 03rd 2015
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      You are right. I appreciate the wisdom.
Apr 03rd 2015
11
that's very sweet
Apr 03rd 2015
7
I'm weird. I haven't cried since 2001, which was over some real
Apr 03rd 2015
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I almost wanna cry for some of you like in Conan the Barbarian
Apr 03rd 2015
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no right way to grieve
Apr 03rd 2015
13
I just have to go through the process.
Apr 03rd 2015
14
what the scripture say....
Apr 03rd 2015
15
OT was 23 Psalm and the NT was 1 Cor. 13
Apr 03rd 2015
16
peace and blessings to you and i can relate
Apr 04th 2015
17
Word.
Apr 04th 2015
20
Hmmm, my Mama passed in 2013...
Apr 04th 2015
18
Nah, I'm not guilty.
Apr 04th 2015
19

JellyBean
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1. "peace to you, Rev."
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watch a movie that makes you cry...it will open the gates.


but don't feel pressured or feel like you have to cry. You might just be at ease.

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Case_One
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4. "The Passion of the Chris always does. "
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Fri Apr-03-15 01:52 PM

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8. "Naw Gospel of John is the real deal JC movie"
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it's on Netflix--nothing but bible verses and images
http://www.lumoproject.com/news/2014/11/25/netflix-north-america-acquires-gospel-of-john

Sorry about how things went with you Grandma, but when you see her again it won't even be an issue to discuss.

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Case_One
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10. "I'm going to look for this."
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Atillah Moor
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12. "here's a better link the other is dead"
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http://www.lumoproject.com/

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2. "put her to rest in your own way."
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give your granny her eulogy.
i didn't cry over mine a great deal either and i was her favourite and she mine.
at her time of passing i harbored no regrets, no woulda/coulda.
i still don't cry tho her absence is vast, so vast.

but i'd go to my granny's gravesite and send her spirit on the way she wanted.

  

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Case_One
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3. "The funny thing it that I did in my mind. "
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I did the whole service in my thoughts and even the Eulogy. When se died, I prepared myself to give it, I thought about the text, the words and then it call came to me. Everything, was there, even words of comfort to each family member and her community of friends. Maybe that's why I could just sit there and not feel sad about the matter on Wednesday.

I did do the scripture readings in a very dramatic manner - the same way I do before I preach. I love to being the words to life in the context of the author and the community.

I Guess I'm good.


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5. "don't refute your blessings, reb'n..."
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isn't that what you would have asked
that everyone be comforted?
you are in the midst of peace and grace
accept that.
every transition need not buckle you.

  

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Case_One
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11. "You are right. I appreciate the wisdom."
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7. "that's very sweet"
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~Experience is the currency of the soul.

  

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6. "I'm weird. I haven't cried since 2001, which was over some real"
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stupid shit. After my first time getting pulled over, in front of a whole lot of other teens. Just got home and had a Cuba Gooding moment.

I lost one grandma in 03, and have lost a few other folks since then that I was close to...but I've actually never in my 30 years cried over death. It's weird as hell to me.

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legsdiamond
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9. "I almost wanna cry for some of you like in Conan the Barbarian"
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let it out fellas.

  

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13. "no right way to grieve"
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Case_One
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14. "I just have to go through the process. "
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But I think I went thought them when she was int the hospital back in January.

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15. "what the scripture say.... "
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rejoice when death comes, cry when a child is born
something like that....
Ecc. 7

praise that you have the memories
and pictures

  

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16. "OT was 23 Psalm and the NT was 1 Cor. 13"
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17. "peace and blessings to you and i can relate"
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i went through a withdrawl and i think its because i saw mine not in the same state as i remember and yet we talked every day and we felt things mentally which others in the family could not see or understand.

pain and feelings ain't always about it coming out because you feel it and its a moment between you and her that nobody will ever know.

take your time and grief is not a day, week, or a year, etc... it stays with you and it can hit you when you least expect.

i understand

peace

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20. "Word. "
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18. "Hmmm, my Mama passed in 2013..."
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She was the youngest girl in a family of 8, so the moment she died I knew I had to fight to be heard, to send her off properly. She and I were closer than close and I knew she wanted to be cremated but nobody else in the fam was on board.

I DIDN'T GIVE A GOTDAMN! I knew her wishes and I made sure she got what she wanted.

I know our power is different, I was my Mom's personal representative so I had total control. And it doesn't seem like you did. Just sucks your Grandma didn't get the sendoff of her wishes. Did you fight hard enough? Maybe that's why you can't cry, a little bit of guilt?

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19. "Nah, I'm not guilty. "
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I haven't cried, because I cried for her when she was on the ventilator in the hospital.


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