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Subject: "Can I get my gender wars and loud and wrong on for a second?" Previous topic | Next topic
MEAT
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Fri Apr-03-15 10:10 AM

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"Can I get my gender wars and loud and wrong on for a second?"


  

          

I just feel that women get so much hype for emotional maturity that they don't expand its definition. Like they get so much credit for recognizing feeling at a young age, that they define emotions as situations and not cumulative actions, because that's what it tends to be in youth.

Someone yelled at me, I'm sad. Tisha took my pencil, I'm mad. Meanwhile at that age boys are still acting out responses rather than being introspective.

Meanwhile as we get older It's as if women form such a foundation built on action and emotional response that they see the cumulation of emotion as the worst possible thing.

Men are almost immediately worse off if they associate emotional responses with every action. We see it all the time "I don't like how you used them big words you must be disrespecting me." Or the men that think they need to fight because someone talked at them wrong.

So let me not pick at you thirteen times for the thirteen times you didn't do the dishes, let me bring it up after a few weeks that I've been doing the dishes too much. I can't possibly keep and individual tally of every time something bothered me. Because as a man, ultimately my feelings don't matter all that much, my responses are what I'm judged for.

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i screamed on a nigga at a bar last night.
Apr 03rd 2015
1
I'm being pressed for not nagging.
Apr 03rd 2015
2
This is spot on.
Apr 03rd 2015
3
Yup. Also, pointing out how other people are being
Apr 03rd 2015
4
^^ball game^^
Apr 03rd 2015
6
Accept that she can do shit that she would yell at you if you did
Apr 03rd 2015
5

Deadzombie
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Fri Apr-03-15 10:36 AM

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1. "i screamed on a nigga at a bar last night."
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we were recording the podcast interviewing tables and what not, and one particular bamma kept trying to slide his way into some sort of business with us.

but the statement -after- being a part of a table that was being recorded: 'im not signing this, i'll send yall something later that you all could read and sign' rubbed me the wrong way.

and he'd been rubbing me the wrong way since he started.

basically, my reply was - 'fuck you, pal'

and he's like 'but you neeeeed me, im a lawyer'

and i'm like - 'nah, we don't need you - we good, we wont use your voice'

bar tender ended up bringing a free drink over to me in the middle of it all.

...

a lot more happened but i can't really put it all into words.

i typed all that to say - i think i was judged for my response to this nigga who had been bugging me the whole time.

i snapped.

but back on topic ... she pressing you out about the dishes?

  

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MEAT
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Fri Apr-03-15 10:42 AM

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2. "I'm being pressed for not nagging. "
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I don't need to respond to every pissy mood or potential slight when it's not serious. It's easier to ask at the end of the week, hey you've been in a bunch of pissy moods is everything ok?

To her, and many other women in my experience, that's holding a grudge because I didn't bring up every slight or keep track of it to provide examples. To me, it's simply assessing the whole picture while not responding to the immediate.

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spades
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Fri Apr-03-15 10:42 AM

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3. "This is spot on."
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>Because as a man, ultimately my feelings don't
>matter all that much, my responses are what I'm judged for.

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Teknontheou
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Fri Apr-03-15 10:45 AM

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4. "Yup. Also, pointing out how other people are being"
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unfair to you is often not weighted heavily on your response. Men are expected to take unfairness, slights and insults and still stay on our feet and not to the wrong thing.

  

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tully_blanchard
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Fri Apr-03-15 10:46 AM

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6. "^^ball game^^"
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Binlahab
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Fri Apr-03-15 10:46 AM

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5. "Accept that she can do shit that she would yell at you if you did"
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She's got the vagina and therefore the eternal upper hand

  

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