The fact that I would even think to ask this question
is an all too common example learning to prioritize other people's comfort over my own.

And who must people who were abused justify these feelings to?
Who dares judge us for that?

And anyway, the answer doesn't matter.
Feelings are there, and the freedom to navigate them as we see fit
is our right. We have that right just like
everybody else that was not abused.

Make your life easier. Make other people's lives easier, too.
But never prioritize somebody else's comfort over your own.
Strangle any voice that asks if you were abused enough to justify your feelings.


Were we abused enough?


Fuck off.











*this is an word of encouragement to somebody
that needs to read it from somebody
that is telling you that whatever you are feeling is okay.

get all up in your feelings.
then decide calmly decide what you want to do next
without regard for whether you are entitled to feel the way you do.*

this is key.

I tell my wife this all the time.

I kinda entered 2015 on some "fuck your feelings" and I love it.

and I hope you're not suffering or going through a hard time.

Sometimes it is wise to sacrifice your feelings for another, but there is a limit before those people begin to indirectly feed on you. You are not an emotional food source. You are a human being, in all it's divine glory. Love without expecting love in return, listen, and share. The universe will take care of you.

~Experience is the currency of the soul.