I don't talk to my sister-in-law.

There's no dramatic breach or anything, we just don't talk.

She has her own business, it's been struggling, and she and my brother have been busting their asses to make it work. I don't have a million dollars to invest, so I contributed the only way I could: I put together a branding package for print, web, video; etc. for Hannukah, and gave her free access, time to edit (everybody is an art director in their heart), hooked them up with printers for t-shirts; etc.

But when that was done, we went back to not talking.

She saw me this weekend at the brunch I put together for my old man, said nothing to me there either.

But is now texting me for help converting some things to Pantone colors, and is being very sort of... I don't know. The language and tone remind me of emails I get from clients. It's like a mix of passive/aggressive entitlement and superiority. Like "CAN YOU DO X, Y, Z, PICK UP MY DRY CLEANING AND DROP IT OFF AT MY SISTER'S? THANKS YOU'RE AWESOME OKAY BYE"

I dunno.

Maybe this is normal and I'm just a fucking weirdo.

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mostly the not speaking when she sees you part of the whole bit. how you gonna be like that and then turn around and email a list of requests with the anticipation that you're just gonna do it? she's taking your kindness/generosity for granted it seems.

was the work good, or no?

Yeah, it's not quite a rational response.

Something's rubbing me raw about it.

ugh i cant stand ppl who arent gracious.

she should have spoken to you at your dad's brunch. she should have brought flowers or something even.

and if so, considering her vulnerability relates to her biz she may be all caught up in her own feelings to the point where she can't deal w/talking to you face to face.

plus you're her brother in law and i dunno how she is about boundaries and talking to other men when she's married et al and if any of that factors into this equation.

point is - cut her some slack. she's suffering. and vent about her b/s to your wife and to us but maybe not to your brother.

fuck you.

>point is - cut her some slack. she's suffering. and vent
>about her b/s to your wife and to us but maybe not to your
>brother.

Yeah. There is sanity in this response.

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>>point is - cut her some slack. she's suffering. and vent
>>about her b/s to your wife and to us but maybe not to your
>>brother.
>
>Yeah. There is sanity in this response.
>

yep
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you're awesome
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only because i dont like conflict and im quick to fold so that the people around me arent affected.

but i would also in the final stages of this exchange find a way to say "hey next time you know you're going to need a favor, maybe you should work on the relationship with them first"

psst!

im a curt, to the point, fuck the small talk type person if you need something from me...spit it out & then go away & lemme circle back around when im done w/ it.

so maybe shes like lemme get to the point ASAP & get out his face


does it really matter?

wonder what bin's doing?
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no matter what kind of relationship you have to the person.

fuck you.

So much of how you are reading it is stemmed in your own bias. Most times you just have to take it on face value.

I got a homeboy that reads too much into texts, cause he thinks every woman is into him. He'll get a text like "ok, I'll see if I am free Sunday" and he reads "she'll SEE if she is FREE though! she tryna get with me!"

lol texts are like stats, you can almost make them say whatever you want.

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my cousin asked for a logo for his lil t shirt idea.

I throw him a few and now he comes back with:

"we changed the name, can you do more logos and get a spring line together because we are ready to go to print. Let me know when they are ready, THANKS!!!"

LOL... yeah, no.

like they have no idea the time it takes, other projects, family time, etc...

if you are getting it for free.. you get it when you get it.

I hadn't considered it might just social awkwardness or cluelessness.

Let me sit on that for a minute.

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and "if you don't mind".

I am going on vacation with a group of friends and I volunteered to design t-shirts (cause we old and corny and like t-shirts). I got a dude on fiveer to do the layout and when I presented the t-shirts to the group it was a hate fest.

I was like okay, I am not doing it anymore, anyone else can gladly step up and do the work.

Now folks are all "Why you all in your feelings" but I am not, I am just withdrawing free work that I didn't have to do in the first place.


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You did ALL that work for free and then some? You need to check her.

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what exactly is the problem?

there will be problems

reply to the text.

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Especially because we're dealing with tax, and people get unreasonable about paying that anyway. Plus I see what these people spend their money on.

If you're getting a service for free you should act accordingly.

In my experience, if you set up a pattern, it tends to continue this way and/or get worse.

The killer is when you get them to move on and they're nicer to the person they're PAYING for the service.

Don't know about the states, but here commercial law cases are filled with cautionary tales about mixing family and business. I always advise clients not to do it.

Just IMO though.