has anybody done this? long story short the FOMC is being a jerk doesn't want to be with me but doesn't want to get the ball rolling on a divorce even though he's the one who told ME he wanted one (dick head right? yeah) so yea. anybody ever have to do this? know anyone who has done this? i welcome any and all information that will help. i have a job right now but it really just pays small bills and buys necessities right now still looking for something that can actually sustain me and allow me to move out of my dad's crib
4. "how long was she married for and did she have children?" In response to Reply # 1
i'm in NY looking to get divorced and the cause being abandonment. from what i've read i have a case but don't know where to turn for a lawyer trying to find out what my options are.
the reason i don't want to try an uncontested divorce is he's already contesting me if i have abandonment as the reason it might be easier for me to get it done with
I know she went through something similar recently, I hope she sees this and chimes in.
And in regards to that I-don't-want-you-but-I-don't-wanna-move-on-and-I -don't-want-you-to-move-on-either bullshit, hugs cuz I've been there more than I care to admit.
yea i would have loved for it to be that simple but i brought up why doesn't he want to get a divorce and he said i should pay for it :/ never mind the fact that getting a divorce is his idea and he makes more money than me *SIGH*
22. "that is how my parents did it" In response to Reply # 17
the only asset was our house. My dad was fine with my mom having it since we would live with her. They agreed on joint custody and visitation. My mom could have really done my dad dirty since he did cheat on her. But she said him not staying faithful has nothing to do with how good of a father he was. So they stayed cordial for us. But it really can only happen like that if both parties are willing to stay cordial. That is so rare.
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23. "going thru a Divorce right now. Cost me $300 total to file papers" In response to Reply # 0
We are not fighting over anything. No kids, no property, no alimony etc...
You have a kid together so you probably should get the child support and visitation out of the way before the divorce via the courts. Which should be free.
Call your local courthouse and ask how much for No Contest divorce. No lawyer is needed if you have the child support and visitation already established.
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31. "this quote from the article sums it up. Do not get married." In response to Reply # 28
"One of the big draws of a collaborative divorce is that it can save consumers money. Reliable statistics on the cost of an average divorce are hard to come by, but the general consensus is that an average divorce costs between $15,000 and $30,000. But if you opt for the mediation route – at least at Wevorce – the average price point is about $7,500, Crosby says."
It can cost as little as $50 to get married at a courhouse but it's an average of 15K to get divorced. smh
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34. "Yeah i just went through this" In response to Reply # 0
The cheapest way is to go to the Dissolution office at your county court house and ask them for a divorce packet...it will contain a template and instructions for all the things you need, plus the timing of when you have to file them.
then you prepare the initial docs and file them yourself at the court house. In NJ, it was $250, so i don't know how much it would cost in whatever state you are in
If you don't feel confident typing up and preparing all the docs yourself, you could use completecase.com and pay $299. I used them and they were fantastic. they ask you a series of questions then put all your answers into correctly formatted legal docs that you just download and print
whichever way you go, make sure you follow all instructions TO THE LETTER including how many copies to make and when to file and counting days in between steps
in some states, he won't even need to sign in order for you get the divorce..you will just have to prove that he was served and if he doesn't respond in a certain amount of days, you receive a default judgement.
any other questions, you can inbox me and i'd be glad to help.
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she retired a few years ago and realized she was still married to her first husband in colombia i was like psssshhht he dead
she's like NOPE he could seize half my pension
i'm like !!!!!!!!!!!!
oddly she went to PA for her divorce as well
so my little bit of get up and go for doing it if he's pulling these type of shenanigans i don't want to see what he could pull when y'all retired and you got a little bit of something for yourself ~~~~ When you are born, you cry, and the world rejoices. Live so that when you die, you rejoice, and the world cries. ~~~~ You cannot hate people for their own good.
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