This is the text convo we had on Friday. For the record he works in downtown DC and lives in a Baltimore suburb.

For the record I had the money to loan but the whole approach was weird.

Him: Can I ask you for a favor? I forgot my wallet at home and I needed some cash. I'll pay you back
Me: When would you need the cash? And how much?
Him: $40 and whenever your free. I can't take the metro but I can meet you at any of the stops close to me
Me: Oh. I don't have $40 to loan.
Him: What about $25 I'll pay you back Monday
Me: Don't have that either sorry
Me: How did you get here to DC without a wallet?
Him: I drove. So you don't have anything to loan? So why did you ask when did I need it/ how much?
Me: I thought it was more like $5.

Then we dropped it. Then an hour later he was like:

What bank are you with?
Me: PNC why?
Him: Just asking
Me: Why?
Him: Because I am
Me: Hmmm. You're acting strange.
Him: No I'm not. Stop it.

Poll result (23 votes) Weird (5 votes) Vote Normal (18 votes) Vote

... about the money to not make it 'weird' for you?

what was the last communication before this?

all i got from this is that - you dated losers. or liars. or both.

Plus we don't work near each other other (I mean we both work in DC but still)...

If it was an emergency and he was short a check or something I get that.

But randomly asking to hold $40 when his wallet is just simply at home?

Seems so suspect.

and who the fuck calls their ex to borrow 5 dollars?

you playing games while this dude stranded on the BWI. j/k

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don't know the dynamics between the two of you but,
i would find it weird/off-putting if my ex called and asked me
that due to the nature of our estranged relationship.

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"Roll me further bitch"

neither of you look good in this exchange.

for the record I was with him until he asked about your bank.

maybe he didnt have enough gas to get home.

Baltimore isn't that far away.

I figured if he needed $10 for lunch or something that make sense.

$40? What you want me to fund going out with your boys Friday or something? Nah let them handle that.

i forgor my wallet. who can I borrow money from that knows I'm good to pay it back?

it definitely sounds like he had a friday night outing but its not weird IMO to ask instead of fighting rush hour.

I'm sure he survived.

Even with that though... if you trust he'd pay it back Monday like he said, don't matter what he needed the money for really or how weird it is.

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But it seems weird to go to an ex eel if yall hadn't talked in a while. He don't have a co-worker he can reach out to for gas money until Monday? And $40 seems a bit excessive. He could get to Baltimore on $10 of gas unless he drives a suburban or something. $40 seems like him asking for happy hour money not gas money.

And I can see him asking about your bank to transfer money but how does that help if he doesn't have his wallet? He wouldn't have his ATM card or ID to access it.

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I agree with everyone else you said but I don't wanna give the impression we broke up ages ago and he texted me randomly after a decade.

But even after texting once a week I find the request odd.

for instance wells fargo has friend to friend transfer
so if he needed cash but didn't have his bank card but access to his account online he may have been setting up for him to transfer the dough to her and then she withdrawal the cash and give to him

the key to happiness is not being rich;
it's doing something arduous and
creating something of value and then
being able to reflect on the fruits of your labor

since you werent planning on loaning him the money either way?
making the brother jump through hoops and get all strange and wierd with it

and now you want us to speculate along with you the wierdness of this entire conversation?
smh

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Even if it was $100 but was an emergency I would have done it.

and we are cool and i know they will pay me back
the least of my concerns is what they are going to do with it
its not about it being an emergency or not.

unless i dont have the money
and im gonna have to go ask someone or something,
then it would have to be a situation
but i have it and they need it?
everything else just seems extra

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especially considering you have 0 cash on you and live far out and work in DC.

$5 tho..

LOL, this will forever be funny to me.

lmao

what emergency requires $5..

im dying


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like, you really think I'm putting my pride to the side to ask you for $5?

Really?

that was an insult, a passive aggressive insult

can that even get a happy meal?
for damn sure cant get you to b'more from d.c on the bus

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I'd be willing to give anyone 5 to 10 bucks for gas or train fare but 40 for unspecified extra curriculars is doubtful unless we're really cool and you have great track record with me.
To some people missing happy hour is an emergency.
Then he wanna negotiate and talk about banks...naw
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If you someone and they're good for it and will pay you back on Monday and you got it? What's it matter what he needs it for, Happy Hour or not...

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It's not randoms asking to borrow money that cause problems.... They either pay it back or they don't and you don't hear from them for a long time. Then you don't feel bad for turning them down next time.

It's close folks borrowing money that cause bigger issues.
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you talking like it's $400

The best rule is don't lend money if you don't have to.... it can lead to expectations and problems. I only lend money if I don't want it back and I'm not going to be annoyed if they ask to borrow more money down the line. Emergencies can be an exception but it has to be a worthy emergency.
You see how quickly he went from needing 40 to 25 to inquiring about her bank? Prime example. Can you see how that person has some expectations that might lead to problems down the road concerning money.

Even if he wanted to do a transfer from his account to hers that's a lot to ask of someone that just told you they wouldn't lend you money twice.

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>The best rule is don't lend money if you don't have to....
>it can lead to expectations and problems.


otherwise we are here speculating over dude's character over 40$
when we dont even know what makes the whole situation wierd in the first place.

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i myself would never want to be god,or even like god.Because god got all these human beings on this planet and i most certainly would not want to be responsible for them, or even have the disgrace that i made them.

I'd be willing to give that much. After she said that he went straight for asking about her bank....
That's what makes it weird, the bank.
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he could transfer money from his account to hers and then have her withdrawel the funds if they belonged to the same bank.

initially it sounded weird but nothing else in tje convo was shady so this makes the most sense.

But if someone told me no twice over small sums of money, I'm not asking about their bank info to do a transfer, unless I know the only reason they wouldn't lend me money is because they don't have it in the first place.
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he is thinking she doesnt have it so his next option is to see if they belong to the same bank so he can transfer HIS money into hers and she could pull it out for him.

that isnt crazy or outlandish.

it only sounds weird because he didnt go into detail about why he asked about her bank.

she told him she thought he needed $5 so it comes off like she doesnt have $40 to loan.

No money out comes out of her pocket....makes perfect sense but I'm saying he is asking that of a proven unwilling party. After the 2nd no he should have been looking to someone else.

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which is my point she coulda just said no
instead ofgiving the impression of, 'i would but i dont have it'
there's nothing in that entire conversation that says, no
(up until the 5$ comment - which is what makes me think she wasnt planning on
giving him the money from the get go. i mean....
i dont understand offering a grown person 5 bucks, and a friend at that.
20 i understand. 5??)

maybe the real issue here is that he shouldve known better than to ask

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i myself would never want to be god,or even like god.Because god got all these human beings on this planet and i most certainly would not want to be responsible for them, or even have the disgrace that i made them.

If I get a call or text from someone I'm close to asking for money I'm expecting at least 30

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Id never ask an ex for $, but I'd also just say yes or no. Not make them feel gradually worse for approaching me.

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explain what's it for OR say I don't want to say what's it for.

He was all weird about it.

And who cares if she was weird about it, she wasn't the one asking for money.

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all she said was how much and when he asked, she said ain't got it. if all she had was 5 or $10 to spare, she could have said that off the break. ain't no one texting anyone for $5 unless it's my coworker down in her office. for all we know, he could have an important lunch meeting and that's why he asked and he probably went high because $25 was what he really needed.

I don't think this is odd, they are friends.

if she don't fuck with him like that, why is she still talking to him once a week.

you should be comfortable enough to explain what it's for.
I wouldn't ask someone to borrow money & for bank info then come off like "don't worry about what it's for."
That's weird.
Seems like a lack of communication all the way around though

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I guess it depends if I still have feelings or felt used by the Ex.

I'm cool with most of my Ex's tho...

and she made it seem like they were cool since they still text once a week.

then again, people on OKP have different definitions for Ex's.

He's never asked to borrow money but I have definitely been in situations with him where after I felt used.

Not gonna lie that might have played into this re me not wanting to give the $ unless it was an emergency.

If I had to do this over again I woulda asked if it was an emergency and if not I coopent swing it.

Then again he's manipulative enough that I could see him saying it was an emergency just to get the $.

100% right.

This shit was the straw that broke the camels back but I shoulda been stopped talkig to him.

I mean the texts were very generic (How's your week been, what's new) but that's time and energy that could be spent on people that deserve it.

youve never had money issues before but now he'd manipulate the situation over money?
and 40$ at that?
smh. this doesnt even sound right

y'all's relationship must have been something else

but really, stop pretending to be friends, there's no point


no one offers a friend 5 bucks

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i myself would never want to be god,or even like god.Because god got all these human beings on this planet and i most certainly would not want to be responsible for them, or even have the disgrace that i made them.

And you need lunch money or train or cab fare that dollar amount is relatively low.

That's what I meant by $5.

Maybe it wasn't literally $5 but train fare and $ to eat is like $15 tops.

That I woulda given him if to was between being stranded in DC or giving him $.

$40 to me seemed very "I have a date tonight" or as someone said needed $ till direct deposit hit

I'm not funding the former and if it was the latter he should have said that rather than being vague.

cause you are running through a shit load of scenarios that should be of no concern to you based on those generic text.

your insecurities got the best of you.

Dude ain't even hitting you up with dry hollas or leading you on in his weekly text.

>Maybe it wasn't literally $5 but train fare and $ to eat is
>like $15 tops.
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i think you are making this worse
lol at 8-bucks for food.
are we in college?


8bucks is what, subway? mcds? bk?
cant even get a drink with that. smh

hilarious

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i myself would never want to be god,or even like god.Because god got all these human beings on this planet and i most certainly would not want to be responsible for them, or even have the disgrace that i made them.

Frontin someone $15 when they will be reunited with their wallet later that night makes sense to me

If he's lying because he has a happy hour with the boys or a date or needs to stretch his $ until Monday that's a whole other story and isn't in like with what he told me which is just that his wallet is at home...

>wallet later that night makes sense to me


to be honest, none of this makes sense to me
like its all bizarre.

but, moral of this story; we know better than to ask you for 5bucks
not unless our lives and safety are at risk.

lol!

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i myself would never want to be god,or even like god.Because god got all these human beings on this planet and i most certainly would not want to be responsible for them, or even have the disgrace that i made them.

And can't even be mad about it

dude

I've "loaned" God knows how much throughout the years and only got back like 20% of it. It is what it is. I learned early to never expect to get money back and don't "loan" if I actually need that money.

im not concerned what they are gonna do with the money


if its someone i know but dont really trust or like i may give them the 3rd degree or flat out refuse

And 40 bux is NOTHING

Like that's an amount that even if u don't get it back its not the end of the world

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That shit is hilarious.

This is George Costanza levels.

haha

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and never not once asked what the money was for

either i'm going to help you or i'm not

someone even said, "wow..you didn't even ask what it is for"

what does me asking do?

i cant prove that thats what you need the money for

the bottom line is either i'm going to help you or i'm not

the amount really isn't that much considering how smart and rich more okps say they are.

He left his wallet and he promised some other broad he'd meet her later...


or he just needs gas money to get home and back to work the next couple of days. $40 seems like a tank of gas until pay day

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I don't know the gov's payment schedule but I don't think they get paid on Monday, which is when he said he would pay me back....

Best bet is he had a date in DC and didn't want to go all the way back go Baltimore to get his wallet.

Fuck that I'm not funding your date, player...

Well during this time of year, most of the year Saturdays. But yeah definitely gat paid Monday's. Don't kno if that's true for all agencies tho

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