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vee-lover
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"Fellas: Do You Have A Spending Limit When It Comes To 1st Dates?"


  

          

Or "money ain't a thang?" (c) JD

A partner of mine says he never spends more than $50 bucks on a 1st date

Like if a girl suggested the most expensive joint to eat at on your first date would you be feeling some of way in your head abt it?

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It ain't tricking if you got it...
Mar 02nd 2015
1
yes. probably around $60 max
Mar 02nd 2015
2
Damn, I been doing it wrong then lol - last date I went on cost over
Mar 02nd 2015
5
      Did you get any?
Mar 02nd 2015
6
      RE: not that night
Mar 02nd 2015
9
      it's just not economically prudent to be on that tip
Mar 02nd 2015
12
           RE: nah it really isn't but a few times I've ended up spending way
Mar 02nd 2015
23
                goddam maxwell + food, dranks , thas a lot of money
Mar 02nd 2015
30
                     Yeah that shit hit my pockets up...hoard that night lol...I was cool
Mar 02nd 2015
34
$20. Maybe $30.
Mar 02nd 2015
3
1st date should be a cafe, or a walk in the park
Mar 02nd 2015
4
So what do you do when a lady suggests the most expensive
Mar 02nd 2015
7
you cut your losses and be thankful you dodged that bullet.
Mar 02nd 2015
10
      right...
Mar 02nd 2015
11
      Basically. Although in my experience, women are loathe to suggest
Mar 02nd 2015
13
           most of us know exactly where we wanna go
Mar 02nd 2015
22
                So let me ask you as a female in this post, how do you feel abt if the
Mar 02nd 2015
24
                     If I like him then I'll go
Mar 02nd 2015
26
                          RE: If I like him then I'll go
Mar 02nd 2015
33
Nvm
Mar 02nd 2015
19
why not a walk at the zoo or something thats actually interesting
Mar 02nd 2015
32
      The zoo, the park, Botanical Gardens, whatever - it's all the same.
Mar 02nd 2015
55
I agree w/ post #3 and 4.
Mar 02nd 2015
8
yes - as a general rule, I don't spend much money on a 1st date
Mar 02nd 2015
14
1st date = "let's meet up for a couple of drinks"
Mar 02nd 2015
15
I think that this is the best strategy
Mar 02nd 2015
20
spending limit on the 2nd date
Mar 02nd 2015
16
i don't have a "limit", but i'm not trying to ball out either
Mar 02nd 2015
17
So when she approaching the limit or whatever, what yall do?
Mar 02nd 2015
18
dates should be broken in to segments of different activities
Mar 02nd 2015
21
i can dig that
Mar 02nd 2015
29
I start feeling like Dave Chappelle in 'Half Bake' when his date was
Mar 02nd 2015
25
"i think ill just have a salad"
Mar 02nd 2015
27
throw out a goldpack, scoot your chair back slightly and begin
Mar 02nd 2015
37
"You know that's the fuckin side of the menu, right?" (C)DL Hughley
Mar 02nd 2015
46
when she starts ordering separate appetizers, it's time to
Mar 02nd 2015
68
Never thought about it
Mar 02nd 2015
28
no, i don't.
Mar 02nd 2015
31
How many of yall have been in a situation where the chick was running up...
Mar 02nd 2015
35
If she runs up the bill and the sex is wack...you really feel played.
Mar 02nd 2015
38
LOL
Mar 02nd 2015
39
That happened to me once...I left her there...
Mar 02nd 2015
40
lol how badly had she run up the bill?
Mar 02nd 2015
42
      so bad that he had to call out sick for 2 days cuz he ain't have no
Mar 02nd 2015
48
      no compassion. he did that to himself.
Mar 02nd 2015
49
      ay yo, lmao
Mar 02nd 2015
91
      close to $100...and I was in college then...
Mar 06th 2015
99
what's the difference between running up a bill, and ordering more?
Mar 02nd 2015
45
same
Mar 02nd 2015
53
once + a chick who never paid on multiple cheap dates
Mar 02nd 2015
58
A girl (tried) to do this to me back in the day
Mar 02nd 2015
65
I *heard about* this girl doing that before...
Mar 02nd 2015
59
>adequately phone-screened first
Mar 02nd 2015
60
What gets me is the ones who order 3 and 4 drinks
Mar 02nd 2015
61
RE: What gets me is the ones who order 3 and 4 drinks
Mar 02nd 2015
62
      how many drinks did you have. was she matching your intake?
Mar 02nd 2015
64
      i had maybe 2-3 beers
Mar 02nd 2015
69
           so you hit then? Lol
Mar 02nd 2015
73
                naw not that pressed
Mar 02nd 2015
82
      Bruh, this is a common thing for women in Latin American countries
Mar 02nd 2015
72
           Yeah, the allure of "free" was something I didn't realize at first.
Mar 02nd 2015
76
           "Free" needs an asterisk by it and in Latin American countries the
Mar 02nd 2015
78
           there are some women who basically haven't been anywhere
Mar 02nd 2015
84
                Yeah women from 3rd world country have a entirely different mentality
Mar 02nd 2015
88
Yup
Mar 02nd 2015
66
That's the kinda ish that grinds my gears and I'm sure we all got one
Mar 02nd 2015
80
Maan
Mar 02nd 2015
83
So basically you were expecting to sleep with her on the 2nd date?
Mar 02nd 2015
85
      No
Mar 06th 2015
101
Had a friend that ALWAYS would order the most expensive item on the menu
Mar 02nd 2015
95
Spending Limit, No. Location Yes.
Mar 02nd 2015
36
not a limit but yeah i am kind of conscientious
Mar 02nd 2015
41
I wasn't conscientious before now, but dudes in this post are making
Mar 02nd 2015
43
i wouldn't worry about it.
Mar 02nd 2015
47
      Nah it's not but I like the Idea of not always having to go to a high
Mar 02nd 2015
56
           you definitely don't have to go to a high priced restaurant
Mar 02nd 2015
63
                I'm just so use to going to a restaurant on a 1st date rather than a
Mar 02nd 2015
67
                     Go out for drinks. Then, make one of your conversation topics
Mar 02nd 2015
70
                     you don't have to go to a restaurant on a first date.
Mar 02nd 2015
75
                     to me a movie kind of sucks as a social thing
Mar 02nd 2015
81
                          Oh it does suck for a first date but I have occasionally gone to a
Mar 02nd 2015
96
absolutely
Mar 02nd 2015
50
real talk when I was single I would take ALL first dates to pf changs
Mar 02nd 2015
44
are women ever turned off by a guy spending money 'frivolously'?
Mar 02nd 2015
51
RE: That's a good question lol - I'd have to say most women aren't
Mar 02nd 2015
57
Some of those dudes are corns
Mar 02nd 2015
74
      amen.
Mar 02nd 2015
77
      RE: damn so tell us how you really feel
Mar 02nd 2015
79
      lol someone told me a dude took her to floor seats for date 1
Mar 02nd 2015
86
           Cause probably cause he was lame as fuck
Mar 02nd 2015
87
           basically
Mar 02nd 2015
93
           Homeboy probably got those tickets from his boss or something
Mar 06th 2015
100
If you suggesting you paying
Mar 02nd 2015
52
absolutely..unless we hitting the mo mo..i'll splurge
Mar 02nd 2015
54
mentally yes. explicitly no.
Mar 02nd 2015
71
1st date was always a BYO, $50-60 (>12 yrs. ago, though)
Mar 02nd 2015
89
Yikes, she was doing entirely too much.
Mar 02nd 2015
92
RE: I don't think I've ever invited a girl over to my house on the 1st
Mar 02nd 2015
94
1st date is drinks, 2nd date is a BYOB, 3rd date my crib.
Mar 02nd 2015
90
0 dollars...lol
Mar 02nd 2015
97
*opens Yelp and sets filter to $-$$*
Mar 02nd 2015
98
Face palm...lolololololol
Mar 06th 2015
102
I spent nearly a hundred bucks on a first date.
Mar 06th 2015
103
RE: I'm curious to know what did you do for you to spend $100?
Mar 06th 2015
104

Billy Ray Valentine
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1. "It ain't tricking if you got it..."
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>Or "money ain't a thang?" (c) JD
>
>A partner of mine says he never spends more than $50 bucks on
>a 1st date
>
>Like if a girl suggested the most expensive joint to eat at on
>your first date would you be feeling some of way in your head
>abt it?

go dutch on the first date

"when I was growin' up if we wanted a jacuzzi we had to fart in the tub!"

  

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2. "yes. probably around $60 max"
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none of my first dates be on some mccormick and schmick's shit anyway though
if you spending real money while getting to know someone you're probably doing it wrong
1st date == we walking and talking

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5. "Damn, I been doing it wrong then lol - last date I went on cost over "
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Mon Mar-02-15 01:27 PM by vee-lover

  

          

$80

Ol girl was ordering drinks/desserts...and we were just running our mouths having a good ol time...and the the bill came and it was an immediate 'buzz kill' lol

Luckily she was cool and someone I had no regrets abt spending money on...because she's generous w/her money


>none of my first dates be on some mccormick and schmick's
>shit anyway though
>if you spending real money while getting to know someone
>you're probably doing it wrong
>1st date == we walking and talking

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6. "Did you get any?"
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Just joking, btw. Gotta add this disclaimer because okp.

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9. "RE: not that night "
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12. "it's just not economically prudent to be on that tip"
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especially if you do any kind of numbers while single
i don't think it's unrealistic for someone to be going on 2-3 1st dates a WEEK if they really out there trying

i got burnt 1 time and switched my whole approach up
i spent >$80 on a date i knew wasn't going anywhere by the mid way point, never contacted chick again (and vice versa)
i'm not about wasting bread just to be doing it

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23. "RE: nah it really isn't but a few times I've ended up spending way"
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more on a 1st date than I intended

Took this young lady to a Maxwell concert (which was already expensive enough) and then afterwards drinks/dinner...and they ish ended costing a grip lol

>especially if you do any kind of numbers while single
>i don't think it's unrealistic for someone to be going on 2-3
>1st dates a WEEK if they really out there trying

Yeah I have to space them out
>
>i got burnt 1 time and switched my whole approach up
>i spent >$80 on a date i knew wasn't going anywhere by the mid
>way point, never contacted chick again (and vice versa)
>i'm not about wasting bread just to be doing it

I guess that's when it gets you the most when you know the date wasn't going anywhere after that night

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30. "goddam maxwell + food, dranks , thas a lot of money"
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34. "Yeah that shit hit my pockets up...hoard that night lol...I was cool"
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w/hittin up the afterparty after the concert but then she said she was starving and wanted to get something to eat before we headed to the afterparty

Mind you, we were gettin out drink on at the concert, too...and you know those drinks at concerts are kinda pricey

Luckily, she was another female I kicked it w/for awhile afterwards lol


>and my baby aint give you no???...you must be rich
>nigga....oh you are??? wake up yo momma too..(c) her daddy via
>richard pryor

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3. "$20. Maybe $30."
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4. "1st date should be a cafe, or a walk in the park"
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Or some cool event that's happening that's relatively inexpensive.

  

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7. "So what do you do when a lady suggests the most expensive "
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restaurant to eat at?

Do you agree...or suggest another spot to dine at?


>Or some cool event that's happening that's relatively
>inexpensive.
>
>

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10. "you cut your losses and be thankful you dodged that bullet. "
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11. "right..."
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13. "Basically. Although in my experience, women are loathe to suggest "
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the first date spot. It seems to be as much about preferring guys who know how to plan as much as it is them just being lazy and not wanting to have to think about any of that kind of stuff.

  

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22. "most of us know exactly where we wanna go "
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But I usually let the guy pick as a courtesy because I don't know what his financial situation is, so he can pick what's in his price range.

  

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24. "So let me ask you as a female in this post, how do you feel abt if the "
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guy suggests somewhere *really* inexpensive to eat at?

You can't tell me that won't alter how you feel abt his prospects as potential boyfriend/SO/fuckbuddy going forward


>But I usually let the guy pick as a courtesy because I don't
>know what his financial situation is, so he can pick what's in
>his price range.

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26. "If I like him then I'll go"
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>guy suggests somewhere *really* inexpensive to eat at?
>
>You can't tell me that won't alter how you feel abt his
>prospects as potential boyfriend/SO/fuckbuddy going forward

It really just depends on if he's being cheap or if thats his financial situation. If that's just his situation and he's trying then im cool with it. If he cheap then I'll just eventually stop talking to him. But that's hard to assess from just a first date, cause as you see most guys are not trying to spend a lot anyway regardless of whether they have it or not lol.


>>But I usually let the guy pick as a courtesy because I don't
>>know what his financial situation is, so he can pick what's
>in
>>his price range.
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33. "RE: If I like him then I'll go"
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>>guy suggests somewhere *really* inexpensive to eat at?
>>
>>You can't tell me that won't alter how you feel abt his
>>prospects as potential boyfriend/SO/fuckbuddy going forward
>
>It really just depends on if he's being cheap or if thats his
>financial situation.

If it's a first date, how would you really know if he's being cheap or if that's his financial situation, though?


If that's just his situation and he's
>trying then im cool with it. If he cheap then I'll just
>eventually stop talking to him. But that's hard to assess from
>just a first date, cause as you see most guys are not trying
>to spend a lot anyway regardless of whether they have it or
>not lol.

Yeah you already said what I was going to say in regards to knowing if he's being cheap or if it's just what he can afford to spend? (Hard to determine from the 1st date)

And yes, dudes in here ain't Tryin to trick off like that I see
>
>
>>>But I usually let the guy pick as a courtesy because I
>don't
>>>know what his financial situation is, so he can pick what's
>>in
>>>his price range.

So what if its you who are paying for the date...do you know already know how much you want to spend?
>>
>

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19. "Nvm"
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Mon Mar-02-15 01:54 PM by SimplyHannah

  

          

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32. "why not a walk at the zoo or something thats actually interesting "
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55. "The zoo, the park, Botanical Gardens, whatever - it's all the same."
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8. "I agree w/ post #3 and 4. "
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14. "yes - as a general rule, I don't spend much money on a 1st date"
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for a few reasons:

~the most important purpose of a first date is to assess the energy and determine if there is a mutual spark - if not - no amount of money or fineness will compensate for that

~I do not want to put forth any notions that I am trying to impress with the amount of money I spend on a first date, nor am I trying to prove a point that I got it like that, as if that's what she's trying to determine on a first date, we won't work out anyway. In fact, one of my biggest turn-offs is when a woman suggests a super ritzy restaurant for a 1st date.

~I don't want to be pinned to a long, drawn out event/dinner on a first date. In the event that there is horrible chemistry, spending 2-3 hours small-talking and pretending to be interested is torture.

To me, the first ideal date is a walk in a park, a coffee/tea house, or some other venue where you can either stay for hours or leave within 30 mins. without it being particularly odd.

Best 1st dates I've had have cost between $0-$15

After mutual interest has been determined, I'm much more inclined to spend more time/money on a second date.

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15. "1st date = "let's meet up for a couple of drinks""
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This way, if it's a good date, you pay more. If it's shitty, you pay less and have an easy exit.

A nice dinner on the first date is not happening*


*Unless she suggests it and is very attractive

  

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20. "I think that this is the best strategy "
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16. "spending limit on the 2nd date"
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the 1st date shows that i can. the 2nd sees if you're going to just sit there and expect or try and chip in. and if you get mad about it....then you lose.
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17. "i don't have a "limit", but i'm not trying to ball out either"
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...it's really supposed to be a bout getting to know the person initially....and i haven't met a woman who recommeneded the real expensive places, just somewhere we can eat good food and relax

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18. "So when she approaching the limit or whatever, what yall do?"
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Say nah, ma you can't get that? Lmao

  

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21. "dates should be broken in to segments of different activities"
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if the date starts approaching your spending limit you just end the date early or change the remaining segments on the fly
that's another reason why dinners are wack 1st dates. you are stuck there and she can run up the bill with you having no control

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29. "i can dig that"
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25. "I start feeling like Dave Chappelle in 'Half Bake' when his date was"
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ordering food/desserts and his money was runnin low lol

It just makes me limit what I can order lol

>Say nah, ma you can't get that? Lmao

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27. ""i think ill just have a salad""
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37. "throw out a goldpack, scoot your chair back slightly and begin"
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messaging your inner thigh. Hopefully by that time, the message and the intentions of the rest of the night have been well received.


Nah, I'm kidding.


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46. ""You know that's the fuckin side of the menu, right?" (C)DL Hughley"
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>messaging your inner thigh. Hopefully by that time, the
>message and the intentions of the rest of the night have been
>well received.
>
>
>Nah, I'm kidding.
>
>
>

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68. "when she starts ordering separate appetizers, it's time to "
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start textin' your boy to make that "Call".



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28. "Never thought about it "
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Most of my 1st dates were meeting at the park downtown or shooting pool or at a bar so usually no more than $20 due to the cost of beers & rental of the balls

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31. "no, i don't."
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fuck you.

  

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35. "How many of yall have been in a situation where the chick was running up..."
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The bill?

Lol. You harbor resentment? What if you get the buns afterward? Does that make up for it or nah?

  

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38. "If she runs up the bill and the sex is wack...you really feel played. "
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39. "LOL"
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>

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40. "That happened to me once...I left her there..."
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Paid my piece and bounced...

  

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42. "lol how badly had she run up the bill?"
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48. "so bad that he had to call out sick for 2 days cuz he ain't have no"
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gas money.

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49. "no compassion. he did that to himself."
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91. "ay yo, lmao"
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99. "close to $100...and I was in college then..."
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so yeah...too much for a first date then...

I had the money...it's the principle at that point...

If I spend $25 on my meal and your joint pops up to $100...UNSAT...

  

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45. "what's the difference between running up a bill, and ordering more?"
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is she supposed to ask, 'is it okay if i get this or that?'

  

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53. "same"
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58. "once + a chick who never paid on multiple cheap dates"
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65. "A girl (tried) to do this to me back in the day "
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She gon *asked* me out and then when we get to restaurant she orders all this food assuming I was gonna pay for it because the man is suppose to pay I guess how she looked at it...but I didn't and when the bill came ish got kinda ugly for a bit

She stopped speaking to me for awhile but eventually we got cool again...

But I felt like she was trying to play me like I was a simp

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59. "I *heard about* this girl doing that before..."
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A girl I used to date was on a double date with my homey, his girlfriend and my homey's uncle (only a few years older). Said she started ordering all this expensive stuff from *that* side of the menu and he got pissed just watching it. Came to me like "I see why you don't mess with her any more"

Never had it happen to me, but honestly I don't take women out on dates that I haven't adequately phone-screened first.

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60. ">adequately phone-screened first"
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i think this is a very important part.

i feel like mostly all of the horror stories are from dates with perfect-strangers.

i can't imagine going on a date with someone that i can't even tell will be a horror at dinner, for whatever reason.

  

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61. "What gets me is the ones who order 3 and 4 drinks"
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I'm not a heavy drinker, so the idea that anyone would want more than two drinks in one sitting is something I have to remind myself of all the time. But yes, I've had it lead to resentment on my end. Resentment that built up over about a 2 month period.

  

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62. "RE: What gets me is the ones who order 3 and 4 drinks"
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think i posted about it but i was on a date (wit an okp lurker actually) and they ordered like 7 captain morgans
it was only $50ish but i cringed every time she ordered another one
i'm guessing she went hard knowing it was on special but i almost had a heart attack over that shit (in my head....i ain't say anything)

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64. "how many drinks did you have. was she matching your intake?"
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i feel like she gets a pass if she's matching.

but if she ordered more than me - it's time to go.

... how did she handle that though?

  

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69. "i had maybe 2-3 beers"
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and she threw up her brains out back at the crib

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73. "so you hit then? Lol "
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82. "naw not that pressed"
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if you're throwing up , get your rest

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72. "Bruh, this is a common thing for women in Latin American countries "
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YOU ALWAYS have to be on alert (at least I was) when you go out on a 1st date or otherwise w/one of them...


They'll buy drinks not because they're drinkers but because it's *free*....and you're an American...who can (presumably) afford it lol...they w/o question will want to go to the most expensive restaurant and order enough food to take home to the family lol

I made plans to go out w/a chick this one time when I first got to C.R. and a couple of hours before we were meeting up she called and asked me if her friend could ride w/us...and I was like sure since we were going in a taxi

We get to the club and her girl jumps right out the taxi and goes right into the club *w/o* paying and I'm thinking she must know the dude at the door lmao...and when I get ready to pay the girl at the door charges me for 3 ppl...and ol girl ordered drinks/food that she didn't so much as even offer a tip for

I went off on the chick I was with in the best broken spanish possible lol




>think i posted about it but i was on a date (wit an okp
>lurker actually) and they ordered like 7 captain morgans
>it was only $50ish but i cringed every time she ordered
>another one
>i'm guessing she went hard knowing it was on special but i
>almost had a heart attack over that shit (in my head....i
>ain't say anything)

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76. "Yeah, the allure of "free" was something I didn't realize at first."
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I guess because as a guy nothing about dating is free for me - everything is to be earned and/or paid for by me, unless she decides to be nice to me and cover the tip every now and again.

The first 5 or 6 women I ever took out on adult dates, I thought they just all coincidentally wanted drinks. I didn't know that was basically standard.

  

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78. ""Free" needs an asterisk by it and in Latin American countries the"
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women hate it when we Americans give a tip when it's included in the bill

That's the kinda stuff that makes them think ALL Americans got it like that...and why they will spend your money up if you allow them...

>I guess because as a guy nothing about dating is free for me
>- everything is to be earned and/or paid for by me, unless she
>decides to be nice to me and cover the tip every now and
>again.
>
>The first 5 or 6 women I ever took out on adult dates, I
>thought they just all coincidentally wanted drinks. I didn't
>know that was basically standard.

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84. "there are some women who basically haven't been anywhere"
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and once you take them there it's basically a ordering spree for them
i can usually identify those kind of chicks ahead of time though and either restrict the options or just fall back entirely

sounds like u got ran for the okie doke though
lol @ bringing doggie bags for the fam. FOH

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88. "Yeah women from 3rd world country have a entirely different mentality "
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when it comes to dating...and dating an American specifically



>and once you take them there it's basically a ordering spree
>for them
>i can usually identify those kind of chicks ahead of time
>though and either restrict the options or just fall back
>entirely
>
>sounds like u got ran for the okie doke though
>lol @ bringing doggie bags for the fam. FOH

Yeah, fam, I learned my lesson after that...but I learned the hard way lol

And the doggie bag thing is REAL

An American man going on a nice p, relatively expensive dinner date w/a Latin american female from a 3rd world country?

Yeah she already been instructed to bring back some leftovers for the fam lol...

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66. "Yup"
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Got her lobster on the first date. Thought she really liked me
Rubbed her feet on the 2nd date

Got nathan

2 weeks later found out she smashed a college friend of mine (dude didn't even know I put in a bid)

#GUMPLIFE

  

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80. "That's the kinda ish that grinds my gears and I'm sure we all got one"
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Of those stories lol


>Got her lobster on the first date. Thought she really liked
>me
>Rubbed her feet on the 2nd date
>
>Got nathan
>
>2 weeks later found out she smashed a college friend of mine
>(dude didn't even know I put in a bid)
>
>#GUMPLIFE

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83. "Maan"
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The shit I know now that I should've known back then...I would've been a superwhore.

But I was a pretty big gump in college...up until my jr./sr. year

  

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85. "So basically you were expecting to sleep with her on the 2nd date?"
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>Got her lobster on the first date. Thought she really liked
>me
>Rubbed her feet on the 2nd date
>
>Got nathan
>
>2 weeks later found out she smashed a college friend of mine
>(dude didn't even know I put in a bid)
>
>#GUMPLIFE

  

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101. "No"
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>So basically you were expecting to sleep with her on the 2nd date?
But I was expecting more than I got...she was interested (or so I thought) and I barely got a hug

Plus, rubbing a woman's foot ain't no friend shit

  

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95. "Had a friend that ALWAYS would order the most expensive item on the menu"
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Or extra this and that. Didn't bother me one bit, but damn. Lol
IHop, Chipotle, Ruth's.. Did not matter.

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36. "Spending Limit, No. Location Yes. "
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Certain restaurants are off limits.


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41. "not a limit but yeah i am kind of conscientious "
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i wanna impress but not overdo it, that's my main concern.

but do i look at it like "oh, this is a crapshoot and i prolly won't hit tonight so better not spend?" nah. if it goes well there will be plenty of $10 dates where you get some ass later.

And you will know MY JACKET IS GOLD when I lay my vengeance upon thee.

  

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43. "I wasn't conscientious before now, but dudes in this post are making"
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me re-think it

Maybe I should be more conscious of what I want to spend on 1st dates


>i wanna impress but not overdo it, that's my main concern.
>
>but do i look at it like "oh, this is a crapshoot and i prolly
>won't hit tonight so better not spend?" nah. if it goes well
>there will be plenty of $10 dates where you get some ass
>later.

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47. "i wouldn't worry about it."
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it's not as deep as these dudes are making it.

or, it doesn't have to be.

fuck you.

  

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56. "Nah it's not but I like the Idea of not always having to go to a high "
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priced restaurant on a 1st date ...and maybe just go for tea/coffee or a walk in the park (if weather permits)


>it's not as deep as these dudes are making it.
>
>or, it doesn't have to be.
>
>

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63. "you definitely don't have to go to a high priced restaurant"
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on a first date.

fuck you.

  

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67. "I'm just so use to going to a restaurant on a 1st date rather than a "
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movie for instance


>on a first date.
>

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70. "Go out for drinks. Then, make one of your conversation topics"
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about sharing which restaurants you like in whatever city you're in.

If there's a second date, now you have a shortlist of places she likes. OR, you might be familiar with a restaurant she's been wanting to try, and you can steer her on the menu also ("the bread and water is really good here, trust me.")

  

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75. "you don't have to go to a restaurant on a first date."
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i've just gone out for a couple of drinks @ a local bar. i've gone to a movie in the park. i've gone to a music performance. i've gone out dancing.

there's no limit to what you can do on a first date. it's whatever you want.

fuck you.

  

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81. "to me a movie kind of sucks as a social thing"
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that's more something i do later to mix it up or when i am at that point where we have little to talk about because we do everything together.

drinks or a light meal is a good first date to me, unless there has been a good amount of buildup. then i will do the nice restaurant. i never take a chick to a cheap restaurant really.

And you will know MY JACKET IS GOLD when I lay my vengeance upon thee.

  

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96. "Oh it does suck for a first date but I have occasionally gone to a"
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movie on a 1st date...


>that's more something i do later to mix it up or when i am at
>that point where we have little to talk about because we do
>everything together.
>
>drinks or a light meal is a good first date to me, unless
>there has been a good amount of buildup. then i will do the
>nice restaurant. i never take a chick to a cheap restaurant
>really.

Yep...never went the cheap restaurant route either

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50. "absolutely"
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> if it goes well
>there will be plenty of $10 dates where you get some ass
>later.

  

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44. "real talk when I was single I would take ALL first dates to pf changs "
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so my boy is the manager there I NEVER pay for nothing
tell woman to meet me at the bar keep the bill no more than like 20-30 and he comps it I hit him off with smokes the world is great


added benefit she thinks I'm the man bc i roll in like DeNiro in Casino like I'm a big shot and get free food.

I got a good life man

  

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51. "are women ever turned off by a guy spending money 'frivolously'?"
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- on the first date?

or is it always a sign of - he gon' take care of me?

  

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57. "RE: That's a good question lol - I'd have to say most women aren't"
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>- on the first date?
>
>or is it always a sign of - he gon' take care of me?

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74. "Some of those dudes are corns"
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And just try entirely too hard to be stunty and it comes off really lame.

  

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77. "amen."
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79. "RE: damn so tell us how you really feel"
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86. "lol someone told me a dude took her to floor seats for date 1"
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wasn't naan date even remotely on that level there after
she claimed bol never smashed but damn two floor seats gotta be like $600 min even if it's for sixers vs. knicks or some shit

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87. "Cause probably cause he was lame as fuck"
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Money dosent always seal the deal because a lot of those dudes are over compensating for something that they lack...like a decent personality.

Idgaf what we do or how much is spent, if I don't like him then I don't like him and no dollar amount will change that.

  

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93. "basically"
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>Idgaf what we do or how much is spent, if I don't like him
>then I don't like him and no dollar amount will change that.

  

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100. "Homeboy probably got those tickets from his boss or something"
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I've had bosses drop box seat tickets on me randomly (never FLOOR seats tho). I'm hoping that's what it is, because spending that much on a 1st date? lol

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52. "If you suggesting you paying"
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if it's some exorbitant shit. But for real I would just opt out on any chick who was trying to change up what I recommended, as she is going to be doing that a lot.

  

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54. "absolutely..unless we hitting the mo mo..i'll splurge"
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lol

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71. "mentally yes. explicitly no."
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i keep a mental tab and after that shit hits a certain point its like "yeah probably wont be going out w/ her again unless she's real dope"

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89. "1st date was always a BYO, $50-60 (>12 yrs. ago, though)"
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or occasionally for a first date I'd make dinner at my house, which would usually run me $20-$30 for good ingredients & wine.

>A partner of mine says he never spends more than $50 bucks on
>a 1st date

Obviously my economic circumstances are very different today but god forbid if I were back on the market I don't think my strategy would change much.

>Like if a girl suggested the most expensive joint to eat at on
>your first date would you be feeling some of way in your head
>abt it?

I had an awful date once I've posted about here before where I let the woman choose the spot.
-Parked in a $20 lot
-Restaurant dinner was $125 + tip at a time when I was making like $30k/yr, not really feasible for me.
-That $125 included a round of drink for her friend and her friend's boyfriend, who were spying on us from across the street and when she saw them my date invited them in for drinks... on my tab. I would have been madder but the friend was way cuter than my date.

There were several conversational red flags as well.

I paid up without complaining, but left the car running when I walked her to her door later that night and never followed up with her.

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92. "Yikes, she was doing entirely too much."
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94. "RE: I don't think I've ever invited a girl over to my house on the 1st"
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date...but that is a great way to save some loot tho lol

>or occasionally for a first date I'd make dinner at my house,
>which would usually run me $20-$30 for good ingredients &
>wine.
>
>>A partner of mine says he never spends more than $50 bucks
>on
>>a 1st date
>
>Obviously my economic circumstances are very different today
>but god forbid if I were back on the market I don't think my
>strategy would change much.
>
>>Like if a girl suggested the most expensive joint to eat at
>on
>>your first date would you be feeling some of way in your
>head
>>abt it?
>
>I had an awful date once I've posted about here before where I
>let the woman choose the spot.
>-Parked in a $20 lot
>-Restaurant dinner was $125 + tip at a time when I was making
>like $30k/yr, not really feasible for me.
>-That $125 included a round of drink for her friend and her
>friend's boyfriend, who were spying on us from across the
>street and when she saw them my date invited them in for
>drinks... on my tab. I would have been madder but the friend
>was way cuter than my date.

See, I have one of those faces where it says exactly how I'm feeling at that moment...and the minute she invited her friend and her man over for drinks...on me...is when my jaw line gets tight and I grit my teeth lol...

That's the height of being inconsiderate
>
>There were several conversational red flags as well.
>
>I paid up without complaining, but left the car running when I
>walked her to her door later that night and never followed up
>with her.

LOL - I feel ya
>
>

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90. "1st date is drinks, 2nd date is a BYOB, 3rd date my crib."
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97. "0 dollars...lol"
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We are going to the park, walking and talking.

  

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98. "*opens Yelp and sets filter to $-$$*"
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102. "Face palm...lolololololol"
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I get it, I do!


I tell dudes we should talk and really get to know each other before we go on that first date because first impressions are everything.




Somebody's lying...

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103. "I spent nearly a hundred bucks on a first date."
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Still with that girl nearly five years later.

The ones that you know are worth it? Spend whatever they're worth.

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104. "RE: I'm curious to know what did you do for you to spend $100?"
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>Still with that girl nearly five years later.
>
>The ones that you know are worth it? Spend whatever they're
>worth.

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