MrThomas43423 Member since Jul 03rd 2002 67613 posts
Tue Feb-24-15 01:01 PM
"Single Folk: You Have Any Serious Half-On-A-Baby Propositions Right Now?"
or i guess as serious as they can be. but gotdamn....shit like that is real. i think its women who would have to initiate that talk (in my case it is), but there's this range of about 29 to 41 that may not need love and happiness, but would like a baby and the love and happiness that brings. add in some strong genes, and propositions happen.
financially i think it would be damn near impossible for it to be profitable. for some reason it doesn't seem the same as a 2 income household having a child (cause its not), but maybe an arrangement can be reached where it doesn't feel like child support would be beating up one person more than the other.
but i don't know. WHAT IF SHE'S FUCKING BISEXUAL AND YOUR CAN BE WITH HER AND STILL GET OTHER BITCHES AND SHIT? WHAT ABOUT THAT SHIT NIGGA?!?!?! what the fuck? --------------------------------------- it's true what they say...people are strange, when you're strangers.
MrThomas43423 Member since Jul 03rd 2002 67613 posts
Tue Feb-24-15 01:39 PM
4. "it went from being kinda like a joke to understanding that its serious" In response to Reply # 1
it used to be hahaha....half on a baby. baby mamma....baby daddy....hahahaha. but its real. i wonder if the realness is an older age thing. doesn't make it practical at all, but people do non-practical shit all the time. --------------------------------------- it's true what they say...people are strange, when you're strangers.
13. "Down to trying to take out my Nuva ring lol " In response to Reply # 5
He said he just wanted to see it? Same dude that was telling me that he would really like a child, and we'd be excellent parents. Gave me his game plan pretty much and how'd he'd go back into stock trading to support us. How I'd be so lucky to have a child by him. 0_o
One of my exes stayed taking the condom off and onetime poked holes in one.
Others have simply asked, "If I wanted a child with you, would you have my baby?". They seem to think ill be a great mom. They're right I will be, but I still have a damn roommate! My ideas of marriage do change often but I'd like to be married before having children. My life is not together to have a kid and not worry about expenses right now.
I go through baby fever but I want better for my child more than I want the child itself.
MrThomas43423 Member since Jul 03rd 2002 67613 posts
Tue Feb-24-15 02:24 PM
16. "wow. that's so.....wow. my whole like i've been like wife then baby" In response to Reply # 13
wife.....baby. like that's the only plan i had. i understand that accidents happen, but to purposefully want to have a child outta wedlock is like some twilight zone shit. but its people on that shit. like for real on that shit. --------------------------------------- it's true what they say...people are strange, when you're strangers.
blackrussian Member since Oct 17th 2010 6498 posts
Tue Feb-24-15 01:33 PM
3. "this makes no sense to me" In response to Reply # 0
>there's this range >of about 29 to 41 that may not need love and happiness, but >would like a baby and the love and happiness that brings.
like people who are just so single minded in their desire for a baby. why would you want the latter without the former, or think that the latter will bring you the former?
MrThomas43423 Member since Jul 03rd 2002 67613 posts
Tue Feb-24-15 01:41 PM
6. "every case isn't the same" In response to Reply # 3
>like people who are just so single minded in their desire for >a baby. why would you want the latter without the former, or >think that the latter will bring you the former?
and baby's do bring joy. it happens all the time. we hear about women who never wanted children, having a child and it being the "joy of their lives" and all that. --------------------------------------- it's true what they say...people are strange, when you're strangers.
blackrussian Member since Oct 17th 2010 6498 posts
Tue Feb-24-15 01:59 PM
10. "yeah but i feel like the opposite of that is way more frequent" In response to Reply # 6
>and baby's do bring joy. it happens all the time. we hear >about women who never wanted children, having a child and it >being the "joy of their lives" and all that.
babies CAN bring joy. Is that why people have kids though? for joy? I thought that was just supposed to be an added bonus. Because there's a whole lot else that they also bring.
MrThomas43423 Member since Jul 03rd 2002 67613 posts
Tue Feb-24-15 02:31 PM
19. "lets change it from babies to parenthood" In response to Reply # 10
i think that if you don't want to have a baby, but rather want to be a parent then you're signing up for everything that can bring. good and the bad. --------------------------------------- it's true what they say...people are strange, when you're strangers.
MrThomas43423 Member since Jul 03rd 2002 67613 posts
Tue Feb-24-15 02:30 PM
18. "it wouldn't feel your "void". and it wouldn't feel my "void"" In response to Reply # 7
but some women like motherhood. and if motherhood is a void you feel, then a baby would certainly fill that void. --------------------------------------- it's true what they say...people are strange, when you're strangers.
11. "It seems emotionally irresponsible on the surface." In response to Reply # 0 Tue Feb-24-15 02:05 PM by Kira
You (to the OP or anyone on this board) do realize that wanting a child and raising one are two entirely different things, right? Half on a baby sounds easy on paper. Good luck with that arrangement as the child ages. It just seems like they're doing it to fill a void and not considering the long-term ramifications of raising a child in an environment without love.
*EDIT after rereading post*
This is not a good idea. That woman becomes emotionally attached at some point as does the father. In other words, that financial arrangement becomes meaningless at some point. I know women that take this same approach to marriage and children. It works for some but doesn't work for the rest of them. Doing something because you're supposed to do it and is a good way to kill yourself and become miserable down the line. People notice this happening even if you don't notice it.
MrThomas43423 Member since Jul 03rd 2002 67613 posts
Tue Feb-24-15 02:27 PM
17. "part of me chalks it up as hormonal" In response to Reply # 12
uterus talkin....and eggs flipping and shit. it feels like a body decision more than a mind decision. --------------------------------------- it's true what they say...people are strange, when you're strangers.
MrThomas43423 Member since Jul 03rd 2002 67613 posts
Tue Feb-24-15 02:33 PM
22. "all that sneak shit is weird to me" In response to Reply # 15
but you and this timeline....is it adjustable to concrete? what happens when you hit 35? cause i mean....its not far kiddo. ya'll aren't far behind me. --------------------------------------- it's true what they say...people are strange, when you're strangers.
I've gotten propositions. I LOL every time. These same dudes like to remind me of my age and feign concern for my ovaries. To which I respond, I'm good.
On another note...Niggas, (I say this from the bottom of my heart...cause yall niggas when you accept this mess)...If a chick that is "bi or lesbian" asks you to impregnate them and they say you won't be on papers...get that shit notarized. I know several dudes who were caught up in that moment and are now assed out!
and since i never planned on giving birth anyway, i am totally ok with this. now, if someone comes along and wants me to play stepmom to their kid(s), i might could be down with that.
just sayin'.
~~wbg~~ "I pray sometimes to keep my head together, because you can use prayer however you want. There are no rules one way or the other." --Jami Attenberg
37. "i had a chick that wanted me to shoot her club up...." In response to Reply # 0
*cue Back to Life acapella*
no commitment no relationship no financial responsibility
actually, i was in a relationship, and she knew that
the way she broke it down to me was that she found so many of my characteristics appealing, and i already had exhibit a in the making gorgeous-ass children category
she just wanted me for my lightskin and curly hair
jokes on her cuz i am bald now.....
*runs away like dj pooh after his chain got snatched*
42. "Nah..That isn't a conversion that I would entertain.." In response to Reply # 0
Half on a baby seems like a recipe for drama down the line. I am someone who will discuss children AFTER marriage. No marriage, no baby! As for getting with someone who switch hit...Seems cool for thrills, but when it comes to starting a family, I don't believe in sharing partners(willingly or not). Either me and the woman jump the broom or stay childless(me). However, in my situation, many women already have kids, so I don't think about being in such a situation.
If it works for you or anyone else, then go for yours . To each one's own..
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