2. "lol @ the nerds here being approached by women." In response to Reply # 0
on topic, HELL YES. i wish a cute broad would (if i was single which im not) holla @ me, oh yes boo we going to red lobster because you have balls & i like a woman w/ balls (no pause big enough for that statement)
MrThomas43423 Member since Jul 03rd 2002 67613 posts
Thu Feb-19-15 01:51 PM
3. "depends on what they look like" In response to Reply # 0
i think that's the general rule. most guys would run with the holla if they're attracted to her. some guys would run with the holla even if they weren't. --------------------------------------- it's true what they say...people are strange, when you're strangers.
-DJ R-Tistic- Member since Nov 06th 2008 51986 posts
Thu Feb-19-15 02:09 PM
7. "Not more inclined. It all depends on if I'd be into em anyway" In response to Reply # 0
And how aggressively she comes off. A few have almost played it friendly, while some almost seem like they're spitting game at me. But most of the ones I've dated came from me approaching, even if they gave me a sign that let me know they were interested.
9. "depends on looks mostly" In response to Reply # 0
who approached who is completely non-issue
now if she's unattractive and she approached me...
aka...what typically happens...then yea...obviously won't date them
i always thought this was odd though...big girls used to approach me damn near regularly and I used to think it was bc they didn't get a lot of attention...but i learned later that they do...it's not always obvious attention but it's definitely there...
as hard up as some women are about men...i'm genuinely shocked most are so afraid to buck that system...i know part of it is they lack tact and fear of the duel-edged double standard...
but with all the women complaining about lack of prospects...it seems like way too few are actually out here trying to do the choosing themselves
another part of it is if women did...they'd all be hollering at the same small subset of men...which already happens...but those men tend to realize just how powerful having options is and opt out or play the game
everybody loses
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18. "No. Rarely ever works out past a few days." In response to Reply # 0 Thu Feb-19-15 04:23 PM by 8-bit
I think most of the women that approach me have some preconceived notion of how I am, and they are usually disappointed so the attraction just withers away.
42. "I've gotten FAR better matches that way." In response to Reply # 29 Sun Feb-22-15 01:38 PM by 8-bit
Some of the WORST "first dates" or whatever I've hd were with women that either approached me first, or had someone hook me up with them. It got to the point where I realized that if I wasn't the initiator, things would always go left. I've had women holler at me, give me their number then refuse to answer or return my FIRST phone call (this was pre-texting). Or they would just not talk. At all. One word answers, poor eye contact, etc.
I think it's because when I holler, they get to see exactly who I am without having time to build up some fairy tale in their heads about how I *might* be. I'm a little eccentric, so it matters.
22. "RE: Men, are you more inclined to date women that approach you?" In response to Reply # 0
Depends on the woman, personality, conversation, looks, over all demeanor. Its intriguing to be approach by a woman for sure, where it goes from there depends on how well we hit it off and of there is physical attraction
39. "yes, even in high school" In response to Reply # 31
If I was interested in you, you would definitely know it. If you didn't reciprocate? oh you ain't feeling me? fine, it costs you nothing, pay me no mind. Which RARELY happened.
Everyone isn't for everybody to begin with I just accepted very early that other people had the right to reject me like I had the right to reject people for I didn't feel any attraction.
I actually expressed my interest in someone a while ago and got turned down. Did it hurt? YES I really did want to get to know them better but I live by the saying "you only get one good time to reject me". Now I'm grateful they did that because I'm now interested in someone else and that possibility looks like a much better fit for me.
Most of the women I've been with over the years approached me first. You have to be confident to make that approach, plus it takes the "am I harassing an uninterested girl" pressure off of me, lol.
I like that she shows initiative, it's a little flattering, she shows herself as outgoing, we have a good chance to make a connection and it establishes a baseline level of interest that sometimes isn't there when things go the other way. I've taken a lot of girls out who basically said yes because they didn't want to say no. That always turns out to be a waste of time.
It doesn't even have to be a holler, just give me some sort of clear-ish sign rather than being standoffish with your friends or burying your nose in your phone all night. Just be a little loose, a little outgoing, show me a little interest in some subtle way.
And you will know MY JACKET IS GOLD when I lay my vengeance upon thee.
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