but I feel like I date the wrong guys sometimes. like every other aspect of our relationship could be cool but then, sex will be just okay. no live wires, some sparks but meh. i can be vocal about what I want or need but perhaps it's a hard bridge to cross for most?
even cats that say they're into that but then it's still pretty lukewarm...
pay me no mind, i'm just sitting here frisky and frustrated
14. "If u like a lot of fetish play then you might need to be active in an on..." In response to Reply # 10
>i bite, scratch (within reason) > >always try to up the ante with other positions > >usually profess my love for bondage, spanking, choking etc. >within the first couple of dates > > >my sex can last for hours but lately some of these new dudes >are good for like 20 min max > >and then i'm just getting props > >*eye roll* > >
or offline community that promotes that. Reply #2 might be of some help.
Do you talk about sex together? Can you kind of bluntly encourage him to do more? Like, "I really love when you kiss my neck. I wish you'd do it longer." Then when he does, tell him not to stop, tell him where to kiss you, etc. Make sure you reward him and he should get the picture.
It worked for me anyway, to just flat out ask for what I want.
If he can't handle talking about it though... probably a lost cause. I wish you luck.
"You can take an African out of Africa, but you can't take Africa out of the African" Afro-Americana/Afro-Caribbana/Afro-Latino unite. We are ALL Black!
"You can take an African out of Africa, but you can't take Africa out of the African" Afro-Americana/Afro-Caribbana/Afro-Latino unite. We are ALL Black!
24. "Are you openly discussing your interests before they " In response to Reply # 0
Express theirs? I've learned that guys will be on some Mr. Me Too Yeah, I like this Yeah, I do that But when it comes time for it It never happens
I've just learned to be reserved Until they fully articulate what they like/dislike My issue is that you can't teach Assertiveness and aggressiveness You either have it or you don't
30. "most men who like you dont wanna hurt you" In response to Reply # 0
So pulling your hair and trying to shove his cock thru your back may not work.
Either get a friend with benefits who gives it to you like you want or accept the guy your with and his love making style...long as you catch a nut on a regular basis it should all come out in the wash
77. "LOL I ain't never been to no dude's job" In response to Reply # 75
I like my beaus staying employed ya dig?
neither have I done a friend's apt (didn't think most friends would be cool with you smashing all willy nilly) but I could see the idea being modified with a hotel/motel room. Which is then, yeah been there done that.
"i wanna hug all u idiotic bastards & then set you all on fire" -Bin
67. "this is sad but, i've come across it too" In response to Reply # 0 Fri Feb-13-15 07:41 AM by Crash Bandacoot
niggas aint as live as what they may portray. could be a number of different variables that come into play, which is in and of itself sad. you shouldn't have to venture to another message board or another community just to get a good passionate (not necessarily bondage) fuck...
i blame external factors, weak mindedness, too much porn, etc.
70. "Sounds like your dealing with the wrong dudes. Simple as that." In response to Reply # 0
You can't turn one of these domesticated, nice dudes into a wild animal... just ain't happening.
My (real) advice: Leave the pretty boys, the "good on paper" dudes and the sensitive lightskinned dudes alone, and keep your eyes open for that live dude that's around you.
Printer-friendly copy 
Email this topic to a friend
General Discussion
