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bonitaapplebaum71481
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Mon Jan-26-15 07:25 PM

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"how do you teach people how to treat you?"


  

          

I'll admit that most times I'm rather passive and I have the patience to eat a lot of shit but if I wanted to change that, how would that go?

In recent months, I've been more honest and direct about my feelings but I'm really trying to avoid the angry black woman route. However, I'd love to be treated with as much consideration and respect as I employ to others.

Is there a way to successfully navigate such potentially awkward social waters? And how does one go about it without reading the riot act to every single person possible?



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accept no bullshit, shorts or losses
Jan 26th 2015
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Cut em off until they act right.
Jan 26th 2015
2
Not giving a shit when they show they are not worth giving a shit about
Jan 26th 2015
3
Learn the art of disagreeing with people without it being an argument
Jan 26th 2015
4
youve gotta establish boundaries and limits. let no man or woman
Jan 26th 2015
5

Binlahab
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Mon Jan-26-15 07:28 PM

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1. "accept no bullshit, shorts or losses "
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And immd correct anybody who dares.

Like...asap. Right when its hot and fresh on your mind.

That right there you just did or said? That hurt my feelings. Because ______. I don't appreciate that because _________. Don't do that any more.

If they don't like it cut their ass off until they get right or permanently if they are consistent line steppers

You need to make you the priority in your world. You and your kids. Everybody else is.

Good luck


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BlassFemur
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Mon Jan-26-15 07:31 PM

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2. "Cut em off until they act right."
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Mon Jan-26-15 07:32 PM by BlassFemur

  

          

if they don't, they ain't worth it.

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8-bit
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Mon Jan-26-15 07:35 PM

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3. "Not giving a shit when they show they are not worth giving a shit about"
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Some people just aren't worth investing any energy into.

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Buddy_Gilapagos
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Mon Jan-26-15 07:39 PM

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4. "Learn the art of disagreeing with people without it being an argument"
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One of the things I've learned how to do as I've gotten older is the able to disagree with people strongly without it being an argument or a big deal.

I've notice that people hate to disagree or confront or raise issues whether professionally or socially.

Or people are the other extreme and take every disagreement to world war 3 like some people are suggesting to you already.

I think there is a middle road where you can be direct, get what you want, without being that person.


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mikediggz
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Mon Jan-26-15 07:54 PM

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5. "youve gotta establish boundaries and limits. let no man or woman"
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cross them without at least mentioning it to them. it will get easier and more natural for you as you go along. before u know it ppl will recognize not to step to you on no bullshit because they will be able to tell u aint tryna hear it.

  

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