not talking about a marriage breakup, but a bf/gf breakup.
i guess these breakups seem different than pre-35 breakups bc you figure both parties know what they want and know themselves well enough to choose the right partner for some real longevity. also, bs levels tend to be much lower.
also, that shit just sounds super-devastating. like, damn, i'm still not getting it right???
11. "you thought i was being snarky but i wasn't" In response to Reply # 6
> >you must REAAALLLLLYYYY get on a nigga's nerves cause I don't >see no reason why you don't have no steady dude. > >yes, i'm very annoying.
from the little bit of time i've spent around you, you seemed cool as fuck yeah, we bumped into each other a few times in LA and i bought you a drink on two separate occasions yeah, i be at allllll the functions, boo
>If you was a dude with them quals i'd DEF say you was a bit >light in the loafers. > >what does light in the loafers mean?
a pejorative for homosexual
but it be women like you who i wonder why they aint got no man like daaaaaamn, SHE be going to sleep crying into her pillow every night? not tears of ecstacy neither
as we've gotten older and married off me and my potna's have come up with a handful of reasons why chicks be single (and thirsty) passed 35
25. "RE: so why you never tried to holla?" In response to Reply # 18
>if im such a great catch??? > >lol
i keep okp and real life separate but a buncha shit i do in real life i run across okps (very) often i had a girlfriend at the time anyway
>are we fb friends? > >i cant recall what you look like and that makes me sad.
nope. i dont do FB you would never know what i look like 10 maybe 30 mins at a bar/on a scene chopping it up about whatever like 5-10 years ago i doubt you'd remember me but when i lived in LA i would be alllll over from San Diego to Thousand Oaks and i like smart+black girls so you tend to stick out when in a crowd
>anyway, i got a boo currently. and he is fucking awesome. he's >just not my man officially. >
hey this is good shit and nice to hear i always like to see ppl happy in relationships even if they aint married with kids just be happy with another individual (could be same sex/gender, i aint trippin) because it makes for a fuller life IMHO
40. "it sound like these dudes be playing you" In response to Reply # 39
>a few reasons on his end but im not putting his biz out >there. > >plus we still are kinda brand new. decided on exclusivity >super early and now there's this gap between exclusivity and >committed relationship.
i was never the one to play with emotions like that but i knew dudes who did that wack shit just be upfront and tell her she not the only one and yall just having fun
yall "been together" a month yet?
sounds like he on parole or living in a halfway house and that's why he cant commit full throttle
52. "no snark but fuck you." In response to Reply # 51
just kidding i just like how that sounded.
i dont claim him. im single, but i am involved with someone. hes a great guy but he might not be ready for me and i dont think there's any ill will or trickery on his end. thats all i'll say about that for now.
34. "yeah, she NEEDS TO MAKE HIM CLAIM HER" In response to Reply # 30
>see... that's part of the problem.
i used to run that shit you'd THINK i was your man by the way i treated you but i would never ever EVER talk about no longevity shit and you always were introduced as "my friend"
i can see dude marrying some other chick on memorial day weekend and suzy be all surprised and hurt
niggas be liking to hold on to their lil jokers until after a nigga play his big joker
19. "you one miserable ass cat. some grandparents die together." In response to Reply # 16
>it's not really a cop out. it's the ability to understand. > >you're born alone. you die alone. >
like same time or within hours/days apart there are MANY old ppl that were married for 40+ years before their spouse died then at 70/80 they just ride out the rest of their years til they see their mate in heaven
31. "im going to admit that i agree with you" In response to Reply # 27
my grandad had HOES used to get pissy drunk and pull his shotgun out and point it at my gramma she'd be holed up in a corner of the house and call somebody to come save her he never physically beat her tho she stayed they were together for 50+ years before she died last year his health aint too good now either
but i know plenty of other "old school" marriages like this
i say the SAME THING, "women back then had no options" there was no raising a kid on your own by cleaning white folks floors these days, women make six figs AND STILL get child support from the daddy!
there is no shame in today's society a woman can come out with a sex tape and her stock goes UP not down crazy shit, huh???
>i imagine life 'back then' was different. > >options, opportunities, access. women in the workforce. > >back then, women put up with a lot more. > >men got away with a lot more. > >married people were miserable. > >shit is different. > >a woman will leave your wack ass in a minute and do her own >thing - at least one that's worth a damn. > >and men? > >people come into your life for seasons at a time. > >in theory, marriage is just be the longest one. > >my parents split after 20+ years. > >the love is still there but the relationship isn't. > >it took me a while to understand how that could happened, but >i do now.
13. "I imagine it would be harder for women than men at that age" In response to Reply # 0
>not talking about a marriage breakup, but a bf/gf breakup. > >i guess these breakups seem different than pre-35 breakups bc >you figure both parties know what they want and know >themselves well enough to choose the right partner for some >real longevity. also, bs levels tend to be much lower. > >also, that shit just sounds super-devastating. like, damn, i'm >still not getting it right??? > >this aint about me btw.
14. "It's much easier to break up with a woman now that I'm north of 35" In response to Reply # 0
At least mentally. This ship is sailing... if she comes and starts fucking with the operation of this ship then she's walking the plank. At 25 I didn't have that mentality, but at 36 I have no time for shenanigans.
29. "Definitely. I've had much better relationships after 30 than before" In response to Reply # 21 Fri Jan-16-15 02:30 PM by 8-bit
Ironically, a big part of that is my changed attitude. Because I know that I can just walk away immediately from a bad relationship and go find a new one, I can love harder now. I don't have to hold anything back, or worry about being hurt (been there, done that... not so bad in the long run). If we break up, at least we had some good times. When I was younger, breakups were hard because I went into them thinking things would last.
SimplyHannah Member since Aug 09th 2009 7226 posts
Sat Jan-17-15 05:24 AM
45. "Because they're picky " In response to Reply # 0
And have the right to be. Pickings are already slim period when it comes to finding quality men, so I imagine at that age that the pool gets even smaller. And even with that in mind, they're still prolly waiting on their handsome mister 6 six figures with a gentlemen twist.
i dunno it was a long drawn out breakup since we lived together and were together for a long time and had been figuring out our lives while we were together. it's weird being single. sometimes fun sometimes just eeh. as a guy it should be more fun but i'm an introvert and an artist so i'm not locking down the professional pool and don't really feel like dealing with that dynamic again. traveling is easier by myself at least
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