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Airbreed
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"Dear light-skinned sisters. I'm sorry for all the evil I did."
Thu Jan-15-15 10:59 AM by Airbreed

  

          

http://www.chicagonow.com/six-brown-chicks/2015/01/dear-light-skinned-sister-im-sorry-for-all-the-evil-i-did/

Dear Light Skinned Sisters,

I would like to offer a sincere apology to all of my beautiful light skinned sisters.

I’ve always hated discrimination. I think to classify and treat people differently because of race, gender, or sexual orientation is ignorance at its best. Most people would agree.

What most people won’t admit is when they are the perpetrator of prejudice.

I don’t consider myself to be racist at all. However, I am guilty of being prejudiced towards my own people. As a darker skinned black woman, most would expect me to have horror stories of how I was mistreated because of my skin color. While I do have some stories of discrimination, I can’t omit the fact that I have held unfavorable beliefs about women of a lighter persuasion.

For years I have hated you and treated you differently simply because your skin was lighter than mine. As a child, I would cry to my mom that I was too black, my hair was too nappy and my lips were too big. I didn’t consider myself pretty.

Therefore, more often than not, I judged you unfairly. I believed that you were seen as having flawless skin, the best hair and prettier features. I assumed that because some people put you on a pedestal, you too would automatically think that you were better than me.

Therefore, before even giving us a chance to form any type of relationship, I already had my guard up. Growing up I had two token light-skinned friends. However for the most part, a light-skinned woman would make me see red and I don’t mean red-bone.

When I was pregnant with my first daughter, I even prayed that she wouldn’t come out light. I didn’t want to run the risk of being jealous of my own flesh and blood.

I saw you as my enemy because I felt you were my greatest competition. Any male that I was attracted to would probably overlook me to see you. I hated myself because I wasn’t you.

For that reason, I hated you even more.

If I could cheat with your man, I would. If I could steal your job, I would. Any time I had the opportunity to outshine the brightness of your skin, I took it.

In my mind those were just some of the ways I could pay you back on behalf of all my dark skinned sisters who had ever felt slighted. Even as I write this, I realize how completely ridiculous this was.

I didn’t want to be judged by my skin color but by my character. I didn’t realize then that my warped perception was indeed a character FLAW.

There was no exact event that caused a shift in my thinking. I guess I finally realized that we as women have more commonalities than differences. Life experiences don’t discriminate based on skin color. It’s through these life experiences that I’ve formed genuine bonds that weren’t based on shade.

Perhaps the more I began to love myself, the less room there was for the hatred of others.

When complexion conversations arise, I may joke that I believe darker berries are sweeter. However, on a more serious note I totally believe that regardless of shade, we are all from the same tree!

With Love,

Shemeka Michelle

  

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White supremacy and Willie Lynch.
Jan 15th 2015
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of COURSE her name is Shemeka....
Jan 15th 2015
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RE: of COURSE her name is Shemeka....
Jan 15th 2015
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A bit overwrought no?
Jan 15th 2015
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LoL...And colorism is STILL a thing that privileges lighter skinned ppl
Jan 15th 2015
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I do not believe this to be true at all
Jan 15th 2015
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      LoL, as if "corporate America" is the definitive measure of colorism but...
Jan 15th 2015
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      what privileges are you talking about then?
Jan 15th 2015
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           Are you serious
Jan 15th 2015
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                damn, gotta work twice as hard as twice as hard
Jan 15th 2015
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                I stand corrected
Jan 15th 2015
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                Thanks for this link : - )
Jan 15th 2015
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      darker skin girls more likely to be suspended, have "bad attitudes"
Jan 15th 2015
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lol
Jan 15th 2015
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this is...weird.
Jan 15th 2015
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im glad the underlying message is one of growth on her part.
Jan 15th 2015
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how light do you have to be to enjoy light skint privilege?
Jan 15th 2015
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LoL, I'd consider you light-skinned & maybe your friend too : - )
Jan 15th 2015
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      i have never noticed any favors given to me
Jan 15th 2015
19

Hitokiri
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1. "White supremacy and Willie Lynch."
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sigh.

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GHNO
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Thu Jan-15-15 11:08 AM

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2. "of COURSE her name is Shemeka...."
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bet she got a lightskinned man doe....

  

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imperial
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Thu Jan-15-15 12:51 PM

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5. "RE: of COURSE her name is Shemeka...."
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The nicest most wonderful person I dated in my life was a dark skinned Jamaican sister named Shameka.
I tell you this because this is all I have to contribute to this post.

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3. "A bit overwrought no? "
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Thu Jan-15-15 12:17 PM

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4. "LoL...And colorism is STILL a thing that privileges lighter skinned ppl "
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over dark-skinned people.

This chick being petty will NOT be understood as some 'both sides, they do it too' bullshit.

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John Forte
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6. "I do not believe this to be true at all"
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I haven't seen a higher percentage of light-skinned people advance in corporate America.

  

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no_i_cant_dance
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10. "LoL, as if "corporate America" is the definitive measure of colorism but..."
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I'd like to see a study tho considering studies have been done showing that light-skinned Black people got jobs/interviews over dark-skinned Black people w/ the same credentianls.



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John Forte
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11. "what privileges are you talking about then?"
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I refuse to believe light-skinned people enjoy privileged status in the black community in 2015.

  

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12. "Are you serious"
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http://newsone.com/2000618/light-skin-vs-dark-skin/

A 2006 University of Georgia study showed that employers prefer light-skinned black men to dark-skinned men, regardless of their qualifications. We found that a light-skinned black male can have only a Bachelor’s degree and typical work experience and still be preferred over a dark-skinned black male with an MBA and past managerial positions,” said Matthew S. Harrison in 2006, then a doctoral student in applied industrial organizational psychology at Georgia.


http://thegrio.com/2011/12/21/americans-rank-mixed-race-people-ahead-of-blacks-socially/
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15. "damn, gotta work twice as hard as twice as hard"
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John Forte
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16. "I stand corrected"
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no_i_cant_dance
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17. "Thanks for this link : - ) "
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But damn @ that study, it's worse than I'd imagined.

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13. "darker skin girls more likely to be suspended, have "bad attitudes""
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http://www.nytimes.com/2014/12/11/us/school-discipline-to-girls-differs-between-and-within-races.html?partner=rss&emc=rss&_r=1



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7. "lol"
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8. "this is...weird."
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9. "im glad the underlying message is one of growth on her part."
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our community (still) has so many issues...all we can try and do is tackle them head on and realize where our thinking has gone wrong

  

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14. "how light do you have to be to enjoy light skint privilege?"
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i'm asking for a dark yellowish red brown friend.

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18. "LoL, I'd consider you light-skinned & maybe your friend too : - ) "
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As a light-skinned Black person were you ever given favor over a dark-skinned non-Black person of color (like a person that's Desi or a Filipino person )??

Idk, that's a weird ? nvm lol

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SHAstayhighalways
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19. "i have never noticed any favors given to me"
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much less for my skin tone
in elementary and jhs i got in trouble more than most kids dark & light
my job situations are always shitty so i've never tried to advance to find out if i'd be given favor over others in that dept

so idk
just wondering

lol

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