In my mind, I've always wanted to be a housewife/stay at home mom...3-5 children me being the ultimate mom/wife PTA, Scouts, Room Mom, fresh baked cookies and milk for the kids when they get home from school, fun activiites for the kids that aren't in school and a husband that was in awe of how awesome a mother and wife I was...doing all these things for our kids and still able to turn the freak on!
but that is not my reality...I really just wanted to know if you men folk think about these things.
3. "Shyt lol we need that double income" In response to Reply # 0
this ain't 1960 where 50 k annual is Don Draper lifestyle lol. It would be nice to be a stay-at-home dad or have her be a stay at home but that ain't my life.
especially if I make enough money to cover when she's not working.
we did that for a while when she was home schooling. it was great for keeping her involved with school, cooking, and all of that. after a while though, she wanted to work.
13. "It would be nice if one of stayed at home. 50s style families were effi..." In response to Reply # 0
if nothing else. What sounds more practical:
1. one person staying at home dealing with and caring for love ones (kids and aging parents)
or
2. Two people out working and hiring two separate set of people who are in it for a paycheck to looking after your kids and aging parents.
Even more efficient is scenario 1 and having younger grandparents who can contribute to watching the kids and then when the kids get older everyone can pitch in to looking after the aging grandparents.
********** "Everyone has a plan until you punch them in the face. Then they don't have a plan anymore." (c) Mike Tyson
14. "My wife wanted to stay at home for YEARS. I got a promotion and started" In response to Reply # 0
making enough that we could handle it (along with me playing more music gigs.) When we had our second kid she took a leave of absence from work after the normal maternity leave, so she was at home for 9 months. She couldn't stand it - managing the kids and house and holding it down for me while I was doing working/playing gigs was WAY more work than she expected. (Actually going from one to two kids was way more work than both of us expected anyways, regardless of someone staying at home or not.)
15. "false dichotomy: being at home is work too" In response to Reply # 0
but not to OKP it up....i'll pretend you said "outside job or nah?"
methinks the correct answer is always "whatever works for you"
i'm fortunate enough to earn at a level which covers us and we have a sufficiently comfortable lifestyle. we've been doing the whole "one primary breadwinner" (she tutors kids for additional income) deal for 14 years now and it has worked for us. neither of us would change a second of it
in either case you gotta deal with the challenges the choice you make bring (e.g. less income vs. less time with kids)
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